How To Let Him See Your Softer Side, Per Astrology
How to open up to him.
Unsplash Everyone has a soft side, but unfortunately, it's not easy for everyone to show others that soft side.
For some zodiac signs, having a soft side is akin to being weak or not having a backbone.
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Even if no one would actually make them feel bad for talking about their feelings or being soft, just the idea of not always being in control or feeling like people don't give them the respect they want is enough to bury that soft side way, way down inside of them.
On the other side of the spectrum, there are other zodiac signs who absolutely cannot imagine living without showing off their soft side. These are the zodiac signs that tend to be a lot more emotionally available because they aren't afraid to express their emotions, cry, or get angry and yell if they have to.
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One thing is for sure, these zodiac signs are never ones to stuff how they truly feel deep down inside them. To them, having a soft side is just part of their personality. But I think we can all guess that people don't always respond positively to someone who is a little rough around the edges.
If you can't be confident and in control. as well as someone who can let their guard down, you can sometimes be seen as a one-dimensional person. And if you want him to really be interested in you, you have to let yourself get out of your comfort zone and embrace your soft side.
Everyone has a soft side, but it's up to you to show him that side of you, no matter how hard it might be at first. Showing off your soft side can happen differently, depending on what your astrology make up is. For some, this might be being more honest about the emotions you feel, when you feel them, rather than ignoring them and hoping they go away.
For others, it might be admitting that you don't always know the answer, but that you're willing to let go of control once in a while and learn from someone else for a change.
Depending on what your horoscope is, this might not seem like a lot of fun, but if you want to strengthen your relationship with him, it's a necessarily step in your partnership to take.
Something else that is worth noting is that having vulnerabilities does NOT make you weak or shameful. In fact, having a soft side shows the world that, when there are bad people and negative circumstances trying to bring you down, you're still able to make room in your heart for love and acceptance.
And if that doesn't prove you're a strong person, I don't know what does. If you want to learn how to open up to him more, keep reading.
Here is how to show him your soft side, based on your zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
Because you have such a strong personality, Aries, it can be easy for people to pigeonhole you into only being one-dimensional; that dimension being aggressive and selfish. Unfortunately for these people, they never get to see how multi-dimensional you actually are (their loss).
Show him your soft side by putting him first. Despite everything else your haters say about you, you do like being first in everything you do. So, while you might really like him, it can be hard for you to put what you want aside and think about his needs.
Making him a priority in your life will prove to him that he’s important to you and that you have a mushy, soft center.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
You are a very loving and emotionally-driven person, Taurus, so showing your softer edges isn’t as much of a challenge for you as it can be for other zodiac signs. That said, you do let your stubborn nature get the best of you at times, which can make you seem hard to approach.
Show your soft side by giving him a shoulder to lean on. Whether he just wants to talk, wants to express his emotions, or needs someone to have his back, knowing that you’re there – in all of your patient, supportive glory – means a lot to him.
Plus, this softer side of you will show him that, while you can be a bit stubborn, you will also always make yourself available to those that mean a lot to you.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Some of your best qualities, Gemini, are how friendly and fun you can be. When you’re surrounded by the people you care about, you’re incredibly kind, generous, and sweet. When it comes to dating, the intimacy can kinda freak you out and make you act closed off.
Another one of your best qualities is how great you are at communication. That said, you can sometimes talk a little too much. If you want to reveal a softer side of yourself, practice being more of a listener than a talker.
When you listen, you give him a chance to open up and build a stronger bond with you. Plus, learning how to listen and communicate will make the more serious moments in your relationship seem easier to handle.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Cancer, you are softer than a jelly donut, so showing your soft side is kind of like cutting a jelly donut open just to find out it’s filled with even MORE jelly donuts. You’re incredibly helpful and nurturing, always looking for ways to show the people you love that you care about them.
That said, every zodiac sign has the ability to open themselves up even more to others. One thing you often have trouble with is letting yourself jump into a relationship with both feet, especially at the beginning.
If you want to show your soft side, lean into that butterflies-in-the-stomach feeling you get when you’re out of your comfort zone and take a few risks for love. Showing him your vulnerable side is scary but rewarding.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Leo, you have a confidence that is unmatched. You are the fearless leader that everyone needs in their life and wants to be, all at the same time (and you like it). Needless to say, you like have an answer for everything.
