6 Zodiac Signs Who Lack Healthy Boundaries (And Are Easy To Take Advantage Of)
We need to set boundaries for ourselves and respect other people's.
getty Why is setting boundaries important? Personal boundaries are the rules, limits, or systems that we create to keep us emotionally, mentally, and physically safe from harm. But when you don't know how to set boundaries, even the most uplifting horoscope won't be able to protect you from the consequences.
Does your lack of boundaries have anything to do with your zodiac sign? It's true that astrology dictates the certain personality traits we all have, but if you don’t have healthy boundaries, you lose a certain amount of control over your own life and allow others to tell you what you should think, do, and feel.
It’s challenging for people without boundaries not only to say no, but to not say yes to everything they’re asked to do. When you don’t set personal boundaries, you don’t take care of yourself and you allow yourself to be manipulated by others.
Certain zodiac signs are better at setting up boundaries than others. If your sign is a people-pleasing sign, it may be harder to set boundaries because you’re afraid that you’ll hurt someone else in the process, or that if you’re not “nice” you won’t be liked by others.
If you have trouble setting up healthy boundaries, start by saying no more often. Don’t just say it to any question, but consider each request; if you don’t want to do it, say so.
1. CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Here's the thing about Cancers: they really hate to let other people down, so they agree to a lot of things they don't really want to do. Cancers worry that if they say no, they'll lose that friend or relationship, or that person will think less of them.
They'd rather be disappointed in themselves than have any outside person be unhappy with them. If you don't set up your own boundaries and stick to them, you'll constantly be letting yourself down.
2. LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Libras say yes more often than they should. For Libra, if they don't say yes, they'll become anxious. Libras usually have some ongoing guilt about something, even tiny things that most people don't give a second thought about — like the time they only brought one bag of ice to the cocktail party.
Libras tend to feel responsible for other people's happiness. It really might be the end of the world if they don't enliven the party with their dazzling personality. They hate feeling as if someone is angry with them, and the last thing they want to do is get into a discussion about it, so instead, they'll just say yes to everything.
3. SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
It's easy to tell that Sagittarius is lacking in personal boundaries in the way they overshare. Since Sagittarius tend to make friends easily and quickly, they skip a few levels of bonding and go right to telling their new friend (or the stranger from ten minutes ago) about their painful breakups, any medical issues they're having, or whatever else is going on in their head.
Their topics aren't always appropriate and make the other person feel uncomfortable. On the flip side, it's sometimes easier for Sagittarius to share with someone they barely know than with someone they know well. Sagittarius' radar seems to be off when it comes to knowing what to share and with whom.
4. GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Geminis can be extremely indecisive, and not being able to make decisions in a timely manner can be an indication of a lack of personal boundaries. Geminis may not know what they want to do or don't want to do and find it easier to just let someone else decide.
When you spend a majority of your time doing what other people want, or turning to them to make decisions for you, you may gradually lose your sense of self. It isn't that Gemini doesn't have the ability to think for themselves, it's that they overthink things and end up not wanting to deal with it at all.
5. LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Leos are strong and self-confident, but that doesn't mean they don't look to others to help them make decisions. Sometimes it's just exhausting being Leo. When you're a leader, you do a lot for the good of other people, and sometimes you sacrifice your own needs in the process.
Leos are constantly doing what other people request them to do which leaves them very little time to live their own life. Leos are constantly putting their needs at the bottom of the list and wondering why they feel completely done by the end of the day.
6. PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Many Pisces have a fear of being rejected or abandoned and that fear influences their behavior. They want to do whatever they can to guarantee that they'll continue to be liked, even if that means doing something they don't want to do. Pisces are selfless, so they tend to put other people's needs above their own.
Pisces are scared to say no because they fear that if they do, that person might get angry with them — or worse, just walk away. Pisces need to set boundaries so they feel more secure.
Christine Schoenwald is a writer, performer, and teacher who loves writing and performing personal narratives. She's had pieces in The Los Angeles Times, Salon, Woman's Day, Purple Clover, Bustle, and is a regular contributor to Ravishly and YourTango. Check out her website or her Facebook page.