Guys Explain How To Know When They 'Like You, Like You'

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If you're anything like me when it comes to dating — and I suspect most women are — you're likely overthinking a guy's every move as you play detective trying to figure out just how into you he actually is. 

When the truth of the matter is that if he's really interested you, won't have to go digging for hardcore clues. There will be subtle differences in his behavior that set him apart from men who just want sex ... or guys who are basically your brother.

But still, us women, especially under the circumstances that he's not into us, will try to keep reading a situation that just isn't happening. We call our best girlfriends for advice, and then we call our best guy friends to get the "male POV", instead of taking a page from the book (literally) He's Just Not That Into You and taking the damn hint. (Yeh, can you tell I'm projecting? It's my life story told by this Sex and the City episode.)

I can't help it and if you actually are doing the same thing, neither can you. Or at least I don't think so. It seems almost innate to overthink, rather than accept the reality. No matter how many times we go through the motions, we're going to ask around a bazillion times more until we get validation for these feelings we created. Does he like me? Check yes or no

And that's why I know you're wondering about some of the tell-tale signs that a guy is into you. What does he do differently to make sure you absolutely know he likes you? Especially in what has come to be known as the millennial dating scene.

So you know what? I asked 8 men what they do and how they act when they're genuinely interested in a girl. Or, in the words of Arnold, via Hey Arnold! ... when they (guys) "like you, like you." 


Which brings us to the real-life signs (as exhaustingly pulled from the mind of millennial men) that you can't miss, no matter how hard you may try, that a guy likes you.


"Depends on the guy. Some get extra thirsty and do too much and get annoying. Some flirt, some are blunt and mannish. Me personally, I make small talk and try to figure out the type of girl she is & see where her mind is at. Then it'll evolve to flirting, but I like to build comfort and kind of friendship. Never get over aggressive or come on too strong." —Jacob, 25

"We try to make her laugh and do little things like constantly check up on her 2-3 times throughout the day to let her know we're thinking about her. Little subtle stuff." — Sam, 25

"Show a lot more attention." —Kevin, 

"I don't really have any tactics. I've never really tried to get someone's attention. Since adulthood, I've always just told someone when I liked them and I'd only focus on keeping and holding their attention and growing closer.

From just making myself available to them and making the effort to spend time with them to the small things to special occasions to going above and beyond just because.

But I'm kind of a bad person to ask, I've never really been on the dating scene. I've only had two actual girlfriends and both relationships just happened organically." —Dey'Shawn, 23

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"They go the extra mile to make sure you're a part of their day. I mean I really don't know how to answer — buying flowers, good morning text — the list goes on." —Tory, 27

"They make meaningless conversation randomly just to be engaged in conversation with you and when they do so, they seem totally present." —Michael, 30

"Hmmmmm. Well, he texts and calls you consistently, calls u names like punk and big Head, always finds a way to talk to you. Asks you questions about your past trying to get to know you. Also, [asks about] favorite things to do and eat." —Brandon, 26

"So the first thing I can for sure say is body language. If he's more open and comfortable around you, he fasho digging you.

Like turning his whole body towards you when talking and making constant eye contact are some signs. Acting interested in the things you're interested in (even if he really doesn't give AF about it). lol noticing subtle shit, like hair color or hair style change, new shoes, etc.

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You're gonna think you're Eddie Murphy reincarnated because he's gonna laugh at all your wack ass jokes lol. Even the ones that aren't funny. Just overall being way more attentive lol." —Clay, 25

"Pay attention to every little detail. take a mental note, and randomly surprise her with her favorite candy, flowers, dinner, movie, etc. Take a genuine investment in her life, support her goals and aspirations. Make it clear that you aren't just trying to see how long before you get in her pants." —Shuntaye, 26

With seven different men and seven different responses, there's one big takeaway, ladies, and it's this:

He will go out of his way to make an effort — that includes time with you, time to talk to you, and time to get to know you.

So don't waste your time if he's not doing that. Put down the phone, stop texting your friends asking for advice, and move on. Someone who "likes you, likes you" might be waiting. 


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