If A Woman Uses These 11 Phrases, She’s Probably A Dream-Come-True To Be Married To
Women who say these things make their husband's lives better.
Josep Suria / Shutterstock All human beings need social connections. Living happily alongside people provides us with care and support. For men, outdated societal pressures can make forming bonds with male counterparts difficult. While women can form powerful friendships with one another, the connection between two men is often rather surface-level. Due to this, men rely more on their romantic relationships than women.
Men need a romantic relationship more than women do. “Men lean on romantic partners for emotional support and intimacy more than women do, which is why they put more effort into establishing relationships, benefit more from relationships, initiate fewer breakups, and have a harder time after breakups,” says Charlie Huntington, M.A., Ph.D., LPCC. “Men behave this way, they argue, because they have fewer emotional and social supports outside their romantic relationship, relative to women, and thus are more dependent on their romantic partners to meet many of their needs.” Since they rely so deeply on women, men look for the best partner they can find. When they meet a woman who says all the right things, he can tell she will make the perfect wife.
If a woman uses these 11 phrases, she’s probably a dream-come-true to be married to
1. ‘I trust you’
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Many women struggle to trust men. I've had plenty of experiences in previous relationships that made me question the next guy I met, and most of my friends have, too. It can be hard for a good, trustworthy man to prove himself as such to his partner. When she is willing to say that she trusts him, it can be a big deal. He’ll know she’s the one.
Trust is the foundation of every healthy relationship. It can be hard to earn the trust of your partner. However, when a man hears his partner say she trusts him without any barriers holding her back, she must be a dream-come-true to be married to. They can form a healthy bond, as they trust one another completely.
2. ‘Have fun with the guys!’
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Although men may struggle to form tight bonds with other men, they sure do love spending quality time with them. Whether they play sports together every week or get together after work for a beer, time spent with friends is important. There is a stereotype that women want their husbands to spend time only with them. That’s far from the truth, but it makes hearing this phrase so important to a man.
If a woman is willing to let him balance his work, home, and social lives, she is a catch. He will value someone who sees that there is space for everyone in his life. Catching up with the guys can be just as important as maintaining his marriage. Sometimes, he needs to be able to do so to truly show up for his wife.
3. ‘I believe in you’
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Men struggle with stress. Between caring for their families and succeeding in their careers, it can be hard for them to keep their heads above water. It’s helpful to have a supportive woman in their corner. When a wife is constantly telling him she believes in his abilities, it can be the boost he needs to keep going. These types of wives are a dream to be married to.
“In today’s demanding world men are often caught in a whirlwind of responsibilities both at work and at home. With long hours, high expectations and the pressure to perform, it’s no wonder many men experience stress that takes a toll on their mental and emotional well-being,” says SubRosa Counseling. “The pressures are amplified by the perceived expectations of others, where men are frequently tasked with being providers and figures of strength in both professional and personal spheres. This dual strain can lead to a significant buildup of stress that is hard to manage without the right support.”
4. ‘I appreciate you’
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Let’s face it, many men still take on the burden of supporting their families financially. There is still so much weight carried over from the outdated social norm that men are providers and women are homemakers. Of course, we know this is no longer true, but the implications of the ideology remain. Because of this, men often deal with pressures to succeed at work to provide the best lives for their families.
It makes a world of difference to hear their wife share how much they appreciate them and their effort. It isn’t easy to constantly be working up the corporate ladder. Support from the person closest to them can make their hard work feel appreciated.
5. ‘Put the game on’
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This one may sound silly, but watching sports can be positive for a man’s mental health. Some wives love watching sports, but for those who would prefer to watch something else, encouraging them to put the game on can be a little thing that shows you care. Sure, he will likely turn the game on whether you tell him to or not, but women who encourage him to practice his hobbies are a dream to be married to.
