Your Husband Is The Homewrecker — Not The Other Woman

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There's this really terrible idea out there when it comes to cheating. 

Somehow through all the insanity and heartbreak that happens with infidelity, we shift the entirety of the blame onto the other woman. We call her a slut, a homewrecker and tear into her to life to find some proof that she's the sole person responsible for the affair. 

While it's entirely understandable to hate the woman who seemed to take down your picture-perfect relationship completely on her own, it can lead to some bad decision making. Particularly when it comes to forgiving your man. 


The cute thing about men is, they don't like to take responsibility when they've done something wrong — especially when it's something that hurt you. 

They have this hero complex they've been wanting to live up to since they were kids, and becoming the villain in your life is something they to not want accept at any costs. Which makes them very willing to lie. 

They'll be more than happy to shift the focus on to the mistress, and paint her as this seductive creature who knew just how to tempt them in a way that they couldn't refuse. They'll tell you how they tried to break it off millions of times but she threaten to tell so they couldn't. 

While not all men are this emotionally immature, a lot of them are. And if they play their cards right, you'll forget about hating them and just focus on hating her. 


Cheating is a tough trauma to navigate. And though we all have our own ways of getting through it, it's important that you don't let anyone off the hook for hurting you without them fully acknowledging what they've done. 

He was just as responsible for this as she was. No one held a gun to his head and told him to do. He cheated on you with his own free will.

He made a choice, and don't you forget that. 

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