Want Him To Finally Ask You Out? Stop Making These 6 Mistakes

Here's why no one asks you out... and what you can do about it.

By Lorna Poole — Last updated on Dec 23, 2022

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Do you feel like you never get asked out? Never the one who gets chatted up by the cute guy?

It's hard to get asked out or chatted up if you don’t know what you're doing or saying that's putting him off.

You may think you're giving off the right signals, but do you know how men interpret your behavior?

Here are common mistakes you don't want to make.

Here are 6 mistakes to stop making if you want men to ask you out.

1. You act like you're not interested.

Are you afraid of looking desperate or making a fool of yourself? Chances are you're not, but these very thoughts will keep you single every time.

When you act like you’re not interested, men see you as too much work.

2. You pretend you have it all together.

Great social life, a happy family, a good career, and a nice house — your life looks perfect on the outside. But there's just that one thing missing: a boyfriend. You think that you're OK with it, but, deep down, you feel like you're missing out.

If this is your situation, share with others that you would genuinely like to meet someone. Get out there and meet men!

3. You seem a little uptight.

You come across as the girl who's too serious, can’t have a laugh, and needs to chill out. You've often been told by others that you're hard to get to know, or they describe you as a closed book. But really you’re the type who just takes longer to get to know.

Try to share something about yourself, loosen up and let your lighter side show. He wants to get to know you. He wants to know what you’re all about, and he wants to see your unique side. Let him.

4. You always say you're too busy.

Fabulous career, lots of hobbies, always on the move — you're a busy girl. But here's the problem: "Busy” to the guy who wants to get to know you means, “You're not important in my life. I don’t have time for you. I'm not interested. You're in my way.”

Always being busy doesn't make someone attracted to you, it makes them feel unwanted. They assume you're not interested when you don’t give someone your time.

5. You're very attractive, but don't act available.

It's a common complaint by women who are attractive that men don’t approach them. If this is your problem, turn and smile towards a man you find attractive and go talk to him.

Don’t let your greatest assets be your obstacle to finding love. Show him your vulnerable side and allow him to see the personality underneath the picture — sharing your fears and weak points can put a man at ease with you.

6. You try to be one of the boys.

Men find what is opposite to them attractive, so trying to match guys drink for drink, talking like a man, and acting like a man will put you in the dreaded "friend zone" every time.