5 Ways To Make Sure Your Sex Life Doesn't Die After 50

You're in your PRIME. Act like it!

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We’ve come a long way, baby!

I’ve been watching "Masters of Sex" (I know, I’m a bit behind the news) and in one episode Dr. William Masters is shocked by a couple he and Libby (his wife) see coming out of their hotel room, because they have to be in their 70’s, and seem to be enjoying the sex that they so clearly can hear through the walls. 

The sexual revolutionist had his mind blown. (And, clearly, this is the tip of the iceberg if you're at all familiar with his and Virginia Johnson’s work).


Sixty some years later, and it’s not shocking at all. Boomers who were part of that whole sexual revolution have expectations about their bodies and sexual expression that previous generations never had.

We all are indeed, looking younger, feeling younger, acting younger. And most are not willing to table sex, despite hormonal shifts or other physical maladies that might be present.

In fact, with age comes experience. We know what pleasure feels like or at least have a sense of what it should feel like. We are often less self-conscious about our bodies. And if we aren’t yet practiced in asking for what we want, it’s certainly about time that we were.


Don’t give up on great sex!

With age is wisdom, and with that wisdom often comes a sense of humor about self and the other. Desire never has to die. We might think it does, but changing your mind about that one is powerful.

So give up that which you think you know. Open yourself up to having some playful fun again. And watch sparks fly!

So you're over 50 and you want to put some extra sizzle into your relationship? Here are 5 fun ways to spice up your sex life after 50:

1. No more quickies!



Take your time. Remember that foreplay can happen at dinner engaging the senses of sight, smell, and taste. And if you listen to music and brush up against your partner when you cook, said dinner also engages the senses of sound and touch.

These are the makings of a great beginning, middle, and maybe even ending!

2. Keep yourself limber.

Take a partner yoga class together. Keeping yourself limber outside the bedroom has the potential to keep the creative juices flowing inside the bedroom.

3. Shower together.



Take a shower together! Not that quick morning one, though that can be fun, and maybe can even get the juices going for later on. But how about a long luxurious one? Together. With soap.

Can't get much wetter, or slippery than that.

4. Try orgasmic meditation.

Try Orgasmic Meditation. It is a practice that can get you super tuned into each other. There is a stroker and a strokee, and involves clitoral stimulation done in a very particular way.

A contained way that allows for the experience to be just what it is. And if I'm making you curious, there is a way to learn more!


5. Lube, lube and more lube!


Use lube, lube and more lube! Forget the spit — that was maybe useful in your 20's. Yoni's Bliss (Yoni is Sanskrit for vagina and rhymes with pony) is all natural and has homeopathic ingredients that help — plus it's odorless, tasteless and feels like you!

And sometimes you need a little help, and sometimes you just want it. Having it by the bedside, (or wherever the adventure takes you) just gives you a lot more options.


Michele Brookhaus RSHom(NA), CCH is the playful creator of Yoni's Bliss, a homeopathic lubricating gel.  She believes ALL women are entitled, worthy and capable of juicy connections.