8 Signs He's Only With You Because He Doesn't Want To Be Alone

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8 Signs He's Only With You Because He Doesn't Want To Be Alone

You deserve better.

Have you ever been deep in a relationship and still find yourself wondering, "does he like me?" Sadly enough, it's very common these days to be in a one-sided relationship. As if that's not already a sad enough truth, you must ask yourself how you went so long without even noticing.

Now, granted, you may have had your suspicions all along but didn't want to believe it. This is what we call being in denial. However, in your defense, we as humans often enter into a state of denial because our needs outnumber our desires by a landslide. In these situations, our judgment can be clouded — and I mean clouded to the point where the obvious is no longer obvious.

Here's how to know for sure the guy you're dating, unfortunately, isn't all that into you — he's just using you for the company.

1. You chase after him like a celebrity.

First and foremost, men naturally love to pursue women. If any guy is interested in you, then I promise you, he will be the one doing the pursuing. When he is truly interested in you, then he will find a way to talk to you. It may take courage for him to make a move, but when he does you will know it.

When you like someone, it is a joint effort between both parties. You wouldn’t have to fangirl him. If he lets you chase him, then there is a reason he is running away. Remember you have worth and any guy worth keeping will pursue you.

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2. He doesn’t bother to text you back, engage in good conversation, or try to get to know you.

Sometimes, both men and women are a bit bashful when starting a conversation with the opposite sex. It can be scary to send the first text message. You sit there and wait twenty minutes to respond because you don’t want to look desperate. However, when a guy is interested in getting to know you, he will be excited to text you and will find a way to keep the conversation going.

In the age of social media, if he liked you, then he would probably creep on your Instagram, scroll through your pictures, and find a way to bring up your trip to Papa New Guinea. If the conversation feels dull, one-sided, and uninteresting, then you should move on to another boy. This one is not worth your time. Anyone worth talking to would want to get to know you and learn every little detail about you.

3. He treats you like an option rather than a priority.

If you continuously try to make plans with him and he seems to always make an excuse, then sadly you are probably just an option. No matter how busy any human being is, regardless of your gender, you would always make time for someone that matters to you. If he wanted to see you even for five minutes, then he would find a way to fit you in his schedule. You should never settle to be an option. Always strive to be someone’s number one priority.

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4. He truly acts like he doesn’t care.

When he acts like he doesn’t care, then you should believe him. It is not an act or a game. If someone truly liked you or genuinely cared about you, then you wouldn’t need to convince yourself otherwise. You would just know, you would feel it in every fiber of your body. He would say that he likes you or show that he cares about you in some way, shape, or form.

5. He doesn’t express his emotions.

Sometimes, it is difficult for guys to express their emotions because some of them have no idea how to do it. They were taught to hide their them because being emotional is considered a weakness. Men were programmed to maintain a tough mental and emotional exterior.

However, you must realize that they are human beings too. Although they would rather not admit to it, they absolutely have feelings. When a guy likes you, he would make it known to you. He wouldn’t leave you wondering and waiting by the phone. He would make you feel secure, comfortable, and let you know that he likes you. And I’m sure he would want to know if you felt that way too.

6. He doesn’t make you part of his life.

When you first start dating or speaking to him, he probably won’t introduce you to important people in his life just yet. However, if you’ve been talking to him for a while and you are still being kept a secret, then I would be a bit skeptical. When a guy likes you, he wants you to be part of his life. He would talk about you to his friends and want their approval. Eventually, he would get the courage to introduce you to important people in his life, invite you to fun events, and want to spend more time with you.

7. He is selfish inside and outside the bedroom.

Selfish people tend to only be good to themselves. People truly reveal themselves through their actions. Sex is a two-way street and it should be a fun experience for both of you. He should make you feel like the most beautiful, loved, and amazing girl in the world. If your pleasure, excitement, and happiness don’t matter to him, then I would question why you like him or want to date him. If he never asks you about your day, life, or what you want to do, then you should make a life change. You deserve someone who cares about you and is willing to do anything to see you happy.

8. He doesn’t put in an effort to take you out on dates.

If he only wants to Netflix & Chill, then you are probably just a hookup with no strings attached. There is nothing wrong with this lifestyle, however, if you are looking for something more serious, then guard your heart. Don’t catch feelings. You should put your feelings aside and realize that he may not be interested in a relationship with you. It’s always an awkward talk to have with someone, but you’ll never know if you don’t ask. It’s better to know his expectations from the start rather than setting yourself up for disappointment. Remember if any guy makes you feel unsure of yourself, then he is unsure of you.

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Sarish Siddiqui is a 25-year-old Pakistani American girl with a big heart, short stature, and much to learn. Follow her on Facebook and check out her website for more.

This article was originally published at Thought Catalog. Reprinted with permission from the author.