The Virgo Man Explained: Love, Characteristics & More
He’s a perfectionist, but is he perfect for you?
Aygun Ali & Kiselev Andrey Valerevich / Shutterstock Those with a Virgo Sun sign are born between August 23 and September 22. Ruled by Mercury, the 6th zodiac sign in astrology is often referred to as the Virgin or the Maiden.
Though the Virgo symbol may be feminine, this mutable sign is used to switching things up, and is flexible in new situations.
Virgo Man: Overview
The Virgo man is the organized problem-solver of the Zodiac. This Earth sign has a strong work ethic, relishes in the small details, and is always finding the most efficient and methodical way to complete tasks. Erudite and intelligent, his mind has many hidden layers that require a lot of understanding.
Because he’s analytical and wants to be the “fixer” in his relationships, people may perceive him as having unrealistic expectations. But this just means he’s dedicated and committed — whether it’s in a romantic situation, work, friendship, or any other area of life.
Despite his commitment, he’s a hard shell to crack; much like the Virgo woman, he doesn’t open up emotionally, and allowing himself to be vulnerable with others requires time and effort. Still, this intellectual, practical perfectionist will give his all in his relationships.
Virgo Man In Love and Relationships
Virgo men are not the types to get hot and heavy with you on the first date. Because he seeks perfection in all he does, a Virgo man will move slowly, weighing the pros and cons before becoming fully emotionally invested. This can come off as cold in the beginning, but he’s old-fashioned; he wants a love that’s devoted and long-lasting rather than fiery and brief.
How does a Virgo man act when he's in love? As he starts to fall in love, he will be subtle with his advances, so it may be confused with disinterest. Spontaneous trips and passionate date nights might be lacking in a relationship with a Virgo man, but if he's methodically planning his life around his partner or arranging well-thought-out plans, he’s falling in love.
A Virgo man in love prefers to show his adoration and dedication through acts of service, rather than through gushing love letters or cheesy texts. He’s low-key with his love, so it may not be immediately obvious to the untrained eye.
What does a Virgo man like in a woman, in particular? The perfect partner for the Virgo man is someone who is drama-free, authentic, honest, true to their word, intelligent, driven, and holds themselves to high standards.
When it comes to Virgo compatibility, this zodiac sign makes a great match for the other Earth signs, Capricorn and Taurus. These signs all have a similar work ethic and drive. In addition, Scorpio and Virgo have similar communication styles and value deep thought; Pisces may be Virgo's opposite, but their dreamy nature can help loosen Virgo up a bit.
However, many signs can still attract a Virgo man if they match their high standards. Show up on time, looking well-groomed and organized for your dates with Virgo to take the first step into his heart.
Virgo Man Sexuality
Virgo men want to keep their relationship a secret until a formal commitment has been made. His old-fashioned ways may seem positively archaic and stiff, but, like many men of the Victorian era, a modest and even parsimonious public persona might serve as a foil for an appetite that swings toward secret kinks.
Virgo is also incredibly sensual and craves intimacy behind closed doors in spite of his stoic outside persona.
How do you handle a Virgo man? In bed, he will need some inspiration from his partner to quell his overly analytical mind. His partner should keep an open mind to discover a lover who is dexterous and good with his hands.
This is a man who will take his time and be exceedingly exacting in his pleasure-giving, and with a little bit of time, can become open to trying things like role play or new positions. A natal chart is still needed to determine exactly what he’s like intimately, particularly his Rising sign and Moon sign.
Virgo Man Personality Traits
What is the personality of a Virgo male? Virgo men are perfectionists and, as hard as they might be on you, they’re even harder on themselves. Virgo men favor practicality and simplicity in their daily lives. They are purists and love to find ways to tend to and serve others.
Those dating a Virgo man may notice that he’s helpful, attentive, rational, and pays attention to detail; however, Virgo men can be critical, judgmental, stubborn, anxious, and a little too caring. Whether or not a Virgo man exhibits any or all of these traits, it often depends on what is going on in his life.
Love, family, and career bring out the best (and the worst) in these complex creatures.
Detail-oriented Virgo often focuses too heavily on the why and how of things. Perfectionism is both a virtue and a curse, and he can be endlessly fussy and particular, making it difficult to agree with him on anything.
