How To Master The Cowgirl Sex Position By Riding A Guy On Top

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How To Ride A Man Woman-On-Top In Cowgirl Position For The Best Sex Ever
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Learning how to have great sex in different variations of the woman-on-top "cowgirl" sex position and ride a man with confidence is surprisingly easy.

The biggest misconception women have when it comes to trying girl-on-top sex positions like the cowgirl is that it requires a lot of skill to pull off properly.

It really doesn't. In fact, in many ways, it's exactly like riding a bike.

The first few times you try it, it can be a bit nerve-racking and possibly even awkward. But each subsequent time you are on top of your man during sex, you will notice how it gets easier and easier.

Eventually, you won't even feel nervous or awkward about it and will be focusing more on enjoying yourself.

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To get to the stage where you can't wait to jump on top of your man and start riding him, you have to get through those awkward and nervous feelings first — just like when you first learned to ride a bike.

You may start off thinking about what might go wrong, but once you push through this initial fear, you'll find it becomes simple and effortless.

How to boost your confidence when learning how to ride a man in the woman-on-top cowgirl sex position.

Try using one or more of them at the same time for maximum effect.

1. Have sex in the dark.

Probably the easiest way to boost your confidence and take the pressure off when you ride your man is to have sex in the dark.

This way you don't have to worry about having his eyes on you.

2. Drink some booze.

Have a drink or two (but not seven!) before sex with your man. This will help you to relax and not care so much about what happens.

Just make sure not to overdo it with alcohol, though!

3. Remember that he's nervous, too

The biggest mistake women make when getting sexual with a guy is that their man is going to be just as nervous as they are if not more so.

Don't forget that they want to impress you too! On top of this, he's going to be worrying about making sure that he stays hard, that he doesn't come too quickly, that you don't think his penis is too small and that he is putting in a good 'performance'.

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4. Focus on getting yourself off

Many women forget that guys adore seeing their girlfriend or partner enjoying herself and having an orgasm. So the next time you are in a girl-on-top sex position, stop thinking about whether or not you are pleasing your man. Instead, focus on what feels best for you.

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There are two main positions that you should be using when you are on top of your man riding him.

1. Cowgirl Position

In the cowgirl position, you will be on your knees, straddling your man and facing him. You can stay upright or lean forward and support yourself on your arms. You can then rest most of your bodyweight on your man's lap.

2. "Asian Cowgirl" Position

This is identical to the basic cowgirl position except that when you perform it, you will be on your feet with your knees bent. You can still rest most of your weight on your man's lap in this position.

Most women find the basic cowgirl position to be the most comfortable and enjoyable of these two.

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Once you are in the cowgirl position that you find most comfortable, then it's time to get to work.

There are three motions that you can perform when riding your man and having sex on top.

1. Forwards & Backwards

If you enjoy clitoral stimulation during sex, then you will like this motion. Start by sitting right down into your man's lap and take him fully into you. Then simply rock forwards and backwards on top of him, rubbing your clitoris of his stomach.

2. Up & Down

Moving upwards and downwards requires a little more effort. You are going to use your legs to 'bounce' on your man's lap allowing his penis to glide in deep and then out again.

You'll find that this position requires a lot more effort than simply moving backwards and forwards.

3. Around & Around

This last movement is similar to the first, Forwards & Backwards. You are going to take your man deep into you, but instead of moving backwards and forwards on him, you are going to be making a circular motion instead.

Now these three movements are a starting point for riding a guy while on top, but to truly enjoy yourself then you're going to need to do a bit of experimentation to see what you like and enjoy the most.

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Sean Jameson is a sex expert and founder of the Bad Girl's Bible website, where you can learn advanced techniques to improve your sex life.