How To Give Your Man EXACTLY What He Wants For Valentine’s Day

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Make his fantasy come true.

Ladies, let’s be honest — you don’t have a Valentine’s Day present for your man yet, do you?

Because what do women get men for Valentine’s Day? Men have a whole laundry list of easy V-Day gift clichés they can use (roses, jewelry, chocolates), but women don’t have it so easy.

Americans spend over $19 BILLION on Valentine’s Day gifts every year, but can anyone name a Valentine’s Day gift that men actually enjoy?

54% of women bought their man candy in 2015. (They can eat candy whenever they want.) 56% gave their man a greeting card. (Destined for the recycle bin the following week.) Men don’t really want diamond rings, couple massages, or singing teddy bears either.

There’s actually only ONE thing that men REALLY want on Valentine’s Day.



Yes, the choice is always up to the woman (and the man damn well better be worth it), but sex is the ultimate no-brainer Valentine’s gift for a guy.

But how do you actually give sex as a present?

The easy answer is lingerie.

According to sales reports, North Americans spend over well over a billion dollars on lingerie every year, particularly around Valentine’s Day.

However, isn’t lingerie really just the wrapping more than the gift?

You might be able to rock out a new bra and some garters like a Victoria’s Secret model, but if, once that wrapping is removed, you both start in on the same ol’ boring “bimonthly date night sex” — what’s the point? Aren’t you just re-gifting him something he’d get anyway in a fancy new package?


Valentine’s Day is supposed to be the sexiest day of the year.


This year, don’t just settle for giving him the gift of seeing you in lingerie. This year, you can actually give him the sex he’s looking for and it can be just as easy (if not easier) than ordering him flowers.

Use this Valentine’s Day to present him with the kind of sex that you KNOW he’s interested in, but doesn’t know how to ask for it. (OR the sex he never stops asking about, but you’ve been apprehensive.)

But how? How do you give him something NEW in the bedroom without turning the evening into a complete disaster?

Because no one wants to spend their Valentine’s Day in the emergency room because they wiped out trying to do a Kama Sutra headstand for the first time ever or got hot candle wax somewhere sensitive.

Fortunately, there is a solution.

If you want to take your Valentine’s sex game to the next level this year, one of the easiest answers is The Fantasy Box.

Sounds fun, right? The Fantasy Box is a subscription service that’s designed to hold your hand as you venture into new sexual territory. Their experts create exciting, curated sexy experiences that are delivered right to your doorstep.

What does that mean? It means that they do all the work. (Thank God.)

The Fantasy Box offers a variety of different boxes designed around specific kinds of sexual fantasies —you pick what kind of fantasy you want to act out and they send you everything you need.

Their boxes come with all the gear you’ll require — toys, lingerie, lubricants, massage oils — frank, friendly “role cards” that thoroughly explain the fantasy, the set-up, and the execution.

Here’s why services like Fantasy Box are such a godsend around Valentine’s Day. Chances are, your man wants to “try” something that neither of you have ANY experience with.

Just to give you some examples, in a 2014 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, researchers broke down some of the most common sexual fantasies for men.

64% were interested in trying anal sex with a woman.

46% of men wanted to be tied up during sexual activity.

60% of men wanted to dominate someone sexually and 53% wanted to be dominated sexually.

So, we know that there are common fantasy scenarios that men WANT to try, but how do you get started?

You don’t want to both pretend that you know what you’re doing. Or nervously walk into a sex store and haphazardly buy all the materials you THINK you need. (That’s how you end up with cheap cinnamon-flavored edible panties that NO ONE wants to get anywhere near their mouths.)

But fantasy subscription services make it easy to try something new.

For example, as we learned from that study, 64% of men will definitely appreciate one of Fantasy Box’s most popular boxes — Backdoor 101.


These services know what it’s like when couples venture into unknown territory for the first time, so their boxes address everything — how to prepare, how to make things less icky, how to stop worrying and make the experience hot AF.

(They also have playful boxes, costume boxes, “control boxes,” if you want to take your man to see the new 50 Shades of Grey movie this Valentine’s Day and let him channel his inner Christian.)

More than anything, ladies, you need to stop thinking of lingerie as the ultimate sexy gift for men on Valentine’s Day.

Lingerie is great, but all it does is build up anticipation.

If you don’t have anything special planned for once the wrapping is removed, you might as well just get him a Build-a-Bear.

However, if you want him to remember this Valentine’s Day FOREVER (and if you wouldn’t mind having some memorable, mind-blowing sex yourself), put a little effort into trying something new in the bedroom this February 14th.

Fulfill some long-time desires, explore your sexual boundaries, and, if you need a little extra help (or aren’t sure what to do), order a Fantasy Box and let them set the mood and handle the logistics.

It’s just as easy — heck, even easier — than buying a new bustier online and it will be the best Valentine your man will ever receive. (He’ll never stop thanking you.)

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