How Do You Get A Man's Attention? 5 Ways To Get Your Crush To Notice You

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Getting guy to notice you might be one of the most frustrating things about being a woman. If you approach a man, you might come off as desperate, and if you choose not to approach him, you’re left with no choice but to stand around waiting to be noticed by your crush.

The good news is that if a guy who your interested in doesn’t notice you, it doesn’t automatically mean that he’s not interested in you. Men are wired to chase women, but they rely on verbal and none verbal cues to see whether women are interested in them or not.

Guys are just as — if not more — afraid of rejection than women so there’s a chance that he may feel like approaching you is running a chance of you rejecting him, too. Ouch.

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With that being said, it's important that we give men some space to chase us, but also let them know we’re interested in a relationship.

We want men to pick up cues to let them now we want to get to know them and that we find them attractive without looking desperate or “thirsty”. Building the tension by allowing a man to chase you is an exciting experience for both parties. It will get to a point where your crush has no choice but to make a move.

Before you get into these tips, remember: confidence is key. Everything you do to get his attention must exude confident female energy. Coming off clingy or attention-seeking does the exact opposite, and might turn him off. Your crush may feel like you're super obsessive or insecure, and there’s nothing attractive about that.

Letting a guy chase you lets him know that you are a catch and it makes you stand out among other girls. There’s nothing sexier to them then a women would is confident — with or without his attention.

Here are 5 tips on how to get a guy's attention so you can get you crush to finally notice you:

1. Follow him (don't just stalk him) on social media.

Nowadays, everyone is constantly on their phones, so asking him to be a friend or following him on social media is a great way to catch his attention. Follow him, and there is a high chance that he will follow you back. But even if he doesn’t follow you back or automatically accept your friend request, try to engage with him — like his pictures (not too many), respond to his tweets, laugh at his jokes, or comment on something he posted. At some point he is going to notice you — and hopefully DM you.

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2. Talk to him about something you're passionate about.

Women who talk openly about their hobbies and passions are perceived as more attractive by men, because you come off as "deep" and prove that there is more to you then your looks. Peak his curiosity, but try not to talk about yourself too much — and don't forget to ask him what he's into, too. Hopefully your crush will feel open with you and tell you what he's into too.

Who knows? You might even be into the same things as him. WIN.

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3. Dress with confidence.

Dressing like you love yourself basically means wearing what you want, how you want to wear it. Everybody has their own style and there no right or wrong way to do it. However, making sutble changes — like wearing your hair in a unique way or trying something new with your makeup — can give him the impression that you're confident and in charge (and what's not attractive about that?!) 

It's also important to make sure what you wear is something that your comfortable in, and that represents you. A girl who is confident in her appearance and style is one that can stand out in a room full of women.

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4. Make eye contact with him.

Making eye contact with your crush is a nonverbal cue that you're not only confident, but that your interested in what he has to say.

When he is talking to you about his pet peeve of gum chewing and why he hates living in the city, stare into his eyes (not in a creepy way) — he will know that he has your complete, undivided attention, which acording to Psycologia, produces a chemical called phenylethylamine that may make the person feel like they are in love. 

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5. Smile at him.

Ok, this one might come off weird but hear us out. Guys absolutely 100% love when women smile. There are tons of studies that show people who smile more are seen as more attractive than people who don’t. Smiling gives men a sense of warmth, friendliness, and happiness (not to mention it's also super sexy). So might as well give it a try. Your crush makes you all warm and fuzzy inside anyway, right?

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Maatie Kalokoh is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture and relationship topics.