“Those who watch sports are more likely to report higher feelings of life fulfillment than people who don’t, regardless of whether they watch sports in-person, on TV, or online,” the authors of a study by the Vaccine Alliance found. “All these findings are correlational, which means we can’t be certain which factor influences the other or whether they might both be influenced by another factor altogether (like wealth, or number of friends). However, social identity theory and brain imaging research tells us that watching sports could provide the primary wellbeing boost rather than other factors.”
6. ‘How are you feeling?’
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Checking in with your spouse is important. Many men struggle to share their feelings, so a wife who encourages them to share their feelings is a dream-come-true to be married to.
“When a man suffers from covert depression and normative male alexithymia, he essentially is surviving and not living. He is not experiencing the whole emotional range and therefore experiences the world as hard, dull, and boring. Over time, his partner forms the impression that he is stoic, boring, and uninterested. Feeling unloved and alone, the partners often become bitter and look elsewhere for emotional companionship,” says Assael Romanelli, Ph.D. “Reconnecting men to their feelings, expanding their emotional range, and subsequently their emotional eloquence, I began to witness changes in such couples. Hope and newfound animation began to spread through my clinic.”
7. ‘Take the day off’
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It can be hard for men to give themselves time off. Whether it’s from work or household duties, it can be easier to push themselves too far than to acknowledge that they need time off. Men put so much pressure on themselves, especially in their careers. A woman who tells them they need to take time for themselves helps keep them from burning out.
It’s not easy to ask for time off. However, most companies provide it and expect you to take it, even if they don’t necessarily encourage it. When providing for their family is all they think about, they will neglect their own needs. It’s easy to forget what they need along the way. A woman who tells them to take the day off is a dream to be married to.
8. ‘I made your favorite dinner’
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We’ve all heard the classic saying: The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. For some, that can literally be the case. Men who love certain foods can be easily won over by a woman making that meal. When he comes home from work and hears the magic words that his favorite meal was made for dinner, it shows how he is cared for and appreciated.
A group of commenters on Reddit discussed just how true the theory of winning a man over with cooking was. One user said, “It's true for me, my girlfriend is an amazing cook, and I found that really attractive.” Another wrote, “It is 100% true. I grew up with German, Polish, and Italian foods... It was always served in a family setting. So to me food=love.”
9. ‘Let’s go out’
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For me, staying in is my dream. I love cuddling up on the couch with a good book. However, my partner loves to get out and do things. When I initiate the idea of going out to dinner or a movie, he gets excited. This can be the case for most men. They would love to go out on the town with their wives.
After work, sometimes all a man wants is to go out, have a good dinner, drink a beer, and unwind. Connecting with his wife is great, too. Although a woman may be exhausted after a long day of working herself, encouraging her husband to get out and unwind makes her a dream to be married to.
10. ‘Let’s make time just for us’
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Life is hectic. From working hard to maintaining relationships, there is always so much going on. When things get crazy, it can be hard for a husband and wife to stay connected. They can be like two ships passing in the night. They are both running around so much that they have lost time to catch up with one another.
When a woman asks a man to make time for just the two of them, she is showing that she values their union. She wants to keep their relationship strong and stable. She could simply ask if they could spend some quality time together after the kids went to sleep, or if they could watch a movie together after dinner and just focus on one another. A woman like this is probably a dream-come-true to be married to.
11. ‘What do you need from me today?’
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Checking in with their husband can be key in helping them provide support. For women who ask exactly what their partner needs from them, they are giving them the relief they may be too afraid to ask for. She wants to step in where she can, and by asking him for exactly what will help him, she shows how much she cares.
“Most men need someone who genuinely understands how to treat a man. Notably, a woman should treat her man as well as she would have expected to be treated. When a man sees the effort you put into making him happy, he is empowered to do more for you,” says Rachel Pace. “It’s about making him feel valued, trusted, and cherished, just as you’d want to be treated yourself. Treating a man well is ultimately about building a strong and loving connection that brings happiness and fulfillment to both of you.”
Haley Van Horn is a freelance writer with a master’s degree in Humanities, living in Los Angeles. Her focus includes entertainment and lifestyle stories.
