18 Powerful Ways Being Self-Aware Helps You Creates The Life You Want

You can't live a life you love if you don't know who you really are.

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If you want to create and live a life you love, then you need to dig into who you are and what you really want. It’s all about the mighty power of self-awareness!

So, what is self-awareness?

Self-awareness is the ability to observe ourselves and understand why we react and how we behave in our life.

Awareness encompasses not only accepting what we discover but it also helps us make informed decisions about the changes we want to make. Awareness is also the ability to be honest with ourselves about our weaknesses and strengths. Awareness is a toll that allows us to better manage our thoughts, motivations, and emotions.


Feeling happy or sad is one thing but knowing why you feel happy or sad is another thing. That’s where the beauty of awareness comes in.

Learning to improve self-awareness allows us to make better choices and curate a lifestyle that makes us feel engaged and alive.

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I am the first person to admit that looking in the mirror and seeing exactly who you really are isn't a picnic. There is a shadow side to self-awareness. This shadow side can make us angry or sad at our past choices. It can be hard to make peace with some of our faults and failures. It’s super easy to become judgmental towards ourselves, isn't it?


The thing is, though, making time to improve self-awareness is worth the trouble because without it, you are cutting yourself off from the very tools you need to, not just pursue your desires, but enhance the quality of your everyday experiences.

Here are 18 reasons why you need self-awareness and how it helps you create the life you want and a happier life, at that:

  1. Awareness allows you to make changes from an informed mind.
  2. When you are self-aware, it helps you pursue desires and goals.
  3. Being at peace with who you are is another reason why awareness is important to a quality life.
  4. Awareness helps you make better decisions.
  5. When you are self-aware, you will naturally have higher quality relationships.
  6. Self-awareness allows you to be a better communicator with everyone in your life because you are clear on your personal needs.
  7. Awareness is important if you want to live life with a clearer purpose.
  8. If you want to curate a quality life, self-awareness is critical.
  9. Living with contentment is a sign of being self-aware.
  10. When you choose awareness, it allows you to accept the responsibility of changing responses and behaviors to any — and all — external stimuli (people, situations, or life).
  11. Awareness allows you to not just reflect on the outcome of life situations. It allows you to be honest about your role in them.
  12. Awareness allows you to roll with life challenges with more grace.
  13. Self-awareness serves you in creating a higher quality of self-care.
  14. If you want a life that feels well rounded, you’ll need self-awareness to make it happen.
  15. Pursuing your passions requires a healthy dose of awareness.
  16. Folks with better emotional intelligence are typically very self-aware.
  17. If you want to learn to listen to (and follow) your intuition, then you’ll need to grow your self-awareness.
  18. Self-awareness allows you to be more authentic. Even if being true to yourself means you make "unpopular" choices.

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Self-awareness is one of those soft skills they don’t teach in school but you need to have a better life.

The choice to recognize the power it has to increase the quality of our life is worth the patience and the pain it will inevitably bring about. The beginning is easier than you might think. just ask yourself questions using the inquiry method.

You have other options. You can choose to ignore the opportunity awareness provides. You can choose to just go with the flow and not pursue a life that feels more nourishing. After all, the process to become more self-aware can be awkward and uncomfortable, and it can seem easier on the surface to just pretend life is OK.

The trade-off, though, is that the unease and discomfort you may feel is only temporary. In fact, those uncomfortable feelings are doing an important job — they’re alerting you to some aspect of your life that need tending or cultivated before you can move forward.


You deserve to live a life you love. In order to create it, you need to know the most important tool you have to do so: knowing yourself.

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Debra Smouse is a life coach and author who discovered that getting to know herself was the key to creating a life she loved. Get a free e-book from Debra as well as her bi-weekly love note with tips to creating a life YOU love.