7 Stealthy Ways To Uncover Someone’s TRUE Personality

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7 Stealthy Ways To Find Out Someone’s Personality Type

You can know someone for years and never really know them. 

Sometimes it takes a lot for someone to show their true colors; uncovering someone's true personality is not as easy as it seems!

When it comes down to it, our personalities are far more complex than it seems. Sometimes it seems as if we barely even know ourselves, let alone the ever-changing people around us!


If you can be aware of someone's true colors earlier on, you can assess how and where that person fits into your life. The pain of knowing someone for years, only to find out that they aren't the person you want to surround yourself with is an AWFUL feeling. 

There are several ways to analyze whether the people around you are enriching you, or simply not worth your time. When you take the time to pay attention to someone's personality, you save yourself the trouble of wasting your time on someone who isn't good for you!

So how do you find out someone's personality traits? According to Rose D'Cruz on Quora, the answer is simple: Provoke them.

The Japanese believe that there are three sides of nature in a human. This line of thought probably comes from James Clavell's 1975 novel Shogun: “It's a saying they have, that a man has a false heart in his mouth for the world to see, another in his breast to show to his special friends and his family, and the real one, the true one, the secret one, which is never known to anyone except to himself alone, hidden only God knows where.”

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So, you could unravel his real nature by:

1. Seeing how they treat people around them. Relatives, friends, waitress. Observe.

2. Argue with them. No, really. Start an argument out of something and see how they respond to it. Are they remaining calm? Losing it? Observe their anger. Is it volatile or temperamental?

3. Observe their relationship with their spouse/ partner. Too domineering or blissful?

4. Say no. Randomly refuse to help them out whenever they ask a favor from you. Don’t give a yes every time. Will they be able to handle no for an answer?

5. Try pulling away a little and see how they react. This requires you to be passive aggressive. Do not overdo it. Are they mirroring your actions and pulling back or acting casually?

6. Ask their opinions about the person they dislike and the reason why. There’s the juicy part. Do not ask them about someone they like. Rather, tell them to describe their ex. Do they badmouth them or still respect their ex(s)?

7. Does your dog hate them? Often times, animals and babies pick up someone’s intentions faster. Weird, but makes sense.

Pretty much covered. Good luck executing it.

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