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ESFJ is the social butterfly personality type.
By Jaycee Levin — Written on Sep 09, 2020
Everyone has a Myers-Briggs personality type, which tells you whether you are introverted or extroverted, a thinker or feeler, and other aspects of your personality. Having an ESFJ personality type means that you are an extrovert who senses, feels, and judges.
With the ESFJ personality type, you tend to be outgoing, loyal, organized, and sympathetic. You naturally get more energy when you are around other people and in a social setting. ESFJs also see the best in people and are always there to support their loved ones. The ESFJ personality type is commonly known as “the caregiver.”
Your Myers-Briggs personality type not only reveals your unique personality traits but also how you act in a relationship.
When it comes to relationships, ESFJs are wonderful and caring partners to their significant other.
There are many dating strengths and weaknesses for ESFJ personality types.
ESFJ Dating Weaknesses
Despite being an extroverted type, ESFJs tend to wear their heart on their sleeves which can get messy when it comes to dating and relationships.
They can be a tad too needy at times.
Since ESFJ personality types love being around others, they also feel better when they are getting approval from others. They rely on other people to praise them and build them up when they are feeling insecure or uncertain.
They often need validation from others and this is especially true when it comes to their relationships.
They want to have a partner that is their biggest supporter and give them the encouragement they need. They want a partner that values them and gives them reassurance.
However, this can come off needy because they sometimes fish for compliments.
They are sometimes too concerned about their social status.
ESFJs tend to be particularly well-liked but they often want other people to like them. They can be a bit of a people-pleaser and care too much about how others view them.
This also goes for the person they are in a relationship with because they want others to like their partner as well.
They can be a little judgemental of their partner too because of how much they value their social status. For example, if they don’t like their significant other's outfit, they may make them change before going out to meet up with friends.
They simply just put too much weight on how they will come off and it can cause them to be less open-minded and more critical.
They can be pushy with their opinions.
ESFJs love to share their ideas and opinions about things.
However, they sometimes cross the line between sharing their beliefs and pushing them onto others.
They love to debate and speak with others but sometimes take conversations too far when they want others to see things from their point of view. However, they often are just getting carried away and don’t do this on purpose or even realize they are being pushy.
They simply have a knack for seeing things from many different perspectives and expect others to do the same thing.
They don’t like to be criticized.
Since ESFJs value other people's opinions, they can take criticism too personally.
If their partner points out their flaws, bad habits, or beliefs then they could get defensive about it.
Their feelings can get very hurt when their faults are being pointed out and they will internalize it. They can sometimes feel very attacked when they are being criticized so it is best to give them advice in a kind way.
If their partner wants to give them advice, it is best to tell them how they can improve instead of only telling them what they are doing wrong.
ESFJ Dating Strengths
The ESFJ's unique personality traits also give them great dating potential.
They enjoy spending time with their significant other.
People with the ESFJ personality type enjoy spending quality time with their partner.
They truly try their best to make time for their loved one and give them the attention they need. They prioritize spending time with them and also tend to want to do fun and exciting things with someone by their side.
They are always willing to be their partner’s plus one to any event and vice versa.
They are incredibly loyal to their partner.
ESFJs are very devoted when it comes to their relationships. They will always tell their partner the truth and be there for them.
They also rarely casually date and instead want to find someone to settle down with. They take their relationships seriously and will put in the work to make the relationship as strong as it can be.
ESFJ’s show their partner love with their support and faithfulness.
They are incredibly reliable and seek out stability in their partnerships.
They are sensitive and kind.
ESFJs are pretty compassionate. They are also very good at putting themselves in other people’s shoes and seeing situations from different sides so that they can gain a deeper understanding.
They are not people that want to hurt, lash out, or offend their partner even when they are upset.
ESFJ’s care about other people’s feelings and sometimes they even put other’s feelings above their own.
ESFJs are great communicators.
ESFJ’s love to talk and socialize with others.
When it comes to their relationships, they can easily engage in small talk or deep conversations.
They are also excellent at saying how they feel and speaking what is on their mind. Communication is key in relationships and ESFJs are aware of that and value strong communication. They are also comfortable opening up and showing their more vulnerable side to their partner.
People with this personality type are so great in social situations that they can easily pick up social cues.
If their partner is in a bad mood or needs some time alone but doesn’t voice it, ESFJs will notice that and give their partner their space.
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Jaycee Levin is an Instagram influencer and writer who covers astrology, entertainment, love, and relationships.