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13 BRUTALLY Honest Dan Savage Quotes On Love & Relationships

Dan Savage’s advice to both straight and LGBTQ people alike is just as his moniker suggests: savage.

The author, journalist, and media pundit has spent years using his quick-witted demeanor to offer raw, sometimes withering advice, but he's always honest with both his position on matters and the suggestions he offers. His humor and zest for life are obvious, and his quotes will have you both laughing and crying with their sincerity and in-your-face attitude.

When it comes to love and relationships, there is no one more matter-of-fact than the man who has spent years making his biting observations about the human condition and sexuality known to the world so we can all share in them and make the world a friendlier place for everyone to live, love, and enjoy who they are.

Dan Savage started off small, and in 1991 befriended Tim Keck, the founder of The Onion, when he made a passing remark that changed his life — and his future readers’ and listeners’ lives around America and even other parts of the world. “Make sure your paper has an advice column — everybody claims to hate ‘em, but everybody seems to read ‘em.”

This eventually prompted Keck to give Savage a position at his “alternative weekly newspaper,” The Stranger, where he still writes to this day, giving away some of the craziest, best advice you'll ever read.

A strong rights advocate and activist for the LGBTQ community, he’s used his position to help others, especially vulnerable young LGBTQ teens, by participating in and founding the It Gets Better Project, which works to encourage people to reassure and support gay teenagers by showing them that life will improve and helping them to not give in to their bullies.

Savage is outspoken, opinionated, and makes no qualms about where his ideals on relationships and sexuality in the modern age lie. He hopes to help others achieve the same freedom from societally-engineered pressures and to embrace their happiness in a way that could only lie through total dedication to the honesty of self.

So if you’re looking for someone to spit some harsh truths your way, and open your eyes, then look no further! Here are 15 of some of Dan Savage’s most honest, brutal, inspirational quotes that you’ll soon fall in love with:

1. On how to make sure you're fulfilling your goals first:

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"I think the best thing for you to do is just live your life. Live a life that's worth living. One where you do what you want to do, pursue your passions. That way, if you meet someone, they'll be joining a life that's already really good."

2. It's OK to have scars.

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"We all have our scars. That's what falling in love is all about: revealing your scars to somebody who loves you anyway."

3. A little faith goes a long way...

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"I'm always telling people who say two men can't make a baby: 'Anything is possible for God. I'm going to keep inseminating my husband and keep my fingers crossed.'"

4. Perspective is EVERYTHING.

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"One man's piss-soaked sadomasochistic orgy is another man's poetic ecstasy."

5. So pursue your own happiness!

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"The right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness means that each of us is free to go our own way, even if the ways some of us may choose to go seem sinful or shocking to our fellow citizens."

6. An interesting question...

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"Is it adultery if I'm committing it at one end of a guy and he's committing it at the other end of that same guy?"

7. So do it well!

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"It doesn't matter what you're doing. It matters how you're doing it."

8. On sinning and finding your happiness:

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"I don't think that sin and pursuing happiness are not necessarily the same thing."

9. Eat up!

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"Remember, kids: A romantic meal doesn't put you in the mood for a good f*ck, but a good f*ck builds up an appetite for a romantic meal."

10. White lies can be positive... sometimes.

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"I don't want my husband to tell me the truth about everything all the time. What relationship could survive that kind of scalding, deposition-style nightmare?"

11. Look for the right kind of Mr. Right, not the fake ones!

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"Women can go on marrying and pretending that their boyfriends and husbands are Mr. Darcy or some RomCom dream man... But where's that going to get 'em? Besides divorce court?"

12. You have to define it for yourselves.

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"Straight couples don't have to be monogamous to be married or married to be monogamous. Monogamy no more defines marriage than the presence of children does. Monogamy isn't compulsory and its absence doesn't invalidate a marriage."

13. Choose wisely.

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"Every relationship you're in will fail, until one doesn't."



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