11 Things Deeply Respected People Have Cut Out Of Their Lives Entirely

Truly respected people ditch toxic habits that damage their integrity.

Written on Jul 06, 2025

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Decades of awkwardness compelled me to learn and understand what connects us and what pushes us apart. People make judgements extremely quickly about the kind of person we are: do they respect us or not?

Research has shown that by focusing on respecting yourself and demonstrating respect for others through consistent, positive actions, you can build stronger relationships and earn the respect you desire. There are subtle changes we all can make that impact how others see us, and the most deeply respected people know that respect isn't about what you do — it's also about what you don't tolerate.

Here are eleven things deeply respected people have cut out of their lives entirely:

1. Agreeing with people just to appease them

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If I’m speaking with someone, and they nod along enthusiastically to all that I say, and they rarely disagree, I can’t help but lose interest. This doesn’t mean you need to be combative and unpleasant.

But agreeing to everything and everyone is like adding water to paint. It dilutes who you are in my eyes.

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2. Responding from a place of emotion, not logic

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Many of us talk quickly for many reasons, including being jacked up on coffee and excited about what we’re saying. But the message this often transmits is that you aren’t comfortable with your words. It’s like grabbing a hot cake and throwing it back quickly.

When we give ourselves time to speak, it becomes a lot easier to find the right words, it puts others at ease, and people will have more faith in what we’re saying.

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3. Failing to stay present

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Being attentive to someone in person and listening is not a submissive act. Scrolling your phone while in conversation doesn’t make you look cool. It makes you look like a child. Be there with someone. Demonstrate your interest and be genuinely interested.

Presence has a power to it. This will attract people to you like little else. Research has concluded that improving your attention can make you a more engaged, empathetic, and effective communicator, which in turn leads to stronger social bonds, better relationships, and increased respect from others.

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4. Reacting to everything like it's a threat

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Slowing down, being a fraction smoother, and letting go physically is extremely powerful. It signals comfort in your skin and calms you down, but more than anything, it alters your own perceived self-identity. 

You will realize your natural confidence, and this will be felt. Slowing down your breathing is also part of this. Your thoughts will slow, your intelligence will come through, and your perceived status will rise.

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5. Turning minor stuff into major drama

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I’ve been guilty of this because I can get in my head and over-analyze. Find ways to enjoy yourself, no matter the context. Don’t be the guy who brings the heaviness and sucks the energy out of a room.

This happens when you’re judgmental in mind and spirit. Be light-hearted, and focus on lifting those around you.

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6. Muting their voice when it's time to be heard

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Don’t be afraid to physically relax into a space. This applies more to men than women because it’s a masculine move.

Many of us inadvertently reduce our occupied space to reflect our illusion of insecurity. How you hold yourself physically transmits confidence, and it also reinforces it.

Taking up space, particularly through confident body language and respecting personal boundaries, can positively influence how others perceive you. A 2021 study found that this can contribute to increased respect, improved relationships, and a more positive social environment.

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7. Avoiding high-flame topics

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‘High-flame’ means using courage in your communication and speaking your truth. Being willing to say what others might avoid. This depends on how far into a relationship you are with someone, and different contexts determine the appropriateness of chosen topics.

But if you’re continually avoiding ‘edgier’ issues or tougher words to avoid offending, you will be seen as merely ‘nice.’ That’s ok, but is ‘nice’ the legacy you want to leave?

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8. Talking over someone

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There’s no faster way for me to lose my respect for you than if you’re cutting into my sentences.

A little overlap is ok — we’re human. But do it in the middle of my sentence three times, and I’m looking for the waiter for the bill. It communicates a couple of things.

  1. You’re not listening to me.
  2. You rely on leap-frogging my words to be seen, which shouts: ‘I am not enough!’

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9. Overanalyzing your own thoughts and actions

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Being overly conscious of how I was coming across and what I was saying was a problem for me growing up. When speaking with people, I’d continually judge what I’d said in a bid to be liked.

This self-monitoring meant I was never in the conversation, but rather in my thoughts about the conversation. Ironically, this puts us at even more of a performance disadvantage, and you will lose people.

While self-reflection and self-awareness are beneficial for personal growth, research has found that excessive or overly negative self-analysis can sometimes hinder your social interactions and potentially affect how others perceive and respect you.

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10. Letting criticism trigger you

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It’s easy to believe that being non-reactive to the criticisms of others is a weak move. Surely if someone disrespects us, we need to react — to put them down, to assert our strength?

No. Reacting says this: you aren’t comfortable in your skin, and you have something to protect and to prove.

This approach is rooted in lack, and people sense this instantly. Instead, smile, tease, make light, and move on.

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11. Seeking constant reassurance

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In other words, being needy. Humans are very attuned to neediness in other people. Perhaps we want her to agree to a second date, or we desperately want that client sale.

If we’re reliant on a ‘successful’ outcome, it pollutes our behavior in the moment. We get tight. We take things personally when they don’t go as planned. Our performance is hampered.

It makes us look like we have few options, which immediately decreases our perceived status. This aligns with the concept of outcome independence, where your emotional state and sense of self-worth are not dependent on external validation or the results of a particular situation.

The common thread is the need to get out of our heads and be more in the present flow. But if all the above ideas are in our heads, we will not be calm and present.

So, absorb what I’ve shared, and come back to this often. Allow these ideas to become second nature through practice.

But when you’re out in the ‘field,’ let it all go. Be open to your innate wisdom. You always know what to do next. Relax in the uncertainty of it all. This is how you surprise yourself.

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Alex Mathers is a writer and coach who helps you build a money-making personal brand with your knowledge and skills while staying mentally resilient. He's the author of the Mastery Den newsletter, which helps people triple their productivity.

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