When A Man Actually Feels Safe With A Woman, He’ll Start Doing These 11 Unmistakable Things
When a man feels truly safe and vulnerable with a woman, he will show it through his actions.
Roman J Royce / Shutterstock It can be challenging for men to express their true feelings about a woman. It’s not because he is second-guessing his feelings. It’s linked to the unnecessary societal pressure put on men to be stoic. They’ve been told they’re weak if they show their emotions. They want to impress others by coming off as strong, when in reality, all a woman wants is to be told how much a man loves and cares about her. When a man feels truly safe with a woman, he will give his whole heart to her.
“A lot of men struggle with effective communication when they are in love. They may not open up about their true feelings to their love interest. This situation is not entirely their fault, as society teaches most men to be strong and courageous in all circumstances. But love is a factor that contradicts this opinion,” says Rachel Pace. “Furthermore, when you capture his heart or when a man gives you his heart, know that he will display signs he wants to protect you at all costs, even if he’s not outspoken about it. He will devote everything to show signs you have captured his heart.”
When a man actually feels safe with a woman, he’ll start doing these 11 unmistakable things
1. He is vulnerable
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For some men, showing vulnerability is difficult. They never want to appear weak. When they fully feel safe with a woman, they will be comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings with her.
“Regardless of whether we admit it, we all have emotional needs in our relationships. When they go unmet, it opens the door for distrust and resentment. Numerous studies have shown what many of us know anecdotally: we all have varying emotional needs, with some people preferring emotional connection before physical connection and others who need physical connection before feeling an emotional tie. By being vulnerable with prospective or current partners, men can help meet these emotional needs,” says Nate Battle for Headspace. “Apart from intimate partners, showing vulnerability is a great way to build trust with anyone in your life. If you are willing to be open, transparent, and, yes, even put yourself “at risk,” it sends a clear message to the other person that you trust them with the most intimate parts of yourself. This simple act helps build a foundation for a lasting relationship, romantic or otherwise.”
2. He is honest
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Honesty is the foundation of a relationship. For some men, it can be difficult to be up front with a woman. This is a call back to their fear of vulnerability. By being honest, they are letting their guard down in a way that may be scary. It’s not uncommon for men to lie to their significant others out of fear. They could be holding secrets or worse, seeing someone else and not being honest.
When a man feels truly safe with a woman, he will not feel the need to lie to her. He will understand that he can fully be himself. He won’t seek attention from other women. He has learned that he has everything he needs with his current partner. It may be scary for him at first, but finding true love with someone will change how he approaches relationships.
3. He is good at communicating
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What’s better than having a partner who is good at communicating? When times get tough, having open dialogue is important. It prevents arguments from turning into difficult fights. Clear communication also allows for transparency in how they feel about each other. For many, they can’t truly communicate properly with a woman they don’t feel safe with. Safety in the relationship makes communicating easier.
“When an issue arises in a relationship, it is important to address it with the other person instead of keeping it bottled up,” says the University of Michigan on the importance of communication in a relationship. “If you do not share your thoughts, it is likely that frustration and resentment may build towards the other person, and at any given time you may reach a breaking point which culminates in yelling, fighting, the silent treatment, or potentially parting of ways. If you nip the problem in the bud, the chances of having a happy, healthy, and successful relationship increase.”
4. He’s not afraid to be soft
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We have all met men who are so caught up in showing off their masculinity that they come across as rude. Such a tough exterior can make it hard to connect with men like this. Women love it when men are comfortable embracing their softer side. For men, however, it can be hard for them to show their vulnerability unless they feel safe with a woman.
When he feels safe, he is happy to let his guard down. He will not be afraid to show his soft side. He will allow himself to be sweet and kind. Sometimes, men can be afraid to let their kind side show because they are worried they will get hurt. When he feels a solid connection, he will allow himself to be vulnerable.
5. He shares his dreams and goals
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When a man feels safe with a woman, he will show it by including her in his dreams and goals. He’ll be proud to share how he is working towards success. He will want her to be a part of it. Sharing his ambitions will come naturally when he feels he has found someone who will truly support him. He’ll want to grow alongside her and is happy to work towards a better future together.
