The Harsh Truth About Why He's Sending You Mixed Messages

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The REAL Truth About Why You Get Mixed Messages From Men

When men don't know what they want, they constantly send out mixed signals.

They like you, but not enough to really be with you. In other words: they're wasting your time.

The most common and most crazy-inducing example is when a man agrees to do something for you... and doesn't do it. So passive-aggressive.

It's common for all of, at one point or another, to be unsure about what we want.

However, it's rarely a good sign when you're with a man and he's unclear about what he wants. It usually means a trainwreck is nearing and when you get into a position of trying to figure out the mixed messages of a man, you're in danger of hurting yourself. 

Usually, figuring men out means that you might have a narcissist on your hands: they know what they want; they just don't care about what you want.

Some of the best decisions you'll ever make in this kind of relationship are the ones where you walk away, even if your heart is pulling you to him.

Mixed messages are clear signals coming from your body that you're overlooking important things.

A real relationship with a real man doesn't involve mystery or a drama. A real relationship is between two people who can make — and KEEP — agreements.

The best way to clear up mixed messages is simple: ask. Ask the questions you think you shouldn't ask.

Intimacy builds from tough moments, not easy ones. Remember that men who can make and keep agreements (and are willing to negotiate with you) will last. 

Before you waste any more time on men who give out mixed messages, start by asking for what you want and saying "no" to what you don't — a man who loves you will want to know.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of men's secrets in Dating Advice for Alpha Women.

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