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This is why.
By Christine Schoenwald — Written on Jul 19, 2017
Is there anything more confusing than being in love with someone and not having them be in love with you back? You may have consulted your horoscope to figure out how to deal with this unrequited love, but have come up short.
You’re dating someone and it seems to be going great, yet the two of you aren't experiencing the same emotions. You know you’re amazing and you think that the both of you have some real chemistry and can see the two of you going the distance in the relationship.
Unfortunately, it seems that you’re the only one with stars in your eyes and love in your heart because the guy that you’re falling for just isn’t in the same space that you are.
Sure, it’s easy to see that he likes you well enough and is fond of you, but it almost feels like it’s more of a brotherly love or a friend-love than the romantic kind. You both were on the same page when you started dating and you made your intentions clear — you wanted a relationship, and one that would lead to commitment, possibly a lifetime commitment, and he said he wanted those things too.
You know he isn’t dating anyone else, so what’s the problem? Why isn’t he taking steps to make your relationship more permanent? Why hasn't he fallen in love with you?
You don’t want to rush him into a more serious relationship nor do you want to force him to love you. He’s said he can see himself falling in love with you but you wonder what’s taking him so long. Has he changed his mind? Are you no longer what he considers his dream girl and marriage material?
Sometimes we need a little help in answering questions, and astrology is the answer. The clues to why he doesn't love you may be right in front of you but you just can’t see them. The stars can help by telling you what’s the most likely reason (according to his zodiac sign) he’s not in love with you.
His falling in love with you might be inevitable, but let's see what the stars say is the reason for him holding back on giving you his heart.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
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He's going through a very self-centered time in his life right now. He only has the bandwidth to truly focus on himself. To add someone else into the mix would be too distracting. Once he makes some progress in his career that he needs to make or finishes training for that marathon, he'll be able to allow someone else (you) into his heart.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
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He decided a long time ago that there was one type and one type only of the woman he'd fall in love with. When you restrict yourself in this way, it can be difficult to see what's right in front of you. Deep inside, he knows that you're the woman for him but acknowledging that is going to take some flexibility on his part. And openness to change, even if it's for his own good, isn't one of his strengths.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
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He doesn't think that he can love right now because he's not sure that he's ready to commit to love right now. Geminis have a real problem with commitment and they tend to hold out on love, just in case someone better comes along. Now, if you were unavailable in some way, then he'd be confessing his love to you, but if there's no travel restriction to keep you apart, he's going to try to resist falling in love with you.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
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He can't fall in love with you because he's in love with someone else — his ex. Sure, they broke up a while ago and both have moved on but he's still obsessing over her and looking at their past relationship as if it was the perfect relationship ever to have existed. He needs to wake up and see that that relationship died for a reason and that you're the one he should be longing for.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
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He's kind of wrapped up in his persona right now and is more about how things appear on the surface, rather than how he actually feels. You know how someone is good on paper but then you meet them and there's no chemistry? Well, he's like that with other people. He's not letting them see the real him that you see. However, him not being ready to let down his guard is why he doesn't love you.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
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Honestly, he's terrified at how you make him feel so he's looking for any flaws that you might have and then using them as a way to not get close to you. Once he calms down and stops being so critical, he'll see the truth about how he feels about you. You just need to ride out this phase of his.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
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He seems so confident on the surface but underneath he might be unlovable. He's scared to take a chance on love with you because he might get hurt and you might tell him things about himself that he's not ready to hear. Over time, he'll realize that he's worthy of love and will understand the depth of feeling he has for you.
Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
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He's overthinking everything and is two moves ahead. He's already convinced himself that if he falls in love with you, you'll run away and he'll be left devastated. He needs to feel in control and when he's emotional, he feels as if he loses that control. He needs to just chill and stop trying to predict the future and just let whatever is going to happen, happen. Maybe he'll be surprised and the things that happen will be happiness and love.
Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
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He thinks that love equals being tied down for eternity and he's not ready to give up his independent spirit. You need to prove to him that love isn't stifling or controlling; in fact, it can be a source of freedom. If he wants to travel, you might want to go to or, if not, you'll have no problem letting him go on his own.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
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He's trying to keep so busy with projects and work so that he won't have to deal with his feelings (which he finds scary). If he would just be honest with himself and stop running away from his emotions, he'd be able to admit that he sees you as more than a friend or a colleague.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
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He has decided that since he's been alone for so long, that's how he'll remain. The reason he's in an emotional rut is that he's scared of being hurt. Since he's not someone who is comfortable with emotions, he doesn't know what to do or how to express himself. Just show him love and have patience and eventually, he should come around.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
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He loves his friends and family so much and puts a lot of love towards them and he's not sure he's ready to bring you into the fold. He's not playing; if he loves you, he's going to want you to be around for a long time and to be part of his family. This isn't something that he goes into lightly. He needs to stop putting everyone else's needs above his own and realize that he deserves to be happy and to love and be loved.
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