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3 Incredibly Sexy Ways To Keep Each Other Turned On ALL Day Long

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Sexy ways to make sure you always want sex

More sex = increased happiness. Yes?

Well, it’s a nice theory. But according to science, not actually true. 

In a recent study, heterosexual couples who were asked to double the amount of sex they had found that it actually made them less happy! ... Surprised? 

Well, it turns out, there's nothing sexy about feeling obligated to do the deed! ... Just ask any couple "trying" to get pregnant. Ask me when I feel like I have to clean my house! No one likes chores.

But pique my desire? That’s another story.

When I tap into my desire for a nice clean house, vacuuming isn’t so bad. And tapping into sexual desire first, rather than jumping straight into the act of sex, works the same way. 

What I'm suggesting is that by focusing attention on pumping up desire for each other, you and your partner will likely experience increased happiness and more sex by default.

Need some help shutting off the busyness and distractions of the day so that you can tune into each other? Here are three sexy and soulful ways to amplify desire:  

1. Look each other in the eye every day.

Gaze into each other eyes for five minutes every day. I know that may seem a tad bit intimidating ... but remember when you first got together with your love and you couldn't stop staring into each other's eyes? Try it again and you'll soon remember why you fell in love in the first place, and may even tap into new territory. After all, we change and grow.

2. Learn (and 'speak') each other's Love Language. 

Pick one of the five Love Languages and bestow random act of kindness on your partner honoring the way he or she feels most loved. Here are some possibilities:

  • Give words of affirmation by telling your partner how good he looks or smells, or a job well done.
  • Offer an act of service by taking the garbage out unasked.
  • Bring a small gift of her favorite flower or a love note in her briefcase.  
  • Offer quality time by going for a walk together to your favorite location.
  • Touch your partner in ways that you know he or she enjoys; a back or foot rub, perhaps.

3. Use your bodies to build intimacy in new ways. 

Sit together in Yab Yum pose (it even sounds yummy!) This is a common Tantric practice that incorporates eye gazing (from the first exercise) with touch, as one of you sits on the other' persons lap.

The practice is simply this: The man sits with his legs crossed and the woman sits on his lap facing him with her legs wrapped around his torso and lower back. And then you breathe together. The practice synchronizes your nervous systems and calms you both down and helps you fall in a rhythm together.

What truly makes us "happier" in life ... is connection.  

And I propose that true connection increases desire, which sparks more sex ... and that’s the kind of sex that puts a smile on your face.

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