How To Attract Men Who Want Healthy Relationships — So You Can Find True Love

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How To Attract Healthy Relationships & Find True Love (In 10 Simple Steps)
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In order to find and create healthy relationships, it's important to know which steps you need to take to get there. After all, the best dating advice on how to attract men is different if you're casually dating than if you're searching to settle down with your one true love.

Are you tired of dating around, ready to meet the love of your life and enjoy a healthy, lasting relationship? Awesome!

Now, let's talk about what you can do to attract men who want healthy relationships, so you can find true love and make your next relationship the best ever — and not just another casual fling.

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In case things haven't always gone your way in the past, you can ensure that you date with a higher level of consciousness, keeping in mind that you're trying to attract your "one".

By becoming more aware of what you're doing, how you interact with men, and the choices you make while dating, you can learn how to attract men who want healthy relationships and find the true love you dream of.

Here's how to attract men who want healthy relationships in 10 simple steps, so you can find true love that lasts.

1. Take time to heal from your old relationship.

Before you jump into the next relationship, take time to assess what you learned from the last one. Think about what went well, what you didn’t like, and what wouldn’t want to go through again.

Then, release any leftover anger or hurt feelings so you don't carry that forward. You can do this with a massage or energy work, like Reiki, or through journaling and traditional talk therapy. There are plenty of options to help you let it go and clean house, so you'll be ready to attract healthy relationships.

2. Know what you want from someone.

When was the last time you made a list of the qualities you want in a man? If it's been a while, it's time to do it again. Consider what true love means to you and how healthy relationships should feel.

As you grow and evolve, your desires can change. Take a fresh look at the personality characteristics that would be enjoyable and compatible.

Next, write about the kind of relationship you want and how you are together. To make this as real as possible, think of how you would share an ideal day. This can help further clarify the kind of man you're looking for.

3. Work on loving yourself.

So many experts talk about this step because it's vital to your happiness. Self-love is all about great self-care, which includes eating well, drinking water, exercise, and getting enough sleep. It's also about nurturing your spirit by reading, learning, being creative, and more.

When you love yourself, you automatically feel worthy of love and will bounce back from disappointment and rejection much faster. All love starts with self-love, so when you love yourself first, it's easier for someone else to love you, too.

4. Be the quality person you're looking for.

If you want a man who knows himself well, is successful and takes good care of himself, you need to do that, too. If he's done plenty of personal development, then so should you. Lift yourself up to be a match for the kind of man you seek.

5. Enjoy a rich, full life.

Looking to connect with a high-caliber man? First, you'll need to live a good life yourself. That's part of what will attract him to you!

Think about the kinds of things you'd want to do together, and try them on your own now. Live fully while you're single and dating, so you are interesting and aren't bored, waiting around for that amazing partner.

6. Appeal to his masculine side.

The kind of man who is successful and decisive is usually more masculine. Learn how to attract men by appealing to this side of him. What works is relying on your feminine charm, being playful and flirty.

You can still be yourself, because this looks different for every woman. Let him see how smart and accomplished you are, but do not compete with him. If you do, that will be your masculine side coming forward, and you’ll end up in the friend zone as one of the guys — or not an option at all.

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7. Hold firm boundaries.

A confident woman maintains firm boundaries, even in healthy relationships. You know how you expect to be treated and you refuse to accept anything less or a man's excuses. The benefit of the doubt is only provided one time and not over and over.

You aren't afraid to weed out the wrong guys who don't cut it and have specific ideas on who initiates contact and dates, and when to have sex.

8. Let go of the wrong ones.

When you realize the man you are seeing isn't a good match, you make a decision from your head and not just your heart. Once a man proves he doesn't have what you're looking for, you simply end it and move on.

So, if the guy you're seeing cancels repeatedly, doesn't keep his word, or disappears and pops back in, he's no longer a viable option. This keeps your heart free to find true love with “the one” you deserve.

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9. Speak up about your needs.

If you need something or have a concern, be sure to speak up. Of course, how you bring up the subject or ask for what you want makes a difference. Be direct and use fewer words than you might normally.

In other words, get to the point without much emotion. Don't over explain yourself — just make it a matter of fact.

Try to never start the conversation with, “We need to talk,” which will scare a man and potentially shut him down.

You cannot have a healthy relationship if you fear discussing anything. For love to last, both people must be willing to negotiate and compromise. You might as well find out how he handles this kind of situation, if you plan to share your life with him.

The sooner you know he can handle an open conversation, the better your chances are for building a life together.

10. Learn what works in healthy relationships.

There is so much information and dating advice out there about what works best today. Take the time to educate yourself, so you avoid common dating mistakes that get in the way of your heart's desire.

If you are serious about finding true love, invest in yourself and your future by reading, taking classes, and even consider working with a coach. Experts can save you time and heartbreak if you follow their advice and leverage their wisdom.

People fall in love every day; the wedding industry is currently estimated to be worth $53 million. With over two million weddings annually in the US, you've got a great shot at finding a healthy relationship by following these 10 simple steps.

Hold fast, and know that true love is in your future.

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For over seventeen years, Ronnie Ann Ryan has been a love and dating coach for women who has helped thousands of successful single women with hot careers (but a chilly love life) find lasting love. Listen to her free audio program 12 First Date Mistakes That Ruin Your Chances For Love.