When you’re in a relationship, your confident attitude and assertive nature can be VERY sexy. Of course, if you want to show your soft side, it’s time to soften those rough edges.
It’s okay not to know what’s going to happen all the time; he certainly doesn’t expect you to fake it ‘til you make it. Your softer side means admitting that you don’t know everything and sometimes letting him be in control, too.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
Virgo, you like things exactly the way they are in your life. Everything you’ve done to get where you are today is due to your hard work and perfectly cultivated relationships – emphasis on perfect.
Even when you date, you like everything to be perfect. So much so that he might think all you want to do is control him, not spend time with him. Showing him your softer side means not micromanaging everything.
Learn to let things be the way they are and enjoy them even when they’re chaotic. Showing him that you can give up trying to control things that can’t be controlled proves that you can truly enjoy life, even when it’s crazy.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
As one of the most romantically-inclined zodiac signs, Libra, you have a pair of rose-colored glasses permanently perched on your nose. You absolutely love seeing all of the beauty in the world – and why wouldn’t you? Life is magical, and you definitely have the right mindset.
If you want to show him your soft side, keep on doin’ you. Let yourself be loveable and romantic and charming – but remember to get out of your head, too.
Sometimes, you can fantasize too much about the perfect relationship with him rather than experience it. Showing him your soft side means seeing the beauty of the big picture instead of nitpicking the little things that seem better in your fantasy world.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
Scorpio, you are another zodiac sign that sometimes has a hard time presenting yourself as someone who has a soft side to others. But just because you like to protect your soft, mushy center doesn't mean you don't have one – it just means it's a little more hidden than other signs' mushy centers.
If you want to show him your soft side, you're gonna have to really open yourself up to him. That means not exclusively marketing yourself as a candy that's as hard and unyielding as peanut brittle when you're more like a tootsie pop.
By this, I mean you have to show him your vulnerable side, even when it's difficult. Be honest with your feelings, open up to him emotionally, and show him that there's more to you under the surface.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
When you first meet people, Sagittarius, you are charming and funny because you know that people respond best to that side of you. That said, cracking jokes and flirting can also be a sort of defense mechanism – you know, until you're sure that he's a good match for you.
Showing him your soft side doesn't mean giving up the parts of you that are so great – like your humor and your ability to charm the pants off of anyone – but it does mean revealing other parts of yourself, too.
Show him the philosophical and wise side of you that's not afraid to get deep and open up about personal things, your honest side, and even your incredibly passionate side.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
The way you love making lasting connections is through a shared project or mindset, Capricorn. Some people might find you picky with who you spend your time and energy with, but that's only because they don't really "get" you.
When there's something (or someone) that you want, you don't take your eyes off the prize until you get it. While he loves this "go get 'em" attitude of yours, you want to make sure that that's not the only side of you he sees.
Showing him your softer side might mean slowing down a bit. I know, you're not one to stop and smell the roses, but it will prove to him that you're happy being with him when there isn't an end goal in sight (hey, sometimes he needs that reassurance).
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
One thing he loves about you Aquarius is that you always keep him on his toes. You can be a little bit mysterious and a little bit different – and he definitely digs it. Only thing is, being mysterious can only take you so far. After a certain point, it just seems like you don't really want to let him in.
While it can be hard for you to show him your soft side, it's imperative if you want to keep him around. I know that you prefer to tap into your thinking side over your feeling side, but if you want to show him your soft side, you should let your guard down.
Show him that you can be emotionally available to him (and honest about your feelings) and he'll see your true soft side.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Pisces, you are another zodiac sign that shows their soft side more often than other signs. For you, showing off your soft side is where you draw your strength – when people see that you can embrace your emotional side instead of hiding it away, they admire you for it,
That said, you don't want to weaponize your soft side, either. By that, I mean you don't want to use the fact that you're a big ol' softie as an excuse to play the victim or get people to pity you.
Showing him your soft side means embracing that being soft equals being strong. When you can say, "Hey, I'm upset," or "You know what? This bothers me," it'll prove to him that you can share how you feel and not feel like you're losing any part of yourself in the process.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.