How To Attract Real Love (And Break The Pattern Of Seeing The Wrong People!)

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Are you sick of attracting the wrong people over and over? Do you have the same issues as your last relationship in your next one?

Well, once you learn how to attract real love, you can stop that pattern.

The first step is to really look closely at all your past relationships, especially those patterns that keep repeating from relationship to relationship.

You must be living enough of your true self and in a certain mindset to attract real love. Until then, every relationship you attract has the purpose of giving you lessons to learn so you can be prepared and ready when real love finally arrives.

The problem is that a lot of people stay stuck in those patterns and never learn enough to be ready for real love.

It can be so frustrating and I don't want that for you. I don't want you to waste any more time with the wrong people.

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What's the first step in learning how to attract real love?

Everyone still learns new lessons about love, even when they're in a real love relationship.

You're always learning, but at a certain point in the learning process, you need to be ready enough to attract real love.

So, first, look at any repeating patterns in your relationships.

For instance, are you only attracting those that aren't fully available and neglect you in some way? Well, it all stems from you and how you are treating yourself.

So, if that's the case, look at how you're treating yourself and neglecting yourself. Fix that so you can get out of that pattern.

Real love wouldn't neglect you, so if there's the energy of neglect in your life, you will only be able to attract that and not real love.

Whatever the pattern is, you always have to look at yourself — your choices are what attracts people to you.

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If you change your choices, you can change who you attract.

If you don't make changes you will definitely end up in the same pattern over and over until you do.

If you keep doing the same thing you will keep attracting the same thing.

Sometimes, you need to go through something a few times to fully learn, which is fine.

But, if you'd like to save yourself some time and aggravation, you need to really dissect everything and get to the root so you can fix it now.

I don't know about you, but I don't like wasting time. I'd rather get it fixed now so I can move forward.

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Whatever the issues are for you, look at how you're doing that to yourself in some way.

Really work on putting yourself first and taking care of yourself so you can attract a love that will treat you that way, as well.

Look at the common factor with your past love partners.

Look at similar traits. Were you just settling for someone you weren't happy with?

Settling is another love blocker, so removing that energy from your life is important, as well!

There can be so many different blocks and patterns. But, really look closely at your patterns so you can learn and can fix them so you can attract that real love instead of just another lesson to learn relationship.

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Kristine Carlson is a psychic medium, advanced soul realignment practitioner, life coach, and author. You can get a convenient, personal email reading, clearing, or personal coaching from Kristine on her website and check out her courses.

This article was originally published at Psychic Medium Readings By Kristine’s Blog. Reprinted with permission from the author.