The Art Of Emotional Chemistry: 4 Simple Habits That Make People Want To Keep Talking To You
The secret to irresistible connection.
Jonah Brown | Unsplash Emotional chemistry is that intangible spark that makes people feel comfortable, valued, and eager to keep connecting with you. It's what transforms small talk into meaningful conversations and acquaintances into lasting relationships.
You can recognize when emotional chemistry is happening by asking yourself a few questions: Do you genuinely care for this person? Do you feel like you've known them your whole life, even though you just met? Do you lose track of time when talking to them and feel completely at ease in their presence? If you're answering yes to these questions, you're experiencing the power of emotional attraction.
When you master the art of emotional chemistry, you become someone they remember, trust, and genuinely look forward to seeing again. These four habits will help you create that effortless connection that keeps conversations flowing and relationships deepening.
Here are 4 simple habits that make people want to keep talking to you:
1. Focus purely on being present with them
In order to increase your emotional attraction to someone, you can be in the now with them, focusing on being present and open. All you have to do is give them your undivided attention.
When being mindful, one is less distracted by thoughts and rumination and can fully experience the present moment with the partner, enabling them to maintain close contact in both everyday situations and intimate interactions. According to a survey, approximately half of partnered adults in the U.S. report that their partner is occasionally or frequently distracted by their cell phone during conversations, which diminishes the potential for meaningful conversation and connection.
2. Keep eye contact with them
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The eyes are the window to our souls, right? So by keeping eye contact with someone, you can easily create an emotional attraction to them, and it can be meaningful. Through making eye contact, you can make sure you have a strong emotional connection that is genuine because each of you is willing to listen to what the other has to say and be involved in the conversation.
Christine Petrik, a licensed clinical social worker, explains that experts estimate as much as 60 percent of communication comes from non-verbal cues. This means the way you look at someone can communicate more than your words ever could.
3. Recognize your areas of similarity
Another great way to form an emotional attraction with somebody is by turning your shared interests into shared experiences with each other. It might be doing something you love to do by yourself, except with someone else this time.
Research shows that 64% of couples with shared interests believe that this has helped their marriages to succeed, and life is better in many ways for couples who share interests because these partners show interest in one another, think alike, share passion, and bond over similar adventures. When you engage in activities together, your body releases oxytocin, which promotes feelings of closeness and belonging.
4. Let your guard down
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People find that sharing things they normally wouldn't with other people is scary; however, by being raw and real with people, you can actually form an emotional attraction with them. When talking to them, you aren't cautious about sharing anything because the conversation feels so natural with them, and the two of you can trust each other.
Terry Gaspard, a licensed therapist, notes that when individuals share their true selves, including vulnerabilities, they build trust and intimacy. The beauty of emotional chemistry is that it makes vulnerability feel safe rather than scary.
Megan Hatch is a writer at YourTango who covers news and entertainment, love and relationships, and internet culture.
