People With These 3 Personality Traits Are The Most Likely To Break Your Heart

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Men And Women With These 3 Personality Traits Are Least Likely To Be Honest In Relationships
Heartbreak

Over and over and over again.

Here's the thing about dating and romantic relationships — nothing about either is easy. In fact, falling in love is downright complicated, especially because it all too often feels impossible to tell who any of the men or women you're considering getting involved with really are.

How many times have you had your heart broken by someone who, at first, seemed to embody the honest personality type you've been looking for in a soulmate, only to find out those seemingly trustworthy traits were just a carefully produced act designed to lure you in? More times than you care to admit, I’m sure.

That's because there are so many masks we all wear today that many of us are in a near constant struggle to figure out where anyone's mask ends, and their authentic self begins.

When we first start dating someone, we are not dating the individual, we are dating their representative.

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When we're first trying to establish a connection with someone, our common tendency if to try to present only those parts of ourselves we deem most captivating, acceptable and worthy of love.

But while we all do this to a certain degree, there are some people who keep dominant aspects of their authentic personality intentionally hidden because they know that if they didn't, any healthy individual would block their number immediately after their first date ends.

Since our emotional clocks start running the moment we first set eyes on someone, time is a luxury we cannot afford when it comes to sussing out the keepers from the heartbreakers.

The good news is that some specific personality traits are red flags waving wildly to let you know the person you're meeting is reliably likely to break your heart — and maybe even enjoy doing so.

These traits are quite visible within two weeks or less of casually dating, if you know what you are looking for, leaving you with more than enough time for you to “boy, bye” your way out of there and save yourself oodles of heartache.

Here are the 3 personality traits to look for men and woman who are the least likely to be honest about who they are and therefore the most likely to break your heart.

1. Self-centered

If you walk out of your first date knowing everything about this guy from the moment he left the womb to just before he greeted you for your date, I encourage you to lose his number fast.

It’s not a matter of oversharing. I think the more we know the better, and we should promote honest and fluid communication rather than the game-playing that happens so often. But — and this is a big but — if you know just about all there is to know about him and he knows nary a single thing about you, that signals a lack of asking on his part.

Someone who is looking for an equitable relationship wants to get to know you, and someone who is interested in getting to know you will ask questions.

They won't merely ramble on and on about themselves, monopolizing the focus of the date, and if you are on date three or four and this is still happening, it just further proves my point that you need to treat this person like a hotel fire — avoid elevators and walk, don’t run, to the nearest exit.

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2. Disrespectful

I have yet to counsel a woman who was in a relationship with someone who was disrespectful to others that ever worked out for the long haul. This is because someone who doesn't see respect as our divine entitlement will have no qualms about walking all over or belittling those he deems as below himself.

Disrespect can be a tricky one to spot right away, but have no fear, I’ve got your back.

They may seem to respect you at the first, but take notice of how they treat and speak to/of others.

If someone is rude or dismissive to a waitress or anyone else he doesn't have to be nice to, expect him to treat you quite poorly later on, especially when you disagree with him.

Also, look to his own personal habits. Does he drink too much? Do illicit drugs? Speak badly about himself?

Someone who doesn't respect themselves cannot possibly have a genuine respect for others. A lack of respect for self or for others signals an eventual lack of respect for you and your feelings. Do yourself a favor and don’t waste your time.

3. Unaccountable/lacking in integrity

Lastly, I am going to give you a two for one. If they fail to call or text when they say they will or constantly seem to blame others for the challenges they face, this is a MAJOR red flag, m’loves.

Accountability is a must in a healthy relationship.

Doing what we say we are going to do is important in all aspects of life, but especially when building an intimate relationship with another person. A lack of personal integrity and accountability means someone is prone to gaslighting others — employing that nasty trick of trying to make you feel like you are responsible or crazy for being upset about something they did — not to mention highly likely to engage in a pattern of behaviors that consistently let you down.

If you cannot depend on someone to pick up the phone when they say they will, how can you count on them to be there for the really big and tough times in life, those moments when you need them most?

Furthermore, a lack of accountability and manipulative behaviors like gaslighting are cornerstones of a narcissistic personality. Unless you want to watch as your love life becomes one giant, painful, hot mess of a situation, you want to steer very clear of Mr. or Ms. Narcissistic.

Time is of the essence when we first meet someone.

That doesn't mean we need to rush into assumptions or be overly critical, but falling for someone’s all too alluring representative is something I know each of us is all too familiar with.

Having the rug pulled out from under when they reveal themselves to be less than shiny as gold is disorienting, to say the least, but knowing which traits to watch out for can help you see beyond the mask they wear well before your heart has any skin in the game.

Keep your eyes open and your heart safe!

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Laura Brown is an intuitive reader, taroist and coach, educated and/or trained in Metaphysical Psychology, Energetic Healing, Intuitive Counseling, Sound Healing, Crystal Therapy, Soul Retrieval, Past Life Integration and Healing, Inherited Trauma Therapy, Kundalini Yoga & Meditation, EFT, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Shamanism and Cognitive Behavioral Coaching. Her work has been featured in Vogue, InStyle, Free People Blog, The NUMINOUS, House of Citrine, Elephant Journal, Mind Body Green and The Conscious Collective.

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