How 'Over Him' You REALLY Are, According To These Breakup Songs

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songs to help you heal a broken heart

Are you still hung up or totally over it?

You did everything right and that … person … you once loved is now an EX. Except that he or she still lurks in those warm, dark corners of your heart, mind and soul.

Time to clean house: those places are YOURS. And since nothing soothes us quite like music, I’m offering you a musical cleanse to purge any lingering emotions so you can finally let go of your ex.

Ditch your earbuds. Hell, ditch your headphones! You’re gonna want to hear these songs full volume, in private, possibly accompanied by your favorite adult beverage (and maybe a tissue or two).

There are multiple benefits to flushing your ex out of your heart and mind with music:

  • It’s incredibly safe and effective
  • Rather than letting you stew in old, sad thoughts, music builds and rewires brain connections (neuroplasticity)
  • Your intention magnified by music is powerful enough to disconnect any painful memories from their triggers — hint: You want that!

So, get yourself ready for an empowering release. We're about to journey through the four stages of breakup recovery

STAGE 1: You're still FURIOUS! 

Maybe he stole your money. Maybe she cheated. Whatever the cause for the breakup, though your ex is gone, the residue (and anger) remain. Purge those toxic feeling by blasting these tracks on full volume. 

1. "Forget You" by Ceelo Green 

Although there's pain in my chest ... I still wish you the best with a ... F--- you!

2. "Before He Cheats" by Carrie Underwood 

I took a Louisville slugger to both headlights ... Slashed a hole in all 4 tires ... Maybe next time he'll think before he cheats.

3. "Somebody That I Used To Know" by GotyeKimba

So when we found that we could not make sense ... Well you said that we would still be friends ... But I'll admit that I was glad that it was over.

4. "Love Don’t Live Here" by Lady Antebellum

But honey I'm no fool and oh I've been down this road ... Too many times with you I think it's best you go ... Well I got one thing left to say ... Is you can lay in the bed you've made.

STAGE 2: You're sad but slowly moving past the pain 

"Gone, gone, gone…all gone" was how The Righteous Brothers sang it when they lost that lovin’ feeling. If your former Top Gun is now your EX, it’s time for some music to reclaim what’s yours: YOU.

5. "Stronger" by Kelly Clarkson

What doesn't kill you makes a fighter ... Footsteps even lighter ... Doesn't mean I'm over cause you're gone.


6. "Settlin’" by Sugarland

Take a chance on love and try how it feels ... With my heart wide open now you know I will ... Find what it means to be the girl ... Who changed her mind and changed her world.

STAGE 3: Oh, you are SO over it! Officially "moving on." 

Ain’t no party like the party when you’re free.

7. "What’s a Girl Gotta Do?" by Basement Jaxx and covered by The Cornell Chordials 

Full lyrics are here.

Drinking wine ... To take away your pain ... Collect all the tears you cry ... There's no need for pain.

8. "Wonderful Night" by Fatboy Slim

That the spot'll get hot, that it's ready to pop ... Don't even look at the clock, all of your problems forgot ... And it's time to rock 'till ya drop ... Feel the force and just flock to the epicenter ... Of the party's bass tremors, c'mon.

9. "Good Feeling" by Flo Rida

That flow, that spark, that crown ... You looking at the king of the jungle now ...  Stronger than ever can't hold me down ... A hundred miles gunnin' from the pitcher's mound ... Straight game face, it's game day.

10. "Make You Feel My Love" by Bob Dylan and covered by Adele

I know you haven't made your mind up yet ... But I will never do you wrong ... I've known it from the moment that we met ... No doubt in my mind where you belong.

Why that last track as part of "Moving On?" Because I like to end a playlist with heart. Meaning, yours. Open. Ready to give it up and try again. The lyrics are about YOU.

Of course, there are millions of songs you can use to exorcize the evil spirit of your ex from your life.

These are the ones I resonate with today, but that could change tomorrow. Doesn’t matter. You’ve got your faves and that’s cool. The music you love is just as wonderful as you are — so love yourself free of that ex-factor and welcome what comes next. Now you’re ready.

Bill Protzmann is a speaker and life coach on a mission to raise awareness about the power of music as self care. Want to join the music care movement? Check out the Music Care website or sign up for lessons.