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How To Make Him Chase You (When You Think He's Losing Interest)

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Why Is He Ignoring Me? How To Make Him Chase You Before He Loses Interest
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Don't panic.

Are you in a relationship with a man whose been ignoring you? Would you like to understand why men pull away, and why he is not involved in your relationship? Why is your boyfriend so distant?

Instead of always asking yourself, "Why is he ignoring me?" or "Does he like me?",what you should be thinking is, "He's head over heels in love with me!"

Relationships, especially in the first few months, are rarely simple. You have to adapt your needs to your man's needs when you really want to be sure that he wants a serious relationship.

Find out how to make him chase you and turn things around! You're going to be able to make him completely addicted to you, even if he has a tendency to pull away.

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Wondering, "Why is he ignoring me?" Is perfectly normal because you cannot find a solution until you understand the issue.

It should be noted that human beings (and especially men) are lazy. That means he'll never do anything he does not feel obligated to do. What does this have to do with your situation?

It's quite simple actually — a man is not going to reach out if he knows that you'll do it first.

In order for you to stop thinking, "He ignores me," you'll need to be able to make him wonder if you're going to contact him or what you might be up to.

From this moment on, you will have won because you will be happy when you send a reply. He'll start making the effort to improve your relationship.

Is he actually pulling away and ignoring me, or is it all in my head?

Before we begin talking about how to make him stop ignoring you, you need to take a moment to figure out whether or not you and your partner are actually experiencing a crisis in your relationship.

Sometimes, after a big fight, a person will need some time to organize their thoughts and calm down before coming back. This doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s ignoring you or that he doesn’t want to be with you.

Unfortunately, many people make the mistake of confusing a simple argument with a real crisis in the relationship. Every couple is going to experience challenges and difficult periods during which things feel a bit rockier than usual, but there is a difference between this and him wanting to end the relationship. Don’t automatically assume the worst.

Sometimes, people convince themselves of the worst and change their behavior as a result. This makes things feel even tenser, and your partner will definitely pick up on it. Other times, some people need so much attention from their partners that they register a bit of distance as a crisis. They panic and think, “He's ignoring me now!”

Even if two days have passed since he last reached out to you, and this is uncharacteristic behavior for him, don’t be alarmed. It, of course, all depends on your relationship and the situation, but generally speaking, the guy will always come back and reach out.

Regardless of the reasons behind the distance he’s putting between you right now, you have to take action immediately.

The moment you pick up on something, you’ve got to start working on changing it. The less time you lose, the faster you’ll be able to fix this.

Many women think that time is their ally and if they just pretend nothing is wrong, their partner will come back once the “crisis” has passed. However, just waiting around isn’t going to improve things. In fact, you might even experience the opposite of what you want and see him pull further and further away.

You have to get started right away on improving the situation between you, but while you do so, keep certain things in mind.

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When a man ignores you, being clingy is the worst thing you could do. There is no point in asking him to text you more because it wouldn’t come naturally, and you’d end up with the same problems you’re having now.

In an effort to get a response from him, you might even try to provoke a little fight to spice things up, but you already know how that’s going to end. You’re just going to say things that you don’t mean and you’ll end up feeling guilty. In the end, you’re going to be the one apologizing. The result will be that he never changes his ways and what’s more, he’ll put more distance between you.

You have to avoid crises and conflicts and work on personal development that will provide long-term solutions to this problem.

“Chase me and I’ll run” is the only proverb that can be applied to all romantic relationships.

In order to put an end to the times when he ignores you, begin taking time for yourself starting today. Maintain your social life and focus on your job so that you can put a little bit of space between you. It's strategy for how to make him chase you that will undoubtedly catch his attention.

If you still get no reaction from him, it’s time to have a serious conversation face-to-face to cross the T’s and dot the I’s.

Men are hunters, and they need a challenge. Naturally, men want to feel as though they had to work for something in order to get you. They want to know that what they have required work.

Mentally, this shows self-respect for yourself when you do this. What a lot of women do is they give men relationship benefits without the title of a relationship. That’s not what you want to do.

You have to stop thinking that the more you give, the more you will receive.

Remember, you want to see what this man can offer you as well. You don't need to convince him to be with you, but he needs to earn your worth. Now, that's not to say you're not going to put in any effort and do nice things, but you should let things happen slowly and let the attraction phase progress.

Think of this like a tennis match: He gives, then you give. How can you help him in his life to relieve stress, and what is important to him? These are a great question to ask yourself to understand how much you know this man.

Even though you want to show up for this man, you also want to make sure he is showing up for you, too. So, when he is asking to see you and make plans with you, then it’s time that you choose the right days and times to do this. Show this man you have other things going on in your life, and it’s not all about him, if you want him to chase you.

Don't be resistant and play games, but make sure he sees how valuable your time is so the both of you can appreciate the time that you spend together more and more every day. So many women tend to drop what they’re doing to see their man and always be available for him.

I know it's hard, but it's the only one way to change the situation. When you are interested in a man and you have a connection, it’s hard to stick to these ways of putting yourself first. But remember the most healthy relationships come from individuals who value themselves first. This is important in order for you to cultivate a healthy relationship and be happy with each other and get that relationship you've always wanted.

When a guy ignores you, be careful to avoid becoming emotionally dependent.

It's important to avoid becoming emotionally dependent on your partner and remain in control of your emotions and relationships. When your man is distant, you tend to lose confidence and like clockwork, you stop being emotionally independent. This is the worst thing that could happen, which is exactly why you need to begin focusing on yourself starting today.

You can get back in control of your life and will be in charge of your own personal well-being. The more satisfying your personal life is, the easier it will be to avoid emotional dependency and the more your partner will want to go out of their way to seduce you. You'll see, things cannot go back to the beginning of your relationship!

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Alex Cormont, the founder of French Relationship Expert, is an expert in dating and relationships based in Miami, FL, who works with women to guide them to find the right man and have the relationship they've always dreamt of. His expert advice has been featured on Forbes, Huffington Post, GQ, and Elle.

This article was originally published at French Relationship Expert . Reprinted with permission from the author.