Though he's ruled by the planet of communication, Mercury, he often conveys his points harshly, coming off as an inconsiderate know-it-all. He's also a worrier, coming up with hundreds of different outcomes for every scenario instead of just allowing things to play out naturally. This can be particularly damaging to Virgo, who suppresses his emotions.
Cool, calm, and collected on the outside, Virgo's desire to seem perfect can repress and fester darker emotions. Virgos thrive when they channel their natural communicative side and let go of their need to be perfect all the time.
Virgo Man: Career
If zodiac signs were included on resumes, the Virgo man would get any job he applied for.
Virgos excel in any environment. With their intensely focused work ethic, stellar organization skills, and analytical minds, they endeavor to succeed in even the most boring aspects of their job.
Where Virgos do struggle is when it comes to teamwork and collaboration. Sticklers for details, they come across as brash and find themselves frustrated with others when they’re not being attentive enough. However, if left to work alone, Virgo will complete every assigned task as quickly and efficiently as he would if part of a team.
Since their perfectionism has no limits, men born with the Virgo sign excel in highly specialized career areas. They flourish in academia and science. As Earth signs, they are also practical and didactic, working well with their hands. This makes them experts at craftsmanship.
Virgo Man: Family Life
Family is very important to the Virgo man, who shows time and time again that he’s caring and reliable. Though he may not be the most obvious with his love and affection, he nurtures his family through communication and passing down his intelligence. Virgo dads also tend to take on a teaching role.
But Virgo can also be seen as somewhat of a disciplinarian, wanting a clean home and family members that adhere to what he wants. As long as everything remains in order, Virgo is understanding, despite his occasional criticism towards both his partner or kids. Above all, he wants to be respected by his family.
Virgo Man: Friendships
Because Virgo is dedicated to the other aspects of his life, particularly his career and romantic situations, his friendships are no different. Virgo is the friend everyone can count on to come through, in good times and bad. He’s selfless and is the first one to offer help to anyone who needs it, especially if it’s a close friend.
However, he has a tendency to be judgmental, which can come off in a negative way. He’s also not very emotional, so he has a hard time handling friends with conflicts like this. Still, though he may appear a bit standoffish, those close to him know how deeply caring he is, even if he doesn’t openly show it.
8 Fun Facts About Virgo Men
1. Virgo men are good at putting on a happy face.
Even when they’re facing inner turmoil, Virgo is able to appear unbothered. Their outward calm, however, could indicate that they are freaking out on the inside.
2. This zodiac sign is sensitive.
Though many wouldn’t think so based on how reserved Virgos are, they are actually delicate and emotional. Sometimes, they may even project their inner insecurities with their tendency to criticize.
3. They hate confrontation.
These zodiac signs will do whatever they can to avoid confrontation; it’s most likely why they tend to be so conservative. They will also nip an issue in the bud before it explodes into something more serious.
4. Virgos are assertive.
Despite hating confrontation, a Virgo man knows how to defend himself. They fight back with harsh, biting words, causing the aggressor to slither back into their place.
5. They are restrained for a reason.
Virgo keeps to themselves, mostly because they don’t want to get hurt. It takes time for them to be vulnerable, which appears to those who don’t know Virgo as uncaring.
6. Virgos are modest.
Virgo’s symbol is the Virgin, representing humility. They refrain from putting themselves in the spotlight, and don’t readily accept praise.
7. This zodiac sign can solve any problem.
Virgos think, and think, and think, meaning they are capable of solving problems. Since they pay attention to the details, it’s no wonder they find solutions where others don’t easily see them.
8. There’s another side to Virgo.
Virgo shows the world their shy, reserved, and logical side, but they have the ability to let loose and get a little wild. Those who know them best are much more likely to bring out this side of Virgo.
Famous Virgo Men
Many intelligent and brilliant famous men are Virgos. These famous Virgo men are dedicated, hard-working, and are perfectionists when it comes to their passions.
Bill Murray: September 21, 1950
Nick Jonas: September 16, 1992
Bernie Sanders: September 8, 1941
Jimmy Fallon: September 19, 1974
Freddie Mercury: September 5, 1946
Harry Connick Jr.: September 11, 1967
Keanu Reeves: September 2, 1964
Adam Sandler: September 9, 1966
Tom Hardy:: September 15, 1977
Prince Harry September 15, 1984
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