“If a guy sees a future with you, he won’t exclude you from his long-term plans. Instead, he’ll naturally weave you into his future dreams and ambitions,” says Tina Fey for The Expert Editor. “Whether it’s planning a vacation next year, talking about a house he’d like to live in one day, or discussing career goals, if you’re part of the conversation, that’s a good sign. He’s not just thinking about himself and his future but picturing you as part of that future too. This shows he values your presence in his life and can’t imagine his future without you in it.”
6. He shares his world
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When a man feels safe with a woman, he wants to include her in his world. He will introduce her to all of his friends. She will become part of his daily life. From hanging out with the guys to having dinner on Sundays with the family, he will never hide any part of his life from her. She will fit seamlessly into his everyday life.
If he feels safe around you, he will show you by bringing you into every aspect of his life. He’ll send you texts throughout the day, keeping you informed on what’s going on. He will invite you to every social event he is attending. He’ll introduce you to his coworkers. You’ll become part of his family. These are all unmistakable things he will do to show how safe he feels with you.
7. He prioritizes you
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Sadly, all of us have been in a relationship where we weren’t prioritized. It always felt like he was more interested in hanging out with his friends than he was with us. It can be heartbreaking to feel like you aren’t enough for a man. When you find someone who truly feels safe with you, they will never make you feel like you are not a priority. They care deeply about making you feel appreciated, seen, and heard.,
“How do you know if you are prioritizing your partner enough? When your partner feels seen and heard, it opens a path to deepen your connection. You can build a stronger bond. When you are appreciated in your relationship, you feel valued and respected,” says relationship expert Susan McCord. “Staying connected in a long-term commitment requires effort. However, some people become lethargic. They forget to nurture their love. One of the main consequences of not prioritizing your partner can be the demise of your relationship.”
8. He can admit when he’s wrong
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How frustrating is it to be in a relationship with someone who can never admit when they’re wrong? It’s difficult to argue with someone and have all the blame placed on you. It’s not productive, and people end up in a deeper disagreement that could have been avoided if he had just taken some responsibility.
When a man feels safe with a woman, he isn’t afraid to admit when he is wrong. He doesn’t need to pretend he is perfect. He knows that she will always accept him. He can let his guard down and come to terms with his faults. He will never make her feel as if she is the problem. When he is wrong, he knows it, and he owns up to it.
9. He asks for support
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When a man is stuck in a cycle of toxic masculinity, he thinks he has to do everything on his own. He will keep his emotions to himself. He won’t ask for help when he truly needs it. These are ideas that disappear when he feels safe with a woman. He isn’t afraid to ask her for support when he needs it, even if it is hard at first.
“Men associate seeking assistance for a psychological or emotional problem with shame or weakness. It is sad, but true. Admitting a problem and seeking help is perceived as being weak. And what is seen as strong, tough, macho, and manly is avoiding problems, ignoring pain, and denying reality,” writes Dan Bates, PhD, LPCC-S, NCC, BC-TMH, for Psychology Today. “And where are men getting the idea that asking for help is tantamount to weakness? Other men. Men are the worst offenders when it comes to judging and shaming men. They shoot their own and kick a man when he's down.” However, when a man trusts a woman, he knows she will never kick him when he is down. She will provide the full support he needs, and he relies on her for that.
10. He’s protective
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Men who feel actually safe with a woman are protective of her. He wants to make sure she is safe at all times. He cares deeply for her, probably more than he has ever cared for anyone. He wants to help her in any and all ways he can. He knows that she does the same for him and wants to reciprocate the support.
Don’t get it confused with possessiveness, though. A possessive man is not a good partner. He focuses on control rather than protection. Men who feel safe want to provide comfort and care, not control. If he is controlling you, it’s not a safe relationship. He will protect, not possess.
11. He is dependable
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When a man doesn’t feel safe with a woman, he will be afraid to get close to her. He won’t provide consistency for her because he is afraid he will not get it in return. However, when he feels truly comfortable with her, he will become dependable. He will never let her down because he knows she would never do the same to him.
“A reliable man keeps his promises and fulfills his commitments. This reliability shows that he can be depended upon in all aspects of life, from everyday tasks to handling major life decisions,” says Kaida Hollister for Marriage.com. His consistency builds a foundation of trust that is essential for any strong, lasting relationship.”
Haley Van Horn is a freelance writer with a master’s degree in Humanities, living in Los Angeles. Her focus includes entertainment and lifestyle stories.
