How To Make Yourself Squirt

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10 steps on how to make yourself squirt
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Learning how to make yourself squirt can be incredibly pleasurable, especially if you do it with someone you care about. But many women struggle when learning the art of squirting and never quite figure out how to do it properly.

This guide will show you how to make yourself squirt and have intense squirting orgasms, whether during sex or masturbation.

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Before you learn how to make yourself squirt, it's important to understand what's actually happening with your body.

So, what is squirting?

Many women believe that when they ejaculate, they are actually releasing urine. This is possible, but it's rare.

Instead, when you're squirting, you actually ejaculating fluid from the Skene's gland, which is located above the G-spot and is really close to the bladder.

As the Skene's gland is stimulated, it fills and then expels fluid through the urethra, which is the same tube that urine passes through.

As a result, many women report that they feel like they are going to pee as they ejaculate. It's a totally normal feeling. But importantly, it's not pee, even if it feels like you are peeing.

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Unlike learning a new sexual position where you simply need to imitate a picture or diagram you found online or in a book, learning how to make a woman (or yourself) squirt takes more work than this. It is a half-mental, half-physical phenomenon.

Now that you understand what squirting is, here's how to make yourself squirt in 10 steps:

1. Relax your mind.

You probably won't magically be able to make yourself squirt by only focusing on this masturbation technique. You also need to learn how to properly relax and let go to make squirting happen for you.

So the first thing to learn is that having that "I need to pee" feeling as you are about to ejaculate is totally normal.

What is important is mentally releasing and relaxing so that it happens more easily. This is the most important step — many women can't squirt because they are simply holding themselves back, instead of just releasing and going with the flow.

2. Hydrate.

Before you actually start, make sure to have a few glasses of water so you're properly hydrated. No need for gallons of water, but half a liter to a full liter of water is perfect.

Then right before you lie down or jump in the shower to start trying to make yourself squirt, make sure to empty your bladder. This will help you stop worrying so much about peeing when you're squirting and also prevent too much urine from coming out.

3. Prepare your bed (in case it gets wet).

Because things can get a little messy, prepare your bed with some towels or something you don't mind throwing in the wash afterward so you don't get any of the fluids on your mattress.

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4. Get yourself in the mood.

Next, it's time to get comfortable. If you are in bed, make sure you aren't going to be disturbed and that you are able to get in the mood.

You might want to try reading some erotica or just fantasizing about your favorite hot and scenario.

Get yourself aroused is a vital part that many women ignore. In order to squirt, you need to slowly build up your arousal for 15 to 30 minutes first.

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5. Don't try to orgasm too fast. Take your time.

Don't try to reach orgasm just yet, but make sure to get yourself close. Try to spend the majority of your time focusing on your clitoris and don't worry too much about penetrating yourself just yet.

Once you are incredibly aroused, it's time to focus on actually making yourself squirt.

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6. Find your G-spot.

To start off, you need to find your G-spot, which is inside your vagina. You'll know when you've found it because it feels very similar to a wet raspberry — soft, wet and slightly dimpled.

7. Apply pressure to your G-spot with your fingers.

Start to slowly apply pressure. Pay attention to how it feels. Experiment with applying less pressure. Then more pressure.

The purpose of this experimentation is to figure out for yourself exactly what feels best and is most pleasurable.

Most women find that using quite a lot of pressure feels best. So don't be afraid to use a lot.

If you find that you can't apply enough pressure, then just use a sex toy instead of your hands. This is also a good idea if you find that your wrist is starting to get sore.

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8. When you feel yourself about to orgasm (or if you feel like you're going to pee), relax and let it happen.

As you apply more and more pressure, you will be indirectly stimulating your Skene's gland. As you do, you will bring yourself closer to ejaculating.

This moment when you feel like you are about to ejaculate is crucial. Embrace the feeling and just let go, you will experience that wonderful feeling of gushing.

If you are afraid and believe that you are going to pee, then you will inevitably clam up and not be able to do it, so it important to relax and let your body do what it's going to do when you're learning how to make yourself squirt.

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9. Don't worry if you didn't climax yet.

One important thing to note is that while most women climax and gush at the same time, some women can do it without actually having an orgasm.

So don't worry too much if you have trouble reaching climax when trying these techniques, they don't always happen together.

10. Try some other methods of making yourself squirt if your first time didn't work.

Sometimes ejaculation doesn't happen as easily as you'd like. What then?

  • You can't make yourself squirt at all. if you are learning how to squirt for the first time and struggle to make it happen, don't worry! Instead, try to focus on what's enjoyable and pleasurable. It can take many attempts before you finally discover the specific nuances and techniques that make squirting happen for you.
  • You're not sure if you squirted. Different women squirt in different ways. While some women may shoot a stream that travels 5 feet, other women simply gush or gently release fluid that trickles out without much force at all. Both types of squirting are completely normal, so don't worry if you only experience one and not the other.
  • You can't squirt during sex with someone else. Often women report that they can squirt while they are masturbating, but have a lot of difficulties squirting while having sex with a man. Again, this is totally normal and nothing to worry about. Just give yourself time and learning how to make yourself squirt will eventually happen.

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Sean Jameson is a sex expert and founder of The Bad Girl's Bible website. He creates detailed video tutorials with sexual and relationship tips on topics like how to dirty talk and how to give a man great oral sex.