If Any Of These 11 Things Annoy You, You're Likely Very Intimidating To Most People
MAYA LAB | Shutterstock There are two types of people in this world: those who wear their hearts on their sleeves and those who know how to mask their emotions. For many of us, we've learned to have some semblance of control over our facial expressions. That being said, if any of these 11 things annoy you, you're likely to be intimidating to most people.
You don't mean to be cold or scary. Believe it or not, the most intimidating people can oftentimes be the sweetest. That being said, even the most intimidating people in the world struggle to keep their annoyance in check. So, if you happen to snap at those around you, it's likely because of these 11 things.
If any of these 11 things annoy you, you're likely very intimidating to most people:
1. People interrupting you
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If people interrupting you annoys you, you're likely very intimidating to most people. Sure, nobody likes to be interrupted. Especially when someone is already a nervous wreck, the last thing they want to be is thrown off their train of thought. Even so, intimidating people makes their displeasure known in a way that most normal people avoid. From glaring to rolling your eyes, you are your authentic self.
Now, is this slightly rude to do? Of course. However, there's no denying that living in your authentic truth is one of the best things someone can do. According to a 2022 study, living authentically leads to improved well-being. So, even if it's rude, you'd rather make your annoyance known than hide behind fake pleasantness.
2. Lack of punctuality
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Everyone knows that one person who's always late for everything. Whether it's late to work or late to an important event, these people aren't the individuals most of us can count on. Of course, the average person learns to live with their lack of punctuality. Sure, it isn't the most convenient thing to be, but most people don't really have a choice. Despite how much you voice your annoyance, you know these individuals will never change.
That being said, if lack of punctuality annoys you, you're likely to be intimidating to most people. While some may choose to remain silent, you're quick to make your displeasure known. From snappy comments to tense body language, you aren't letting their punctuality slide. Unlike some people, you understand that lack of punctuality isn't just poor behavior, it's a huge sign they don't respect you.
3. Dishonesty or exaggeration
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If there's one thing that's quick to annoy you, it's people who are dishonest. It doesn't matter what their intention is. Whether they meant to spare your feelings or make you feel better. If dishonesty or exaggeration annoy you, you're likely to be intimidating to most people. Sorry to say, but lying has never truly made 90% of things better. As Clinical Psychotherapist Padraic Gibson, D.Psych, explained, "Lying affects self-esteem and emotions, leading to negative psychological consequences."
Still, some people can't help but spin the truth. For the thrill of the story or just because they can't keep their facts straight, some people aren't all that trustworthy. This is why intimidating people are quick to snap at them. Considering how truthful most intimidating people are, it's no surprise that they don't mesh well with dishonesty.
4. Being micromanaged
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Most of you who are intimidating are intimidating simply because you know your power. Not one to be messed with, you're quick to march to your own beat of your drum. That being said, it's no surprise that if being micromanaged annoys you, you're likely very intimidating to most people. No, you don't go out of your way to scare people half to death. However, just because you don't go out of your way doesn't mean you don't intimidate others.
When someone tries to micromanage your every step, you're quick to call them out. With zero hesitation, you stand your ground and maintain your boundaries. For those who aren't as confident or as powerful, this can be a bit scary. Yet, for those on the same wavelength as you, they're quick to respect your need for independence and leave you be.
5. Weak boundaries
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Everyone always talks about how crucial boundaries are. Whether it's boundaries in romantic relationships or boundaries at work, the need for establishing those lines is the basis for any healthy relationship. Thankfully, you know this, which is why if weak boundaries annoy you, you're likely very intimidating to most people. What boundaries people decide to establish is their business.
However, just because it's their business doesn't mean you aren't annoyed. As licensed psychologist Jordan Fiorillo Scotti, Ph.D., pointed out, "Setting and holding boundaries is the best way to create a life we don't need to escape from." This is why you grow annoyed. Unlike others, you understand the consequences of having weak boundaries, which is why you get snappy with others so easily.
6. Gossiping
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Let's be honest, most people love to gossip. Sure, they might not be the first ones to admit it; however, if you spill celebrity tea, the average person is pretty quick to engage. That being said, if gossiping annoys you, you're likely very intimidating to most people. While there's nothing wrong with engaging every blue moon, gossiping constantly is the quickest way to drain the soul.
From tearing others down to engaging in negativity, the last thing someone should want to do is play ball. Thankfully, those who are intimidating refuse to engage, which is why they almost always redirect the conversation.
7. Incompetence or laziness
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Intimidating people are always on top of things. It doesn't matter how busy life gets or how exhausted they are. If you say you're going to do something, you almost always keep your word. This is why if incompetence or laziness annoys you, you're likely intimidating to most people. Unlike others, you understand that your words hold meaning. From what you say to your coworkers to your lovers, the promises you make aren't to be underestimated.
This is why you despise laziness. As psychiatrist Neel Burton M.A., M.D., said, "Some people fear success, and laziness is a way to sabotage themselves." To you, it's easy to view this as a huge sign of weakness, which is why you're quick to not tolerate it, leading people to view you as intimidating.
8. Passive-aggressiveness
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It's pretty hard to be honest about how you feel. Despite how 'easy' most people view it as, saying how sad or hurt you are isn't always an easy pill to swallow. For many people, they were taught that being polite is always the number one option. This is why some people are quick to resort to passive-aggressive words and behavior. In their eyes, they're saying what they really mean without needing to say it at all.
However, this type of behavior doesn't accomplish much and is the quickest way to annoy someone who's pretty intimidating.
9. People who can't keep their emotions in check
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Everyone knows at least one person who can't keep themselves in check. Whether it's oversharing trauma or crying about the smallest inconvenience, these types of individuals can be pretty stressful to deal with. Without them ever meaning to, their behavior is quick to stress those around them out. So, if people who can't keep their emotions in check annoy you, you're likely very intimidating to most people.
It isn't just their emotions that annoy people. It's the fact that those who are emotional can't seem to control it when it counts the most. Especially during an argument, they're quick to weaponize their emotions over others. But rather than entertaining, itnmidating people to give people space and revisit the conversation when both parties are cool. This is crucial, as licensed psychologist Guy Winch, Ph.D., said, "Understand that when your partner gets too overwhelmed, they will not be able to absorb what you say, no matter how right or justified you are in saying it."
10. People who complain too much
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Most people don't want to admit it, but 80% of us complain a bit too much. Whether it's about work or about relationships, there's always something negative to focus on and talk about. And while their frustrations are valid, if people who complain too much annoy you, you're very intimidating to most people. They aren't trying to be shady; however, nobody wants to be around someone super negative.
It doesn't matter what the excuses are. If you are someone who values your peace of mind and sanity, you have a tendency to avoid chronic complainers like the plague.
11. Small talk that's meaningless
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Finally, if small talk that's meaningless annoys you, you're very intimidating to most people. Sure, you might love that person and want to hear what they have to say. However, there's a time and place for anything. In the middle of work or when you're trying to rest isn't the time nor the place. And while many of us realize this, for those who are a bit oblivious, they might not notice until it's pointed out.
However, they shouldn't be too hard on themselves. Many feel the need to engage because silence can be pretty intolerable. Even so, there's no denying that small talk is also frustrating. As psychiatrist Carrie Barron said, when people have meaningful conversations with each other, it tends to boost their mood. So, if the conversation isn't meaningful, intimidating people aren't budging.
Marielisa Reyes is a writer with a bachelor's degree in psychology who covers self-help, relationships, career, family, and astrology topics.
