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How To Fix Your Struggling Relationship, According To Your Zodiac Sign

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How To Fix Your Struggling Relationship, According To Your Zodiac Sign

If you're currently going through a rough patch in your relationship and unsure how to fix the communication problems you have with your mate, you're not alone. 

Every couple, no matter how compatible they are as lovers, friends, and zodiac signs, is susceptible to a struggling relationship. 

Astrology can tell you which zodiac signs are most likely to struggle, and which ones aren't.

But did you know that it can also help you figure out why you're struggling to keep things afloat?

When it comes to relationships, there's a lot of work that needs to go in from both partners to keep things happy and healthy.

But it's so easy to forget that you need to think about what your partner wants and needs, too. I know that sometimes, I feel like my needs and wants are more important than my partner's, even if I know that isn't true.

But there are times when I struggle to put him first or make our relationship a priority, and I need to sit back and get myself to go back to the basics.

Whenever I get too caught up in trying to control my relationship or I feel like there's not enough love going around, I try to step back from all the messiness and think about what's most important.

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For me, this means making a list —sometimes a mental list, sometimes a real list — of what I love most about my partner and what my priorities are in my relationship.

I believe that romance is a big thing that should always be a part of my relationship; I don't have to be wooed every single day but spending quality time with each other (even when we're not together) every week is important.

I also know that communication and honesty are key; if we can't talk like adults, then we can't do anything together, period.

If you don't communicate with your partner, then I can guarantee that your relationship will struggle big time.

All relationships have their own problems, but most of the time they are common issues that every couple goes through.

Does that make it harder to fix because they're so common? No, quite the opposite, in fact. It means that your struggles aren't anything people haven't gone through before.

And while it might be hard to figure out the root of the problem or find a solution, astrology can help you figure out what to do. According to your horoscope, every zodiac sign has relationship struggles that are common for that sign.

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What might be an integral part of you and your sign, might also be what's bringing your relationship down.

You might be always on the go or someone who likes to focus on the little things, but when it comes to your relationship, it can make your partner feel like you don't care about taking things slow or can't help but criticize every little thing.

Trust me, there are fixes to these struggles; your relationship might need extra for the next few weeks or months, but there is always a way to figure things out.

Once you acknowledge that there is a problem in your relationship, you and your partner can take the steps to fix it.

Keep reading to figure out how you might be contributing to your relationship problems and how to fix your struggling relationship, according to your zodiac sign.

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)

Aries, you're always so fast-paced in life and your relationships, which might be good on some occasions, but isn't always the way to go.

For you, it can be hard to slow down and take into account that your partner has wants and needs, too. It's easy to want to be on the go and get things done with the snap of your fingers because that's how you roll.

If your relationship is struggling, it could be because you're too caught up in worrying about yourself instead of remembering that you're one half of a partnership.

Remember that you're not the only one in this relationship; it's all about give and take. Not everything needs to be a challenge, either – love in itself is a challenge. Learn to slow down and take it easy.

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TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)

Taurus, if your relationship isn't all about stability and romance, then you're not having any of it. That said, you can be a little obsessed with security and trust, wanting there to be so much reliability in your relationship that it ends up feeling like a future investment than love.

You're a hopeless romantic that secretly wants to do everything your way or the highway. When it comes to relationships, you have a timeline of what your relationship should look like. You know that dating comes first, then making it official, moving in, marriage and babies... slow down.

Put yourself in your partner's shoes — just because this timeline works for you doesn't mean it's giving them cold feet. Work on your emotional investment, not on what sounds good in your head.

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GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)

Gemini, for your relationship to feel happy and perfect, you need constant communication and stimulation. Any sense of routine and you're immediately bored. You can be hot and cold at times, so you need a partner who is willing to keep up with you.

Trust me when I say that if you've found this person, you need to hold them close. Your partner is probably multidimensional and fascinating, aren't they?

Because of your dual nature, you need someone to reflect the good things back onto you (so you don't forget what you have). You can get too caught up in what you want instead of what you need that you should use your "mirror" to reflect positive partner skills you can adapt. Let them be your mentor, in a way.

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CANCER (June 21 - July 22)

Cancer, the ideal relationship for you is centered around safety and nurturing — without those two things, you can't thrive. You also require a lot of reassurance; kind of like check-ins to make sure that everything is going as planned. But all this cautiousness does not a thrilling romance make.

You tend to play it safe rather than go all in when it comes to love. You need to risk heartbreak to find true love; your heart can withstand more than you think, it's not made of glass.

What your partner loves about you is the fact that you're a flirt who likes to tease... just remember to follow through, too. Relationships are a learning process and you have a lot of love to give. Don't hold back because your relationship will definitely suffer for it.

