4 Ways To (Finally!) Attract The Guy Who's Been Keeping You In The Friend Zone

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4 Tips To Get Out Of Friend Zone With A Guy

So you met this man who you think is a great guy. You clicked and there was the connection from the get-go. Since then, compatibility and rapport simply became unmatched and both of you started to enjoy each other’s company more frequently. 

Dates, movies, long talks, parties, and hanging out at his house or yours — except intimacy. The more you see each other, the more you appreciate him and thinks he is a perfect fit to be your boyfriend. You cant help but to catch feelings for him.

You now find yourself wishing and hoping for him to make advances and reveal his feelings for you. But sadly, it isn’t happening. He is not moving things forward and worse, you can sense that your situation is likely to remain platonic. You're ready to get out of the friend zone, but you don't know how. 

I know how frustrating albeit confusing it is when a man wants to be "just friends" when you want more. What is happening?

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You are now in that dreaded deep friendship connection without the sexual part, and he is beginning to see you as one of the boys. That's because you failed to create sexual tension that could have made him think, without a doubt, that you are his woman.

Here are 4 reasons why women fall into that trap and how to get out of the friend zone

1. You need to be more sensual. 

You can be attractive and sexy but aren’t sensual. Sensuality is when a woman is receptive and is fully present in the heart and body rather than in the mind.

A sensual woman, because of her inviting, engaging, and riveting energy helps her man discover a facet of his being, steering him into an unusual dimension where he hasn't been before — into his own emotions. And this, for a man, is truly mesmerizing.

Learn some sensual moves like gazing into his eyes for a longer time, or touching his cheek or hair. Use some sensual phrases like "I'm in bed" or "I'm going to take a bath". Relate with him in a way that you stir his emotions and erotic imagination.

2. You need to cultivate your sex appeal.

If you are a woman who has those limiting beliefs about men and sex (i.e. men are bad, sex is dirty, sex is bad) then most probably you emit a rigid and a guarded kind of energy. 

You subconsciously avert and sabotage any chance that will lead you into a deeper and more profound connection with a man. If you want to ooze with sex appeal and confidence (traits that men go crazy about), then you should honor your own body and sexuality in all their glory.   

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3. You are too available.

Are you always there for him? Do you always agree to meet every time he asks to hang out? Chances are, if you are always on his radar, it won't take long before your interaction gets too comfortable and boring. 

A day with you turns into a mundane occurrence instead of a phenomenal one. You’re now becoming more of an on-call psychologist rather than a lover. Be less available.  Absence makes the heart grow fonder. 

4. You over-function so stop being a nice girl.

Do you talk too much? Do you come over to his place uninvited? Do you volunteer to cook for him? Are you more than happy to do his laundry? Do you always listen to his woes and problems and become his shoulder to cry on?

Functioning is a great mystery killer. You are acting like a girlfriend even before the title. The most desirable women are the mysterious ones. It is when there is something new to discover about you that his interest gets ignited.  

There is hope.

Friendship is a good foundation for a romantic relationship. We all learned that men marry their best friends, don’t we? In this case, you already won half the battle for the simple reason that your connection is given.

He already loves you! Both of you just have to operate in a different kind of dynamic which is just one step more than friendship. Sexual spark is the missing link. A little tweaking in your demeanor and it won't be long until he sees you in a different light — his best friend and lover, rolled into one.

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Gem Villamin is a love and life coach, Feminine energy healer who teaches women how to become a high-value dream girl through counter-intuitivve methods.  She specializes on teaching how to deal with a noncommittal man, and healing broken relationships. Join her community called The Cleopatra Project, on Facebook, or sign-up for her newsletter to receive her free expert guide, “Decode A Man’s Heart: The Way To His Love and Commitment," and let Gem help you reconnect with your inner goddess today. 

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