How To Kiss A Woman Better Than She's Ever Been Kissed Before

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When it comes to understanding what it takes to make a woman fall in love with you, it's critical for guys to first understand the basics of how to kiss a girl in a way that is so passionate and romantic she'll never want to leave.

A woman’s body is a magical creation, and using the right kissing techniques on the right spots can send shivering chills down her spine. So when kissing a woman, you want to approach her in such a way that she feels unable to resist the temptation, and pay attention to her body language. 

You need to remember that on the whole, women want to be mentally and emotionally aroused just as much as they want to be physical. This means it’s essential that before you even think about how to kiss her, you begin by inviting her in with gestures intended to tempt and intrigue. 

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What do you do before you kiss a girl?

In general, before you kiss a girl, most importantly, make sure you have good breath! Make sure that when you kiss a girl for the first time you aren't drunk or intoxicated as you don't want your mouth to taste like alcohol or you don't want to have cotton-mouth.

Brush your teeth before going in for the kiss or have some mint gum or some breath mints on hand if you're out. Next, you want to make sure you have some chapstick or lip balm because kissing chapped lips isn't the greatest.

Most importantly, you want to make sure that she's definitely interested in you, so try and get a good read of her emotions and how she speaks to you to know if she would want to kiss you. Make her know that she is wanted.

Here are the best tips for how to kiss a girl really well:

Be warned: these techniques are so powerful, she's likely to fall in love and may never want to leave. 

1. Hold her hand.

Doing this brings in chemistry for both of you. She will be left wanting more, and she will also get a little pitter-patter in her heart alerting her that you are being romantic and affectionate with her.

2. Touch her back.

When your opening the door for her, leaning over to see if she's having fun, or just casually opening the door for her, a slight touch on her back for a couple of seconds will help the woman notice that you are giving her attention. 

3. Tell her that she’s beautiful.

You don't need to overdo it with compliments, but when the time is right, you should definitely tell her she’s gorgeous.

4. Stare into her eyes and smile.

If you want to be a little daring, I would suggest you even bite your lip a bit as you do (à la Prince Harry at his wedding to Meghan Markle).

Look her in the eye, place your hand gently behind her neck and softy go in for this kiss. Allow yourself to take time and be gentle, possibly even following her lead. As you both lean in start to close your eyes and then kiss her gently and softly and make it last a little. 

5. Catch her attention. 

Before you kiss a girl on the first date or after you've gotten to know her you need the right atmosphere and, most importantly, consent.

Command and catch her attention and look into her eyes as you're talking with her to make sure the two of you can connect with some eye contact. 

6. Start slowly.

When you kiss a girl, make sure to go slowly at first and don't use the tongue right away. Take it slow and breezy, and kiss her with gentle and smooth kisses with some passion in there.

7. Don't bite, moan, or be aggressive with your kiss.

Just remember to be soft and tender and have a nice time with some passionate kissing. 

When using your tongue, don't forget to be in the moment and follow each other's lead. It's not about how crazy your tongue can get, but about how sensual you can be.

Now that you know what to do leading up to and during the kiss, you can create that magnetic attraction that will cause her to never want to leave you!

8. Don't use tongue.

For a first kiss, usually, the tongue is off the table. However, you can glide your tongue on her bottom lip to see if she opens her mouth more for a french kiss.

9. Play into body intimacy.

As you're kissing her, you should be moving your hands, caressing her face, touching her hair, and touching her body. A good kisser will kiss while using their hands to play into body intimacy. 

Safe places to put your hands are on the side of her face, the back of her head or neck, and the middle or lower part of her back. You don't want to move your hands down any further or else that would be too far for a first kiss. 

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Where do girls like to be kissed?

Keep in mind that a long sensual kiss doesn't necessarily need to be confined to kissing her on the mouth. There are other places that you can and should kiss a girl when the two of you are both comfortable with each other. 

Kissing obviously is a preference sort of thing just like sex, however, there are some things that you can keep in mind and know how to do to kiss a girl well. 

Kiss her on the neck.

This is a tender spot for many women, especially the back of her neck, so if you've already been affectionate with each other, try casually embracing her when she's is in front of you and give her a kiss on her bottom lip.

Next, move her hair to the other shoulder, and give her a soft, gentle peck on the back of her neck. Continue doing this and, more likely than not, she will be dying to turn around and lay one you!

Kiss her ears.

Whisper something sweet lightly in her ear just before starting to slowly kiss her there.

Do not slobber on her ear — this is very important! You want to make sure you are being gentle, kissing the outside, and breathing lighting, which can be a huge turn-on for many women.

Kiss her hands.

I call this tip the "V" move.

Take her hand, look her in the eyes, and picture kissing her in spots on her palm in the shape of the letter "V". The V has 3 points, so stop at each and kiss her there, then softly bring your lips to the next point of the V, and so on.

Kiss her collarbone.

Work your way across from her should to her collarbone with gentle kisses. The collarbone isn't as sensitive as the neck, but since you're already there, this will give you the opportunity to get to the neck. Soft, subtle kisses are best here.

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Apollonia Ponti is a Dating Coach and Relationship Expert who works with men and women to get exactly what they want from their love life. Get started on your journey with her today by visiting her website, and subscribe to her YouTube channel for more.

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