When A Woman Is Truly In Love, Her Mental & Emotional Energy Changes In 10 Ways
PeopleImages | Shutterstock When a woman falls in love, she changes. Sometimes these changes are for the better: she grows and becomes a better version of herself. Other times, the changes are negative and her light slowly starts to dim.
In a mutually loving relationship, a woman will sparkle with hope and excitement. See, being in love is a scientific process. It happens in the brain, accompanied by changes with hormones and neurotransmitters. And when a woman is in a great relationship, all of that energy shines brightly in a few sweet ways.
10 sweet ways a woman's energy changes when she's truly in love
1. She looks flushed and has more nervous energy
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The exact level of anxious energy a woman may feel when they're truly in love can differ depending on the person, but almost everyone experiences some degree of nervousness at first. While some mistake this nervous energy for a general feeling of anxiety, it’s likely that she feels this way because she's got a lot of adrenaline pumping through her body due to the excitement.
If you're worried about this feeling, Hannah Owens, LMSW, explains that exhibiting these habits around the person you love is normal. “Feeling a romantic interest in somebody can be anxiety-inducing, you don’t know if they reciprocate the feelings, and you’re focused on making a good first impression, which can be nerve-wracking,”
In other words, a woman bringing some nervous energy to the room when she loves someone is normal and can indicate just how interested she is.
3. She is connected to her partner’s emotions
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A woman in tune with her partner will be connected to their emotions. In fact, she may even absorb those emotions. A woman in love will naturally want to be as close to her partner as possible, even to the point of feeling their same emotions and understanding exactly how they feel.
Marriage and family therapist Amanda Turecek shared that this can be particularly prevalent for highly sensitive people (HSP). “Research seems to indicate that certain neurons — mirror neurons — act differently in the brains of HSP than in the brains of non-HSP,” she said. “Mirror neurons kick in to gear in our prefrontal cortex, our area of the brain that also controls things like morality and planning around consequences. They encourage us to imitate others and are more active in the brains of HSPs.”
In other words, highly sensitive people are more likely to imitate those around them. If a woman is an HSP, she may be more likely to absorb emotions from those around her, especially the person she loves most, as that is likely also who she admires the most. This leads to a deep connection and understanding of feelings.
4. She becomes more nurturing
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A woman around the person she loves most may become more nurturing. Scientists have often debated whether women are more nurturing and compassionate than men, something Emma Seppala discussed in UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Magazine.
Seppala noted that women are often measured to have more oxytocin. “Women may at times have higher levels of oxytocin — sometimes called the ‘cuddle hormone’ or ‘love hormone’ because it is linked to bonding, social connection and monogamy,” she said. “It is produced in women during labor and lactation in women and is believed to trigger bonding and nurturing behaviors.”
Whether women are more compassionate than men is still debatable, but based on explanations like these, women have plenty of reasons to be nurturing. Even setting levels of oxytocin aside, many women are nurturing around those they love. Being around the one they love most would surely bring out this reaction.
5. Her life starts to intertwine with his
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Changing to become more like your partner isn’t necessarily advisable, as everyone should strive to maintain their own autonomy and be their own person.
That being said, many women who are in love will make what are sometimes subtle, difficult-to-notice changes to become more like their partners. These changes aren't compromises to who she is, but rather adaptations to make it possible to braid their lives together.
Marty Nemko, PhD, noted that becoming more like your partner is completely normal over time. In fact, it would probably be strange not to. He advocates taking inventory of oneself so you can determine whether or not those changes are things you feel like celebrating.
Over time, a woman’s energy will likely subtly shift to become closer to that of the person she loves the most. Because she spends so much time around that person and is so interested in them, she will naturally lean into their energy and adapt it for her own purposes. Sometimes these changes will be noticeable, and sometimes they’ll be so small you can’t pick them up without paying close attention.
6. She is more focused on her partner's wants and needs
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When a woman loves her partner, she is more in tune with them and what makes them happy. Based on their wants and needs, she will do the things she knows will keep them satisfied. Of course, they will do the same for her, and that reciprocity is what changes her energy for the better.
Susan Krauss Whitbourne, PhD, ABPP, cited a study from Florida State University, which found that “mindfulness in relationships is a key component of being able to take the perspective of your partner. This, in turn, makes partners more compassionate.”
When a woman is focused on her partner, she is more likely to be mindful of them and more aware of her own choices. This awareness benefits everyone in the long run.
7. She feels healthier the closer they become
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If a woman is around the person she loves most, she will want to be physically closer to them, making them emotionally closer as well. Doing things like holding hands, hugging, and touching will bring two people closer together. Her energy will change as she feels closer to her partner, and she will feel loved and cherished.
According to research, “positive aspects of close relationships, such as intimacy and social support, predict better health outcomes, including longer survival following a breast cancer diagnosis, and improved emotional well-being."
If a woman feels close to her partner, it will lead to better health outcomes for both. This will give a woman a brighter, lighter energy. As her physical energy changes, so will her emotional and spiritual energy. She will become a light for those around her.
8. She and her partner share unspoken communication
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When a woman is truly in love, she can often can tell what her partner is thinking without speaking. They will have a form of unspoken communication, like a secret language. For them, it just takes a look to know what the other person is thinking. Words are not required.
This is an important skill, one couples develop without even realizing they're doing it. As experts at The University of Texas write, “Nonverbal communication can make or break a relationship. A single glance can spark an argument, while a simple touch on the shoulder can mend wounded pride."
A woman who can communicate with her partner without words will have a different energy around her. She feels more assured both in who she is and in her relationship. This confidence can be powerful and radiates to everyone around her.
9. She feels more secure
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If a woman is in a relationship where she feels safe and secure physically, she’s likely also to feel that way emotionally. Her energy will shift to quiet confidence and competence because she knows she is taken care of and space is being held for her. This will, in turn, give her the freedom to be who she really is.
See, emotional safety is the foundation of a healthy relationship. The ability to be yourself and to express your feelings helps you become more vulnerable and open so a truly deep connection can be formed.
When a woman is around the person she loves most, she will feel physically and emotionally safe. This sense of security will transform her energy into something more confident and ready for anything. Her energy will be stronger, and so will she.
10. She feels safe being open and vulnerable
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When a woman is truly in love, she won’t be afraid to share how she’s feeling or unpack her baggage because she knows her partner has her back completely. Her energy shifts in a way that makes her more confident and direct.
If a woman feels she can be vulnerable with the person she loves the most, the confidence she gains as a result will transfer to her everyday life. She will have processed her feelings and her past in a safe space
11. She sparkles with excitement
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When a woman is around the person she loves the most, everything will feel more exciting to her. Her future will appear more exciting with her partner in the picture, and she will feel better about herself. This excitement will translate into her energy as she lights up the room and the world around her.
This can feel similar to what some call new relationship energy, which causes excitement over life, like she and the whole world have a sparkle. And when a relationship has this energy as well as stability and mutual respect, that sparkle can last a long time, well past the honeymoon phase.
Mary-Faith Martinez is a writer with a bachelor’s degree in English and Journalism who covers news, psychology, lifestyle, and human interest topics.
