If Your Husband Has These 11 Handy Habits, You Won The Marriage Lottery
goodluz / Shutterstock Our homes are special. It’s the space where we raise our families. However, nothing is perfect, and sometimes even the best-maintained houses face issues. Whether it’s a broken sprinkler, a leaky faucet, or a kitchen that needs a full-blown remodel, if your husband has several handy habits, you won the marriage lottery.
Husbands who have handiwork skills are unique. These men have specific traits that make them great husbands. Their problem-solving skills are top-notch, making them easier to communicate with, as unnecessary fights are less likely when couples have strong problem-solving abilities. These husbands also pay attention to detail. No one wants to have a partner who overlooks things. Whether it be a broken floorboard or a change in your appearance, a good husband has a keen eye for both you and the house. You’ll find that husbands with these traits are some of the best, not only for the household, but also as loving and productive partners.
If your husband has these 11 handy habits, you won the marriage lottery
1. He repairs things quickly
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As a renter, things sometimes go wrong in my apartment, and building management may take too long to fix them. Instead of waiting for the handyman to come and repair things, my partner takes the responsibility into his own hands when he can. It makes things less stressful in our home. I feel confident that if something happens, he will at least be able to figure it out.
Having a husband with this handy habit can help your relationship. Housework can put a major strain on a marriage. If a wife feels the housework is uneven and she finds herself doing everything around the home, she will grow frustrated. When a man is devoted to repairing things around the place and does so at a speedy rate, he can help remove some of the workload from his wife’s shoulders.
2. He enjoys problem-solving
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Handy habits require a knack for problem-solving. Sorting out the issue and repairing it can take time and effort. When a man is devoted to his handy hobbies, he is alert to all the possible outcomes. Problem-solving is something that will come easily to him, and it is a great trait to have in a relationship. If your husband brings his problem-solving abilities into the relationship and the household, you have hit the marriage lottery.
A study done by the International Association for Relationship Research found that optimism and problem-solving go hand-in-hand in relationships. Couples who can work through problems with ease are happier than those who cannot. This makes sense, of course, but it’s not an easy task for everyone to complete. It takes patience and time to move through conflict. A man who takes the time to find solutions is useful in multiple situations.
3. He does chores without being asked
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Much like doing repairs around the house, women struggle with men who do not take on a go-getter attitude when it comes to doing chores around the house. How often have you heard a woman say that she is the only one in the home who takes care of everything? If she’s out of town or busy with work, the household falls into disarray. However, when a husband is handy, he will likely take on chores without being asked. This division of labor makes for a powerful relationship foundation.
According to the Pew Research Center, sharing household chores is key to a good marriage. Sharing chores helps the relationship feel more even. When both partners are putting in the work, it makes a positive environment in the home.
4. He puts effort into planning
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A man who values handiwork around the house will put effort into planning repairs. He has to figure out cost and time management. A man like this pays more attention to planning than others. He’s organized in his approach. He will use that same habit in his relationship.
If your husband is capable of planning a date night as well as he is with a house project, you have hit the marriage lottery. A study published in the National Institute of Health’s National Library of Medicine found that it promotes closeness in a relationship. “Spending time with a romantic partner by going on dates is important for promoting closeness in established relationships; however, not all date nights are created equally, and some people might be more adept at planning dates that promote closeness,” the study reads.
5. He turns household work into quality time
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Not only are handy husbands good at doing chores on their own time, but they also make sure to include their wives in their home projects in fun ways. If he includes you in every detail and encourages you to help him, he’s turning what could be boring work into an excuse to hang out together. They know how to make even the most boring household work feel like a good time.
These handy husbands understand the importance of working together. They will turn household repairs or maintaining the front lawn into a group activity. They can take time to show they are when you work on these projects together. Housework can be boring, but when we work with our partners, we enjoy it more.
6. He manages his time wisely
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A husband with handy habits specializes in time management. Being able to complete a project within a certain time period is important. These husbands are not the ones who lose track of time. They keep to a strict schedule to get things done. They find time in their day to cross everything off their list.
According to a study done by Nayyar Sultana and Nabeela Shakur at the University of Modern Languages, Islamabad, men have better time management skills than women. I think I could hear you roll your eyes after reading that. However, having a handy husband who knows how to get things done effectively due to good time-management skills pays off.
7. He pays attention to details
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A husband who is handy needs to pay attention to details. He can observe when things are different at home or at work. His keen eye allows him to see things that need to be done, and gives him time to achieve them. If you have a husband who notices everything, you have likely won the marriage lottery. Detail-oriented men make for great partners.
Sam Margulies, PhD. wrote for Psychology Today that the majority of the couples he sees in his therapy office are those who want to divorce for many different reasons. However, the major one seems to be wives who feel like their husbands do not pay attention to them anymore. Whether they didn’t notice your new haircut or failed to do a project you requested, the feeling of not being listened to can hurt. Handy husbands who have great attention to detail will not make you feel that way. Instead, he’s looking for a solution to the problem.
8. He takes safety seriously
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This one may seem silly to some, but it is an important part of marriage. I know that my partner has taken time to go over safety concerns with me. Whether it’s preparing for what could happen in a national disaster or teaching me how to protect myself when working with tools in the house, he takes safety very seriously. Especially when you have children in the family, keeping everyone safe should be his first priority. If it is, consider yourself lucky.
OSHA reports that falls are one of the leading causes of death when working on home improvement tasks. A man who is valuable will always remember to practice safe behavior above all else. He will teach you and pass it down to his children. Not only have you hit the lottery, but you have someone who puts your safety above all else.
9. He makes teamwork a goal
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It takes a village. We’ve all heard this term before. Working on projects around the house, especially when dealing with something complicated, requires teamwork. A man who has that handy habit can bring that learned behavior into the relationship. He will value having your input and working together with you as a team, making him a great partner at home.
Perhaps a secret to cultivating a truly loving relationship simply is this: When both members of a couple are "playing in squad mode," the relationship wins and, as a result, both partners win as well,” Glenn Geher, Ph.D. writes for Psychology Today. “Perhaps, from an evolutionary perspective, we can understand a truly loving relationship as one in which each individual genuinely puts the needs and wants of the relationship itself—of the team—above their own. In thinking about things this way, it's easy to see how such an approach can lead to a win-win situation. And perhaps, in a sense, this is what love is.”
10. He finds the best resources
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A handy husband will not take no for an answer. If there are roadblocks that try to prevent him from finishing a task, he will find ways to work around them. Whether he’s missing a tool for a repair or a part for renovation, he will find a way to fix the issue. He is resourceful. Things that may be difficult to come by will be no issue to him, as he is a professional at pinning down what he needs at the last minute.
Since he is so resourceful, he brings that skill into the relationship as well. He knows what he needs to do to support his wife. Bringing his psychological resources into the relationship makes for higher marital satisfaction, a study published in the NIH’s Library of Medicine found.
11. He stays on his toes
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Naturally, handymen are adaptable. They are willing to change the plans if it means making a situation easier or better. I am a rigid person. When I set out to do something, I have a hard time flipping the script even when it makes the most sense. My partner is great at adapting to whatever the situation needs. It’s a trait he brings into our partnership that makes our relationship better.
Life is always changing. When your husband is adaptable, he is prepared for anything. He is open to feedback and will change his behavior as needed. He’s not set in his ways. It makes moving through life easier. If you can relate to this, you are lucky. You have hit the marriage lottery.
Haley Van Horn is a freelance writer with a master’s degree in Humanities, living in Los Angeles. Her focus includes entertainment and lifestyle stories.
