Why You Need To Stop Blaming Your Boyfriend For All That Goes Wrong

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By Aurora McCausland

When our grandmothers were our age, courting men, and getting married young, it was expected that they serve their husband.

Luckily, things have changed.

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We no longer have to be waiting with a full cooked meal and pie cooling in the window sill when our husbands return. 

We no longer have to push aside our desires, wants, and needs to make sure that our man is comfortable. 

Men and women are starting to be viewed as equal. And women have begun to realize the effect and power they have over men.

They know they can walk down a street and turn heads.

They can walk in and command a room.

Women are beautiful creatures, and we are realizing our full potential.

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However, we tend to let that confidence leak into our relationships and we use it to our advantage.

If something goes wrong, it is most definitely not our fault.

Because you are a goddess, and your man is there to buy you pizza, take artsy pictures of you for your Instagram, and rub your back when you’re on your period.

And so if you have a fight, it’s because he is doing something horribly wrong and he needs to work it out.


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Although there is nothing wrong with wanting a man who appreciates you, loves you, and serves you, it’s important to remember that a healthy, functional relationship requires equal effort from both parties.

No, you don’t have to powder your nose and start cooking full blown meals... unless you’re into that. 

But if your man comes home at the end of a long day, and he’s exhausted, maybe you should consider biting back any complaints, and ask him if there’s anything you can do to help him.

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Make sure you’re investing time and effort into him, so that way you can expect it back.

What I'm trying to say, ladies, is that it's not always his fault.

Especially if you’re consistently having similar issues arise in your relationship, you may need to step back and reevaluate how you’re treating your man.

We obviously want to be doted on and loved, but so do our men.

Every time a fight starts up in your relationship, it’s not just because of your man.

I’m not saying it’s because of you, but we as women need to start accepting responsibility for our issues in relationships as often as we place blame on others.

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Aurora McCausland is a Utah-based lifestyle, fashion, family, and travel blogger, content creator, and host of Your Best Friend's Podcast. Her work has been featured on Unwritten, Huffington Post, and others. Visit her author profile on Unwritten for more.

This article was originally published at Unwritten. Reprinted with permission from the author.