The One Thing You MUST Do To Be Happier Than Ever Post-Divorce

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Don't wait another minute!

In the past when I was going through a tough, traumatic, terrible time like my divorce, I wasted so much time and so much life! I kept thinking, "If I just get through this, if I just find someone else, if I make more money, if this or if that happens, then I'll be happy. Then I'll start enjoying life."

My only advice, which I learned from doing a lot of postponing at different times in my life, is that we all can become better at enjoying life right now. I mean this very minute! This very minute is the only time we have any control over.

As you read this, stop a minute and just be aware of the blessings all around you.

You can see. You can feel. You can appreciate a hot cup of peppermint tea or mocha coffee. You have enough to eat. Your children are not starving or dying in some relocation camp with no clean water. You have your good mind, your energy, your imagination, your sense of humor.

You have the ability to choose joy, right now.  

And the most important thing of all is that, according to my beliefs, you have God and His protection, His promises, His peace, His power, and His spirit every single moment of every day and every night.   

And tough times like a divorce or a breakup are all the more reason to celebrate those eternal joys that don't change no matter what else is happening in your life.

Let’s all try to see the big picture every day and find the goodness in it. 

I'm not making light of your struggle. But let's not forget that within this very hour, this very day we have blessings all over the place. We have an opportunity to start living fully now and to find joy even in the middle of really tough times.

We can each make our own joy wonderful in so many ways: Be kind, help someone else, smile, be optimistic and hopeful, shine our unique light right where we are. Sharing those gifts brings joy back to us, and every little bit adds up.

So grab joy now  yes, especially in the middle of your divorce  and for the rest of your life.

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"You have made known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand."  Psalm 16:11 (NIV) If you haven't already, go to We're here to help and you probably need it now more than ever.

This article was originally published at Midlife Divorce Recovery. Reprinted with permission from the author.