15 Quiet Signs A Man Loves You More Than You Even Realize
PeopleImages | Shutterstock It doesn't always take a grandiose proclamation of love from the rooftops with a radio to get your message across. Most of the time, it's those little somethings and sweet nothings that help you stay connected for the long haul.
If you need romantic signs to know he loves you more than you could ever realize, here are some romantic gestures and everyday actions that mean he thinks the world of the one he is in love with. If he is doing just a few of these, it reveals how romantic he is by showing how much he cares. Once you see these behaviors, it's hard to unsee them.
Here are 15 quiet signs a man loves you more than you even realize:
1. He helps you with basic chores
He picks up your dry cleaning, stocks your fridge with a week's worth of groceries, cleans your bathroom, and frames the poster that’s been sitting in the corner of the living room since you met. After all, it's tough to be romantic with all those tasks hanging over your head.
2. He slips a sweet note into your gym bag
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What better motivation is there than a reminder of how much you care? As for his motivation for writing the note, dating coach Iona Young advised men, "Of course, you should also be sure you don't put pressure on your partner to respond in kind or to reciprocate by writing a letter of their own. Everyone expresses love differently. You didn't write this letter to get one back; you wrote it to share how you felt and to make your partner feel good."
3. He makes you feel at home
If you and your significant other live apart, he makes an effort to stock his place with specific items — food, shampoo, etc. — that you like. It makes his place feel more like home.
4. He sends a postcard or love letter in the mail
Emails are easy come, easy go. Snail mail packs a punch, especially when it's not a bill. Johnny Cash wrote to his wife, June, on her 65th birthday, showing why his love letter is considered the most romantic of all time:
"Happy Birthday, Princess. We get old and get used to each other. We think alike. We read each other's minds. We know what the other wants without asking. Sometimes we irritate each other a little bit. Maybe sometimes take each other for granted. But once in a while, like today, I meditate on it and realize how lucky I am to share my life with the greatest woman I ever met. You still fascinate and inspire me. You influence me for the better. You're the object of my desire, the #1 earthly reason for my existence. I love you very much. Happy Birthday, Princess. John""
5. He shares his feelings through music
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He makes a sweet mixtape or playlist of songs that makes him feel his love! A 2020 study explored the impact of shared music appreciation within relationships. Couples who have "their song" showed higher intimacy and better positive emotional recall of memories related to the song.
6. He makes you breakfast
It doesn't have to be in bed. It doesn't even have to be anything fancy. Heart-shaped pancakes are easy!
7. He recreates your first date
You go to the same place, order the same drinks, and so on. He reminisces about his first impressions of you, and some of the best, most exciting things have happened in your relationship since then.
8. He displays a sentimental snapshot
Instead of keeping an awesome photo of the two of you on your phone or Facebook wall, he prints a copy and frames it. Then, he puts it somewhere he will see every day.
9. He makes the bed
After you spend the night together, he tucks the sheets in, fluffs the pillows, and makes it extra neat so it's relaxing to get back into it later. Relationship coach Keith Dent explained, "Taking time to do a little more housework lets her know that a balanced life is important to you. Make sure she can take time for herself by picking up some extra slack. This gesture of care demonstrates attentiveness, commitment, and love, contributing to lasting satisfaction. Engaging in new activities together that are outside the routine fosters personal and relational growth, which is an important factor in sustained happiness."
10. He makes your day easier
Maybe you've been using the same broken umbrella for a year, or always misplacing your keys, so he buys something to solve this little problem, like a top-of-the-line umbrella in your favorite color or a keychain that beeps when you whistle for it.
Relationship coach Nancy Pina advised, "Even if your husband is good about thanking you and being sincerely grateful for your daily efforts to make your lives comfortable, helping with the chores communicates 'We are a team; I love you.' No one wants to feel taken for granted in love, and an overload of household chores can easily dampen the desire for romance."
11. He suggests things he thinks you would enjoy
He thinks of a restaurant, outing, movie — something that he knows is right up your alley — and suggests it before you can bring it up.
12. He compliments you in front of other people
It doesn't just feel good for both of you — it also inspires other people. Dent elaborated, "When your wife or girlfriend is looking in the mirror, she wants her outer appearance to match (or be better than) her inner beliefs. Complimenting her at that very moment can enhance or even boost her own feelings of confidence and self-love, in turn boosting her feelings of intimacy, passion, and commitment toward you."
13. He holds your hand
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Even if you're just watching TV at home, touch is an easy and powerful gift you can give almost anywhere. Even more important is handholding when you are in disagreement. Research showed that hand-holding during and after conflict calms a person's heart rate, mood, and communication style.
14. He makes a list of what he loves about you
He posts a list of three things he loves about you and tags you on the social media wall, and sends it out into the Internet.
15. He greets you in a loving way
This is especially important after you've been apart. Even if it feels a little silly at first, it'll help you and your partner keep the butterflies alive.
Amanda Green is a New York-based writer who covers relationships, finance, entertainment, and celebrity interviews. Her writing has appeared in Mental Floss, Marie Claire, Gizmodo, The Rumpus, Good Housekeeping, and Popular Mechanics.
