How To Flirt With A Guy Over Text + 99 Flirty Text Messages To Keep You On His Mind 24/7

He'll be begging for more.

Last updated on May 31, 2022

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Whether you're flirting with someone new or looking for ways to keep your love life fun, exciting, and hot, knowing how to flirt with a guy over text is crucial if you never want the initial spark in your relationship to fade.

How to flirt with a guy over text

1. Send flirty text messages sparingly.

The most important thing to know when learning how to flirt over text messages is that flirty texts should be used as a spice, not as the main course. What I mean by this is that you should use them sparingly.


2. Remember that being flirty doesn't always mean being dirty.

The next thing that you must understand is that "flirty" doesn't necessarily mean "filthy." In fact, you'll discover that the more subtle and innuendo your messages are, the more powerful their effects will be on your man.

3. Build anticipation for the next time you'll see each other.

Lastly, you will find that sending your man a flirty text message can be the perfect way to build anticipation.

Doing this will keep him thinking about you for a long, long time even if it will be a while until you're able to hang out together.

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Let the flirty texting commence!

Here are 100 examples of flirty text messages to send him.

1. Why do I always think of you when I'm trying to concentrate on studying ... Grrr, hate you so much right now!

2. What would you do if I told you that I have an identical twin sister?

3. Had trouble sleeping last night, needed you there snuggling me.

4. Would you be mad if we made Saturday 'Naked Day'?

5. Should I wear a short skirt tonight or a really short skirt?

6. If you could only do one thing sexually with me for the rest of your life, what would it be?

7. I think I just saw you or someone that looked just like you, are you wearing a green turtleneck today?

8. I'm thinking about becoming celibate for the rest of my life, what do you think?

9. What would you like me to wear tonight?

10. I had a dream about you last night, it was hot!

11. Do you think you could beat me in an arm wrestle?

12. I've got a surprise for you later, I think you're going to really like it ;)

13. I was thinking of dressing up in something hot tonight, what would you prefer, maid or nurse?

14. I'm wearing a colored bra today, guess which color...

15. Explain something to me — what's the big deal with threesomes?

16. Stop thinking about me! (I know. It's hard, isn't it...)

17. I feel so safe when I’m with you.

18. You amaze me daily with your little acts of kindness.

19. It was nice hanging out with you, I feel we should do this more often. Don’t you think so?

20. Everything around me here makes me think of you.

21. You are a great guy, I love you more than a lot.

22. Guess what would be better than a text back? An invitation to dinner.

23. You are my dream guy.

24. I want to be the girl you give your sweatshirt to when it is cold, the one you’ll tell your friends, “That’s my girl.”

25. I don’t really have anything to talk about but I want to talk to you, hi.

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26. I’m wondering how long it will take you to realize that I like you and want to hear you say you like me too.

27. Got an extra ticket. Interested?

28. Hey stranger, stop being a stranger!

29. Miss me yet?

30. I’m so bored; I need you to rescue me.

31. I just realized how much I miss talking with you. Can we start a convo? I’m here.

32. Congratulations, you have been awarded the position of my bestie which affords you the opportunity to a romantic dinner date with me.

33. 24 hours make a lovely day, 7 days make a lovely week, 52 weeks make a lovely year knowing a person like me will make your life lovely.

34. My heart problem has reached a critical stage. The doctor says there are only 2 options left: I see you, or you see me.

35. I want you to be with me in a nice restaurant to have a candlelit dinner and to say those sweet three words to you: pay the bill!

36. Butterflies don’t know the color of their wings, but human eyes know how nice it is… Likewise, you don’t know how good you are, but I know how special you are.

37. I asked God for a flower, he gave me a garden. I asked for a tree, he gave me a forest. I asked for a river, he gave me an ocean. I asked for an angel, he gave me you.

38. Whenever you feel sadness in your heart, blackness in your eyes, paleness on your face, fragrance in your body, it shows you are suffering a lack of Vitamin Me.

39. My mind tells me you could be a heartbreaker, my heart tells me you could be my life’s anchor, my gut tells me you could be the man of my dreams. The only way to find the truth is to ask you out, it seems I like you.

40. For the first time in my life, I don’t have words to describe how I am feeling. Now, I know what it means to have a crush on a guy who is really dazzling.

41. You walked in, and the sun broke through the clouds. Suddenly, life was worth living, and it became this big adventure. Thank you for being part of my life.

42. No other relationship in my life could compare to the love we share. I’m enamored by your tender touch and your ravishing romance. I wish you the best of the day.

