If Someone Truly Sees Your Soul, They’ll Notice These 11 Things Nobody Else Does
Someone who truly understands you can see the things that you might try to hide from everyone else.
carballo / Shutterstock There's something quite rare about meeting someone who sees you for exactly the kind of person you are. You don't have to pretend around them or hide the parts of yourself that you think might be shameful. Instead, they see you just as you are and notice all the parts of your soul that make you, you. It's not just attention, but it's an understanding that this is who you are, and they not only refuse to have you apologize for it, but they also don't want to dim your light at all. Being seen like that is such a different feeling if you're not used to feeling that level of being understood and listened to.
It's a recognition that you're enough and every part of you matters, even the things that you might not say. These people are the type who notice every little shift that you make without saying a word at all. They can tell when you're off in the same way they can tell that you're perfectly content. To be around someone who gets you can feel as if you're finally being accepted, especially if you've gone so long having to bend over backwards to make people happy and comfortable around you.
If someone truly sees your soul, they'll notice these 11 things nobody else does
1. The weight of your thoughts
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It can sometimes feel as if your thoughts are just on a completely different track than everyone else's. You carry all of these thoughts on your own, maybe constantly overthinking and believing that no one will ever understand you. But it's just how you process the world. While some people may think it's a burden, it's just what makes you so aware and intuitive, and the weight of carrying it can be quite exhausting.
"Going unheard and unseen for too long can have negative emotional, psychological, and even physical effects. Life is too short to dedicate any more time to people who do not care to truly see or hear you. Heck, such people may not even notice that you are moving on, because, after all, that's what happens when they can't even see or hear you in the first place," explained digital health expert Bruce Y. Lee.
But for someone who truly sees your soul, they notice every part of it, and they appreciate it wholeheartedly. There's no having to excuse yourself or pretend that you're not sitting there with these heavy thoughts. Instead, they sit and listen while you talk everything out.
2. Your unspoken fears
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We all have fears that live in the deepest corners of our minds. It truly does shape how you move through the world, even if you aren't fully aware of it happening. It could be the fear of ending up alone or losing the people that you care about the most. Whatever those unspoken fears are, they're not said out loud for a reason. You might be the type of person who holds back from saying how you really feel because you're afraid of being judged.
"These fears are common and can be deeply ingrained, but it's important to remember that they can be overcome. By acknowledging and understanding these fears, individuals can take steps towards conquering them and living a more fulfilling and authentic life," encouraged licensed therapist John Kim.
But when someone truly sees your soul, they can sense these fears, and there's not a bone in their body that ever wants to make you feel less than for these fears. Instead, they want to help you protect yourself from them. They can sense the fears that you're trying to hide, not because you can't handle them, but because you're just a human being.
3. How you fidget when you're nervous
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Sometimes our actions speak so much louder than words can. When the nerves take over, you might be someone who constantly fidgets, whether that means moving your fingers, bouncing your leg up and down, or just flitting your gaze around the room as if looking for something. All of these movements might be something that other people don't notice, or if they do, they don't put together in their mind that you're nervous.
"When we feel anxious, our instinct is often to fight it, try to fix it, or distract ourselves from it. Distraction can be helpful at times, except when the means we use to distract are unhealthy or unhelpful in the long run," said psychotherapist Andrea Wachter.
That restless energy is something though that someone who's really paying attention will truly pay attention to. Not only that, but they'll immediately soothe your nerves. They aren't put off by your fidgeting energy. Instead, they see it as proof of how emotionally engaged you are in whatever is happening. They'll support you, rather than finding it embarrassing or dismissing you altogether.
4. How much you overprepare
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While some people might just wing it and go with the flow, you can't help but be the kind of person who needs to plan ahead for everything. You enjoy being in control of certain things, especially when it directly affects you. You want to avoid the chaos of the unknown as much as possible. Considering how unpredictable it can feel, it's just your way of soothing your anxiety.
"Things that are in your control are what you think, how you choose to act/react to what is, how you communicate, what you communicate, etc. By placing your focus on what you have the power to influence, you engage your strength and resiliency," pointed out psychotherapist Noelle McWard.
Most people might see the results that you cultivate, but they don't notice the process. However, when someone truly sees your soul, they see the fact that you're someone who needs to prepare for things ahead of time. Not only do they notice it, but they help you out. They'll be there to bounce ideas off of, and they'll be a comforting presence when you feel overwhelmed by the tasks at hand, too.
