How To Use A Vibrator For Intense Orgasms During Masturbation And Sex

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Learning how to use a vibrator is incredibly enjoyable, and a great way to explore what you enjoy most in the bedroom. This is because masturbation is not only natural but healthy.

Masturbation comes with many benefits including figuring out what your body responds to, likes, and dislikes. Other benefits include increased blood flow throughout the body, helping to become sexually comfortable and confident, and can even ease postmenopause problems. 

This tutorial on using a vibrator will teach you exactly how to use your vibe on yourself when you're alone masturbating, as well as how to have great sex by incorporating it playfully with your partner during sex.

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It's easy to find a vibrator — you could actually walk into Target or Walmart and grab one off the shelves. Or, you can purchase one in-person at an adult store.

For those who don't feel comfortable purchasing a vibrator in public, there are several websites that allow home deliveries like Amazon, which sells vibrators of all types, styles, and intensities.

Whether you're new to using a vibrator or simply want to improve your experience, these tips will help you become in control of your pleasure.

Here's how to use a vibrator to give yourself intense orgasms.

1. Find the best vibrator for you.

The first thing to realize is that owning a vibrator is completely normal.

In fact, when I surveyed my students, over 55 percent of them reported owning one. So the last thing you should think is that owning or using a vibrator is somehow taboo. It's not. It's completely normal.

Not only is owning a vibrator normal, but it can be pretty darn cheap.

While you may see the Rabbit or the Hitachi Original Magic Wand vibrators being sold for upwards of $100, you can pick up a simple and inexpensive battery-powered vibrator online and have it shipped discreetly to your home.

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There are so many different types of vibrators to choose from, too. There are external, internal, external, and even anal stimulation vibrators. Not only are there different types, but there are different speeds for intensity. The most common external vibrators are bullets and wands.

To help you figure out what vibrator is right for you, pay attention to what makes you feel good. Do you enjoy clitoral stimulation? An external vibrator may be your go-to, like the Le Wand.

If you like your G-spot stimulated, look for an internal vibrator that has a G-Spot feature, like the Dame Arc or LELO Gigi. Do you notice that you enjoy both penetration and clitoral stimulation? You might want to look at Rabbit vibrators.

If you're just starting out and are dipping your toes into the world of vibrators, bullet vibrators might be more your speed, with the discreet buzz and the tiny sizing.

There are also battery-operated vibrators, rechargeable vibrators, remote-controlled vibrators, and vibrators with different vibrating patterns. If you visit in-store, there is also usually a sex expert on the floor to help you with these questions.

The world of vibrators can be overwhelming, but if you pay attention to your body, it's a bit easier to narrow down what vibrator is right for you. There's a type of vibrator designed for your needs out there, you just have to find it.

No matter which way you go, it's important to know that a vibrator is a tool for pleasure, not pain. 

2. Once you have a vibrator, it's time to get to know it.

Before you start using your vibrator during sex, you should start off by using it on yourself. This way, you'll know exactly how to use a vibrator for maximum pleasure.

Start by turning it on and playing around with the vibration settings so that you can get an idea of how intense it vibrates. If you're already turned on, then you'll notice how pleasurable it feels just holding it in your hand while it's vibrating.

3. Use the vibrator to bring yourself to orgasm while you masturbate.

You should find somewhere quiet, where you aren't going to be disturbed. Make sure you're relaxed and comfortable and suitably turned on.

Different people need to do different things to turn themselves on. Some need to watch pornography, some need to read erotica or a romance novel, while others need nothing more than a sexy thought. The key is doing what you need to do to get aroused. Don't rely solely on the vibrator to turn you on.

When you find yourself aroused, it's time to turn on your vibrator on a low setting, then run it gently over your body, paying attention to erogenous zones.

Don't feel that you need to go straight to your most sensitive regions with it just yet — instead, pay close attention to what feels enjoyable and pleasurable.

You'll notice that different areas of your body respond differently to it. In certain areas, it will feel too powerful and it will be more irritating than pleasurable. This is totally normal; all you need to do is turn down the intensity, while other areas will require a lot of vibrations to feel enjoyable.

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4. Experiment with your vibrator and focus on what feels good (without worrying about climaxing).

Eventually, bring the vibrator down to your groin area and start running it over yourself, and pay close attention to what feels best. In a way, you will now be teasing yourself with the vibrator.

If you then want to increase the pleasure, you can start bringing the vibrator closer and closer to your clitoris.

Many women report that direct contact with the vibrator on their clitoris is painful, so you may want to hold it a little bit away from any sensitive areas.

If you follow all these techniques, reaching orgasm should be incredibly simple.

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5. Add a vibrator to your and your partner's sex life.

A vibrator is a great way to keep sex hot, especially if you usually have trouble reaching orgasm through penetration alone. Just keep it beside your bed so that you can quickly grab it to help yourself out while having sex.

Using the vibrator on yourself is the obvious choice, but don't forget that you can also use it on your man during sex or foreplay. You can gently run it over any part of his genitals during oral sex and he will enjoy it. But, don't be surprised if you find your man climaxing in less than a minute when you use it on the top part of his penis.

One of the best positions to use your vibrator on yourself during sex is doggie style, as you will usually have one free hand, but do experiment with other positions too to see what you personally enjoy the most.

6. Use your vibrator to masturbate for your man.

Remember, guys are visual. That's why they like pornography, after all! So, turn the lights right down and just do what you normally do when you're on your own.

You might find that your man doesn't feel like he's "enough" for you if you are using a sex toy during sex. So, if you can tell that your man is feeling weird about it, just let him know that it's not him.

Explain to him that the ability to reach orgasm during sex varies massively from woman to woman. Let him know that you've always had trouble and that the vibrator is just something to help you "get over the line."

Some guys may need a minute or two to understand this, even after you explain it to him, so don't expect this to work with every guy.

The last important point to make on learning how to use a vibrator is that you need to make sure that you don't become dependent on it. If you use your vibrator every single night, you may find yourself able to orgasm only when using a vibrator.

7. Know how to properly clean your vibrator after use.

You should always clean your vibrator after using it, and sometimes before as well.

To clean your vibrator, use antibacterial soap if you don't want to purchase toy cleaner. Scrub the vibrator with either your hands or a washcloth with soap and warm water for at least a minute and a half. Never submerge your vibrator unless it's waterproof. When done, pat the vibrator dry with a clean towel and store for later use.

Store the vibrator in a clean dry place; many suggest a box or pouch to stop it from collecting any dust while not in use. It's also a good idea to keep it away from clothing, cell phones, or any other things you own. The less interaction the vibrator has with germ-carrying items, the better it is for your health. 

By washing your vibrator, keeping it clean and properly stored, you decrease the risk of transmitting any STDs, STIs, or bacterial infections.

When it comes to masturbation, sex, or the use of vibrators, you should always do what feels best for you and your body. 

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Sean Jameson is a sex expert and writer. If you enjoyed learning these kissing tips and want to learn his most powerful and explicit tips and techniques, you may be interested in learning more on his Bad Girl's Bible website.