People Who Are Mentally & Emotionally Angry Usually Say 10 Phrases In Casual Conversation
Vitaly Gariev | Pexels Some people are literally always angry. From the moment they open their eyes to the second their head hits the pillow at night, they're seething with frustration that feels somewhat unexplainable. Most of the time, it's a sign that someone's suppressing something bigger.
They feel out of control. They lack direction in their life. They feel pressured or challenged. Their insecurities are becoming harder to avoid. While anger tends to be somewhat of an internal battle, people who are mentally and emotionally angry reveal themselves with certain phrases.
Phrases mentally and emotionally angry people usually say
1. 'It's fine'
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This is the person who's always quietly seething. Even when something annoys them or they feel wronged, they bottle up all their anger inside. But just because they suppress their anger and hold it in a tense jaw or gritted teeth, it doesn't mean it disappears. It just transforms.
So, if you notice someone isolating themselves or making unexpectedly cruel comments under their breath, chances are they're being fueled by hurt and anger. When they say "it's fine," it's obvious it's not.
2. 'You never listen to me'
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Even if they're great at hiding their anger in other ways, someone suppressing these complicated feelings often allow it to seep out in strange ways. Their anger takes a new form, usually in passive, unexpected ways.
"You never listen to me" or "I can't believe this" are just a few of the passive-aggressive, condescending phrases they say. They're not going to blow up and put all their resentment on the table, but you'll still see it filtering through their words.
3. 'I'm not talking to you'
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The silent treatment is a common tactic for angry people because they can avoid the complexity of their feelings while still making someone else feel their hurt. This coping strategy only creates more anger and frustration for everyone involved.
They can avoid the hard conversations and hold onto their anger as justification for being upset, but they're never truly getting to the root of it.
4. 'I don't know, I just do'
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When someone's holding onto anger, it's incredibly uncomfortable for them to be introspective. They're not going to name why they're actually angry if it's become a part of their narrative, but they're also going to be emotionally disconnected.
When someone asks them why they're upset or what's going on, you'll hear some version of this phrase and a whole picture of rigid body language accompanying it.
5. 'Why would you do that?'
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Displaced anger is when someone hyperfocuses on a different, often unrelated trigger to express their pent-up emotions, and it's common in conversations. For someone who struggles to reflect and process their complicated emotions, it might seem like they're getting angry at nothing. The reaction doesn't match the crime.
"Why would you do that?" over small chores and mistakes makes people feel attacked, and for good reason. Their reaction usually has little to do with the issue at hand and everything to do with the anger they're ignoring inside.
6. 'See what you made me do?'
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When someone can't process their emotions internally or mentally, they turn to external displays of aggression to cope. These are the kinds of people who punch walls and throw papers across an office when they're upset, because there's a mountain of rage inside of them with nowhere to go.
They may also shift blame onto others to avoid accountability when they have an outburst. They're essentially having an adult tantrum, without the words or coping strategies to actually process what they're feeling in a healthy way.
7. 'You're so crazy'
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When they feel insecure or called out, a mentally and emotionally angry person often copes with those feelings by resorting to rage. It feels like a default when vulnerability is somewhat out of reach. Their shame fuels the fire of their rage, because even harmless, slightly embarrassing situations make them feel rejected.
"You're so crazy" is just one example of an angry insult they might throw out when they feel uncertain. Whether they're at home with a partner or in the workplace, they're not afraid to punch back when they feel like they're being personally attacked.
8. 'I'm only going to say this one time'
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Some truly insecure, manipulative people process anger in calculated ways. They use their complex emotions to make other people feel scared and vulnerable so they can protect their own comfort and avoidance.
Classic examples include phrases like "You'll be sorry" and "I'm only going to say this one time." They control people by weaponizing their own anger, instead of going inside themselves and figuring out how to process it on their own.
9. 'It's not fair'
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When someone plays the victim and tries to cling to unfairness as a justification for their anger, it's much easier for them to control others. They can protect their feelings without actually having to do any introspection about why they're hurt.
They need to figure out how to make their anger seem justified, so they craft a story or cling to a misleading role to convince others.
10. 'I'm not doing this'
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Avoidance is a common strategy for angry people, because the heart of their reactions and behaviors is dysregulation. They don't know how to process sadness or express embarrassment, so they rely on the mask of anger around others.
While it might offer some immediate relief to avoid the heart of their anger or a conversation that forces them to be vulnerable, over time, they're only creating more inner turmoil and stress for themselves.
Zayda Slabbekoorn is a senior editorial strategist with a bachelor's degree in social relations & policy and gender studies who focuses on psychology, relationships, self-help, and human interest stories.