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LEO (July 23 - August 22)

Leo, you need — no, you crave — attention and affection. You're a leader in life and love, and you need to express how you feel, when you feel it. Your partner should (and almost always is) excitable and passionate; everything you love about them.

But not every day has to be crazy and intense. Sometimes, love can't be surprising if you're at the same level of intensity every day. You might not shy away from a little drama every now and then, but remember that your relationship is not a soap opera and your partner might not agree.

If you're constantly working up tears and storming off in the middle of arguments, it will show your partner that you're really not ready to commit, despite what you say. Tone down the drama or at least save it for the bedroom.

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VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)

Virgo, you need order and mental stimulation in your relationship to be happy and satisfied. You're also a perfectionist, which isn't necessarily a bad thing, but it can lead to a lot of anxiety and worry when things don't go according to your plan.

For you, relationships should be all about polishing every little smudge and fixing every squeaky wheel. There's no denying that you're very thoughtful and deliberate, but you focus on the little things rather than the whole picture.

When you take a picture, you don't zoom in until you can't tell what anything is; you take in the whole subject and go from there. Nit-picking and scrutinizing your relationship is a recipe for disaster. Learn to zoom out and teach yourself to love the whole picture.

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LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)

Libra, equality and companionship is a must in your relationship. You want to feel like your partner's equal and friend, but still make plenty of room for romance.

You love the traditional feel of a relationship, including courting and gifts, because you've always been drawn to the authenticity of true love. That said, you never, ever want to be known as the "old married couple" type that never does anything new; you want to be swept off your feet and make your own rules.

This crippling fear of the "usual" can make you hold your partner at arm's length without being able to articulate what you're so afraid of. Let go and know you're unique because no one does a relationship like you do — not even all the Libras in the world.

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SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)

Scorpio, when you're in a relationship, you want to feel like part of a dynamic duo with your partner. You have a hard time opening up to people and trusting others with your heart, so knowing that your partner is also your best friend makes it easier to be your most authentic self.

Once you know you have a solid foundation, you can move onto other important things. Your relationship is probably incredibly intense and deep, which is important, but definitely not the most important thing about your relationship.

Stop turning everything into a serious thing and convincing yourself that you need to be the hardcore couple everyone else envies. Sometimes serious relationships are better when there's a sense of independence. Try being two separate people in love instead of one unit; even best friends need their own lives.

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SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)

Sagittarius, you need adventure and variety in your relationship to make you want toWhat Is The Difference Between Polyamory and Polygamy? keep putting in the time and effort. You prefer to play things fast and loose, and you love without limits or expectations.

These are amazing qualities to have when you use them right, so let love be about growing, rather than something you do with your eyes closed. You can, however, still revert to your old ways (or the tendencies you had when you were single), which often include polyamory and too much freedom.

Now that you're in a relationship, remember that sacrifice and compromise are not bad things. Learn and understand more about each other instead of just being someone you come home to at night. Honest is key for you.

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CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)

Capricorn, you want something that's going to last forever — that's why you put all of your time and effort into your relationship. And trust me when I say that your partner definitely knows how important this is to you.

That said, you also need plenty of "me time" to recharge on your own, instead of overdosing on love to the point where you don't want to be a part of it anymore. You want to be accomplished in both life and love, and you'll do whatever it takes to succeed.

But instead of controlling your partner, you need to think of them as your equal — this is a partnership, after all. Don't treat love like a business. It should be carefree and rule-free, rather than something you dictate. Dominating your relationship will only keep driving your partner away.

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AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)

Aquarius, your relationship must have friendship and collaboration for you to feel at home. Relationships are about being a part of a team to you; without feeling like you can't be with your best friend, you can't be in your relationship 100 percent.

You don't mind an exclusive relationship over a casual one, but you don't want to feel like you're tied down by anyone, either. That said, you can revert to either pulling away without explanation or becoming a people-pleaser, at times.

You can get caught up with wanting to please your partner and make sure that they're happy without worrying about what you want because you either don't care or don't want to try. Don't bend to fit your partner's mold or become totally complacent — trust me, they hate it, too.

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PISCES (February 19 - March 20)

Pisces, your relationship is your escape; it's where you go to find happiness and live out your dreams in the real world. You want deepness and security first and foremost, but romance and seduction is the way to your heart.

But just because you have a long list of things you're looking for doesn't mean they can't be met. In fact, there's a good chance you've already found the person willing to give you everything and more.

That said, you can be hot and cold at times if you feel like your partner is smothering you. You know that there is a difference between a big love and someone who would rather suffocate you in everything you want than love you for you.

You need to find that balance in your relationship and literally (yes, literally) define "healthy" with your partner; don't make excuses for not being on the same page.

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Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.