If Your Wife Has These 11 Daily Habits, You’re Married To A Very Good Woman
Roman Samborskyi / Shutterstock There are a lot of men who don’t realize how lucky they are when it comes to their spouses. More often than not, they’re the guys who take it all for granted until she decides to leave. When she leaves, the guy falls apart.
A good partner is hard to find, and sometimes, even harder to spot. These 11 habits suggest that you’ve married a true gem.
If your wife has these 11 daily habits, you’re married to a very good woman
1. Doing chores for her family
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Does she make a point of cooking and cleaning? Does she call her mom every other day, just to make sure she’s alright? She doesn’t really have to do that. The fact that she’s doing that shows that she cares about others around her.
Much of the housework and caretaking women do is taken for granted. Women still do the bulk of the labor, even when they’re the main breadwinners in their homes. Let’s be real: if she didn’t care, she wouldn’t do this.
2. Sending supportive messages
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A good wife isn’t just a person who helps keep the family together. She’s also the person who offers moral support. If you get little notes from her throughout the year about how much she cares about you, that’s a great sign that she loves you. It also shows that she’s not selfish. She cares enough about others to take time out of her day to lift them up. In a world lacking empathy, that often feels like a rare trait.
As Sanjana Gupta writes, small gestures "help promote stability in relationships because they show your partner that they’re important to you and that you think about them. This can help reduce uncertainty in the relationship and instill a sense of security, strengthening your bond and bringing you closer together."
3. Telling the truth, even when it's difficult
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Oh, those little white lies. They aren't always that little, are they? In a world that’s increasingly fake, seeing someone who is honest is a breath of fresh air. It takes a lot of guts to remain honest, especially in dicey situations.
If you notice that she often will take the proverbial hit in order to keep things honest, that’s a rare quality. Treasure her, because that’s not an easy trait to keep. She knows how hard betrayal can hit, and she’s trying to avoid it.
4. Avoiding gossip
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Women might have a reputation for gossiping, but that doesn’t mean it’s a standard trait. People who gossip are seen as less likable, for obvious reasons. No one wants their private business spread out by women who swear “they don’t talk about others.”
It’s easy to spill tea about a person, especially when you don’t like a person. Women who keep secrets to themselves are true gems—and are often the most well-liked in their circles.
5. Offering help without strings attached
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Everyone can be amiable when it comes to helping someone out, provided they’re incentivized to do so. I mean, if you were paid a million dollars, wouldn’t you be more amenable to acting selflessly?
The true mark of a good person is the person who helps without expecting anything in return. If you know she’ll be there for someone just because it’s the right thing to do, she has a level of altruism that is rare, not to mention a truly selfless personality.
6. Respecting boundaries
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Research has shown that respecting boundaries is a key sign of a person who has empathy. If you notice that she goes out of her way to ask about people’s boundaries and take non-verbal cues seriously, that’s a great sign.
Being willing to keep healthy boundaries is a cornerstone of being a good person, not to mention an emotionally safe person. The opposite is also true: if your wife tends to trample on boundaries and push others around, she’s probably not the good person you think she is.
7. Talks through her feelings
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Does your wife regularly try to explain how she feels or what’s bothering her? Does she encourage you to be vulnerable around her and act vulnerable around you? That emotional openness is a major green flag.
Studies have shown that suppressing your emotions can make it harder for others to connect to you. The fact that she’s avoiding that issue is a sign that your wife cares enough to keep that connection. It also shows that she’s a safe person to talk to.
8. Apologizing when she's wrong
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In a world where casual apathy and passing the buck seem to be the new norm, seeing people who take personal accountability is a major flex. Taking accountability takes many forms, including apologizing sincerely when you're wrong.
An apology is a smart, empathy-filled way to really take accountability and reexamine the wrongs you’ve made. It’s a powerful move because it shows that you’re emotionally intelligent and humble enough to admit when you’re wrong.
9. Saying thank you
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When the waiter brings her food to her during date night, does your wife smile and say thanks? Does she keep a gratitude journal or make a point of mentioning how grateful she is for those around her?
Gratitude isn't just a good attitude adjustment. People who display gratitude are more likely to treat people well and are also more likely to be happy. That’s a great sign that you married a wonderful, uplifting wife!
10. Staying consistent
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No one likes a person who runs hot and cold or claims to do one thing while actually doing another. An inconsistent person isn’t necessarily a bad person, because some folks can’t get it together enough to remain consistent day to day.
Consistency, though, is generally a good sign in people. After all, it shows a certain level of discipline, a lack of hypocritical behavior, and serious impulse control. Those traits alone help make a person a better human being.
11. Looking for the positive in things
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Optimism isn’t just about having a good attitude, though it definitely does seem to be one of the better perks of this trait. For many people, their sunny disposition is also about helping others carry through life when things get grim.
Believe it or not, some of the most outwardly optimistic people tend to hide their feelings to spare others. So, don’t be surprised if your optimistic wife is doing the same for you. It could be a hidden sign of her selflessness.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a writer whose work has been featured in Yahoo, BRIDES, Your Daily Dish, Newtheory Magazine, and others.