5. Your hesitation to ask for help
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You're someone who would rather figure things out on your own and carry the weight of the world on your shoulders than actually ask for help. It's not pride, it's just how you've always lived your life. You quietly push through the things that need to be fixed, maintaining a facade that everything is fine so that people don't worry. But deep down inside, you crave some support and a little bit of help from time to time. The request just gets lodged in your throat.
"Asking for and receiving help is a vital part of a healthy relationship. On the one hand, it creates a sense of trust through reliability. On the other hand, it fosters a feeling of significance for both parties—the helper and the receiver," said mental health counselor Leon Garber.
But when someone sees your soul for what it is, they can sense the fact that you're someone who can't ask for help, and they step up to the plate. They offer their hand to pull you up, but they don't overstep because they know how important it is for you to be able to help yourself as well. They're just there, a silent support system, and they'll step in when they tell you that you're becoming overwhelmed.
6. The way you disappear to recharge
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When someone truly sees you, they can tell that you're the type of person who pulls back from everyone and everything from time to time. It's not because you're angry or trying to make some kind of statement, but because you need your quiet time to come back to yourself. It might look as if you're withdrawing, but the ones who know you for real understand that you're not being an avoidant, you're just trying to protect your energy.
Considering it's quite easy to feel overwhelmed in today's society, we all need moments where we're alone with our thoughts and the things that bring us comfort. Disappearing for a while is just your form of self-care. If someone truly sees your soul, they know that you need a couple of days, and then you'll be back to your usual self.
7. The small joys that make your day
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It could be something as simple as going to the coffee shop on the corner and getting your favorite latte, or knowing that you don't have to wake up early the next day, so you can stay up late and finally finish watching the movie you've had on your watchlist for months. These small joys don't go unnoticed by someone who can truly see your soul.
They know what makes you feel lighter, and they make sure to help or give you these small joys as best as they can. They appreciate all of the little quirks that make you, you. They don't ever want you to apologize for it or try and pretend that these small things don't put a smile on your face.
8. Your instinct to observe before acting
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You're not the type of person who jumps at every single opportunity that lands in your lap before taking the necessary steps to ensure it's right for you. You proceed with caution at all times, and to most people, it might seem as if you're just scared or constantly hesitating, but to someone who truly sees your soul, they know that's what you do to protect yourself.
You pride yourself on making the right decisions for yourself and moving at your own pace. It might annoy other people, but it doesn't annoy the ones who really know you. Instead, they take the time to understand how your mind works, and they never expect you to make excuses for it or change how you are for the sake of their comfort.
9. Your unshakable loyalty
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When you devote yourself to someone, whether it's a friend or in a romantic partnership, you give your all to that person. You stand by people through their highs and lows, no matter what. Even if they're doubting themselves, you hold onto them so they don't fall. That kind of loyalty is what makes you the type of person you are. It comes straight from the heart.
When someone truly sees your soul, they see that loyalty clear as day. Not only do they see how loyal you are, but they never take it for granted or walk all over it just because they know they can. They respect your loyalty, and they would never want to do something to jeopardize that or make you revoke it.
10. The pride you have in your achievements
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You're someone who takes deep satisfaction in the fact that you've worked hard for the things you have. You savor each and every achievement with an immense amount of pride in yourself and your abilities. That pride comes from all of the effort you put into things, even amidst the struggles and moments where you aren't sure if it'll work out.
Each victory, whether it's big or small, is something you celebrate wholeheartedly. When someone sees you for who you are, they know how much value you place in your accomplishments. They cheer you on every step of the way and show up for you when you come out on top because of how proud they are of your success. They're never jealous or wishing for your downfall.
11. The music that moves you
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Someone who knows your soul is aware of how music affects you. They know that you aren't listening to music as just background noise, but that you pick songs based on how you're feeling or even what you're trying to manifest. A song can make you feel joy and cause you to dance in the same way that it can make you cry.
"Music therapy alleviates symptoms of anxiety and depression and improves social and occupational functioning. Aside from the biological benefits, such as increased dopamine and decreased stress hormones, music can help us to recognize, express, and process complex or painful emotions," explained psychiatrist Neel Burton.
You take curating playlists quite seriously, and when you send someone one, you are doing it from a special place because it's your very own love language. Most people might not notice the significance of how important music is to you, but the right person does. They understand the power that music has over your life, and they appreciate it more than anything.
Nia Tipton is a staff writer with a bachelor's degree in creative writing and journalism who covers news and lifestyle topics that focus on psychology, relationships, and the human experience.