43. I consider myself to be the luckiest woman on this Earth and it’s only because I have found the most precious jewel of this world. It’s you, my love. You are the only thing that looks good on me.

44. I don’t know how to write great messages, but I want to let you know how special you are to me. You are awesome!

45. There are days when I lie awake in my bed and wonder how could I have gotten so lucky? You came into my life like those princes of tales yonder and made my life feel so complete.

46. So now that I have you for myself, I know for sure that I am yours forevermore.

47. You are the reason why I can smile in the morning again, feel happy, complete, and safe.

48. You are the reason for my existence and the reason that I have the courage to make it through the day.

50. You have made me feel like a brand new person, and for that, I will forever be grateful.

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51. What I feel about you, I don’t feel it for another for you are the one that knows me inside out, there can never be some other.

52. Come, tell me now how you make me feel alive, you got that magic and I’m happy to have in my life.

53. You and I are just caught up in our feelings, the kind that does never erase and so it’s time to embrace what we have for each other and to be truly together.

54. Promise that we’ll always and forever be the same, promise you’ll be a friend and more, and stay with me, always giving me a reason to smile.

55. You are the one who gave me a reason to smile when there was really none. Life does seem worthwhile now that I have you. I can’t let go, we are not just friends, we were meant to be more. Don’t deny what you already feel it all seems perfect and it feels too real.

56. I have waited all my life to have someone like you who really knows me and makes me feel brand new. Now that we are together, you can finally see how I feel about you and what you mean to me.

57. I have a small gift for you tonight ;)

58. I fall asleep faster in your arms.

59. Morning, you! Hope you’re having a good day!

60. What would you say if I asked you to come over right now?

61. I’m making the first move when it comes to texting, so I’m expecting you to make the first move when it comes to kissing.

62. This is me asking you out. Want to get coffee on Saturday?

63. Nobody gets me like you do.

64. Now that I’ve officially texted you, I’m going to be obsessively staring at my phone, waiting for it to beep, so don’t keep me waiting.

65. Come over. Now. Nobody is here except me.

66. I wish you were here next to me right now.

67. You can’t text me first, but you can update your Facebook status every five minutes?

68. Netflix and chill?

69. Do you have any plans for this weekend? Because I do and they include you.

70. I just finished a book I know you would love. You should come over to pick it up.

71. Come over, I have all your favorites. Pizza, beer, and of course, me.

72. I was just looking through your Instagram and not gonna lie, you’re lookin’ fine.

73. All I’ve thought about all day is your mouth.

74. Can we just call in sick tomorrow and spend the whole day together?

75. I would invite you to come over this weekend, but I’m not sure I can keep my hands to myself.

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76. Every message you send me is like a small gift.

77. I can’t figure out why, but my thoughts are especially X-rated today. I think it’s your fault.

78. I find it incredibly sexy that you’ve been patient with me about taking things slowly. Trust me, I’m worth the wait!

79. Remember the last time we hung out? Wanna do that again? ;)

80. Such a stressful day. Want to blow off some steam tonight?

81. I’m on cloud nine when I’m around you.

82. You. Me. Takeout. Tonight.

83. I had a dream we were sexting, wanna try it?

84. I was dreaming about you all day; it really distracted me at work.

85. I just heard a song on the radio, and it describes our relationship perfectly.

86. After meeting you all my pick-up lines have been obliterated.

87. I’ve been waiting all day to see you.

88. I love it when my roommate’s gone because I never have to wear clothes.

89. I’m thinking it’s burgers and beer kind of night… You in?

90. I like how you find my willingness hot.

91. I was going to wait another day or two to text you, but I can’t wait that long to talk to you.

92. Let’s skip the small talk and go straight to flirting.

93. I can’t even remember the last time we spoke. We need to change that.

94. Be honest. How long have you been waiting for a text from me?

95. You never text first. I can’t tell if you hate me or if you’re playing hard to get.

96. How have you gone so long without messaging me? I’m such a delight.

97. What does your week look like? Any room for me?

98. You’re going to love the outfit I wear tonight.

99. Stop looking so hot in the pics you post. You’re killing me over here!

Please don't think you have to use every single one of these flirty messages on your man. Just pick and choose the ones that you like and use them, maybe even as conversation starters.

If you are just starting a relationship with your man, you probably don't want to use any more risqué or sexual text messages at first.

Lastly don't be afraid to change, adapt and modify these messages slightly to fit your life and your man. For example, you could change 'studying' to 'working,' etc.


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Sean Jameson is a writer and founder of the Bad Girl's Bible website.