Unhappy People With Seriously Bad Attitudes Usually Say 11 Phrases In Otherwise Normal Conversations
Dean Drobot | Shutterstock Life is hard right now for many of us, and some of us have it worse than others. As someone who has been the resentful person out there in the past, I know how hard it can be to hide a bad attitude. It often comes out in speech during otherwise normal conversations.
If you hear or say these statements on a fairly regular basis from someone else, make no mistake about it, the person in question is deeply resentful of their circumstances. If this sounds like you, please know that that others can sense it, and it might be time to reach out for some support.
Unhappy people with seriously bad attitudes usually say these phrases in otherwise normal conversations:
1. ‘Oh, I’m soooo happy for you’
This can be said in honesty and with real happiness behind it, but be careful. It’s all about the tone. For a lot of us, myself included, we will say it when we want to be happy for you, but are generally unhappy with how we were treated in a similar circumstance.
If you notice a certain undertone of bitterness in there, it’s because they likely felt resentful of something they felt they should have gotten. Be careful, you never know how dark that bitterness can get.
2. ‘Must be nice…’
This is the same type of resentful speech that tends to happen when someone is very envious of other people. Their resentment has inspired a bad attitude so deep, they no longer even know when these rude little quips slip out. Or maybe they do and they just don't care.
Resentful people often feel like they’re unfairly treated or just resentful of how their lives have turned out. This phrase seems nice at face value, but it’s often followed by signs someone has become bitter.
3. ‘Of course, this would happen to me’
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Did you ever meet a person who seemed to have everything possible go wrong at the same time? They often feel resentful of their luck or just the situations they’re in, especially if they tried everything to make things better.
This is a phrase that tends to show how “over it” they really feel. They’re no longer shocked by anything negative that occurs. They’re just aware it’s there. Now, if someone says this while earnestly laughing, it might not be a totally disastrous bad attitude. Being able to laugh at your own bad luck can be a healthy way to bring positivity back.
4. ‘Sure, whatever you want’
Most people who harbor deep resentment feel like people just walk all over them with no recourse. People who are extremely resentful stop trying to even argue for their own needs. Rather, they may just bitterly agree to whatever, as in, “whatever you want.”
This is a phrase that suggests they’ve slowly given up on trying to stand up for themselves for one reason or another. It’s an indicator of future resentment, if only because everyone eventually gets tired of being a doormat.
5. ‘I’m fine’
Some people might genuinely be fine with life. Other people, on the other hand, might not be fine. It all depends on the way they say it, the context, and why they’re saying they’re “fine.”
If it’s clear they’re not actually fine and they’re trying to shut down concerns, they absolutely might be resentful of their lives. Sure, you can try to connect with them, to poke a little deeper and show some support, but if they do this a lot and generally say it with a nasty vibe, it might be better not to.
6. ‘I hate this’
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Maybe it’s just me, but when I am very resentful, I’ll straight up admit that my resentment is making me feel hateful. Resentment often manifests as a complex mix of anger, grief, and hatred.
If a person’s resentful about another person, they’ll say they hate the person. If they are resentful of a situation, they will often say they hate it.
7. ‘I’m sure eventually it will eventually happen for me’
This is quite literally the definition of what causes resentment: a person feeling like their needs are constantly ignored or because they feel like they’re constantly disrespected. It's a deeply passive-aggressive thing to say, unless it's said with hope and not with the goal to get someone to feel bad enough to help.
If you’ve noticed this becoming a rally cry of theirs, the person in question doesn’t actually believe they’ll get theirs. They’re subtly showing their anger at their needs being ignored.
8. ‘I’m just so tired’
Resentment isn’t just an emotion. It has a component that can turn physical. When people say that they’re “tired,” it can be a loaded statement. They may mean they’re tired on a physical level.
Or, they could be tired of the stuff they have to deal with on a regular basis. Being “tired” could also be a way to shut down discussions about increasingly-bitter remarks.
9. ‘Sure, it will get better’
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Many people are genuinely resentful for reasons that are quite valid. They are also told by others that it’ll get better and that things will improve. If serious resentment took hold, that kind of talk will likely make them snap at you.
No, they don’t want to hear it gets better. They want to see it get better.
10. ‘Please leave me alone’
People who have become deeply resentful generally become too angry and bitter to control themselves around others. They start to self-isolate and “cloister up” as a way to avoid getting hurt by other people again.
In reality, they may actually want to be around others, but they feel too badly burned to actually voice their needs anymore.
11. ‘Am I supposed to feel sorry for you?’
When you’re deeply resentful of someone or something, empathy is not an easy thing to create. People who are resentful may roll their eyes when you bring up your own grievances.
As Livia from The Sopranos would say, “Oh, poor you!”
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a writer whose work has been featured in Yahoo, BRIDES, Your Daily Dish, Newtheory Magazine, and others.
