3 Reasons Courting Works Better Than Any Modern Dating Strategy

Guys are easy once you know their secret.

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The act of courtship may seem old-fashioned but it's really not. In fact, it might just get you the guy of your dreams.

But how does courting work in the 21st century, with all the modern dating conveniences?

In some ways, it’s never been easier to get a guy. A few swipes right on a dating app and the parade appears.

At the same time, disappearing acts have never been more prevalent.

What’s a girl like you to do?


Getting a guy long-term requires a different strategy, one that’s been proven for thousands of years. The answer is courtship. 

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Here are 3 proven reasons courtship can help you get the guy of your dreams.  

1. Courtship is a test of time.

In a world of instant gratification, time is often the last thing you think of. However, courtship is a test of time and you can use it to your advantage.


One of the secrets to getting a guy and keeping him is to add the element of time. This means that contrary to popular belief, and for the best results, you get to know him, slowly.

The most valuable thing we have is time. When a man is willing to invest his time to get to know you and be with you, he’s signaling you that his intent is sincere and he cares about you as a human being.

2. Courtship creates space, which allows him to pursue you.

Men require space. In fact, any semblance of pressure from you can turn them into a major flight risk and they end up leaving.

The essence of courtship is one person chasing the other. Men love to chase — they just don’t want to be caught doing it. Knowing this will change your strategy and you can allow yourself to be pursued.


Space gives a man the feeling that pursuing you is his idea and he’s coming toward you.

For example, when you don’t call or text him or try to run him down, an authentic courtship can begin.

Courtship is one person chasing the other, and it usually works best when your man does the chasing.

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3. Playful courtship can lead to a serious relationship.

Never forget that courtship, at its essence, is playful. Seriousness at the wrong time can turn your courtship into a drama.

Flirting, dropping a handkerchief, smiling, and looking in the eyes are all playful acts that can lead you to something more serious.


Ironically, when a man feels that you have the ability to play with him, he will take you more seriously. The key to the dance is that by playing with him, he will be enticed to win you over.

Courtship is definitely a test of time, like planting a seed in the ground. It takes at least a year to get to know somebody and you want to see them in all seasons.

Music is created by the space between the notes. When you give a man room, he will be inspired to come closer to you. There's no better feeling than when your patience in this regard pays off.


Playfulness makes a man want to be with you more and more. It’s the joys and challenges in life that keep us coming back.

History is full of courtships that have stood the test of time. Use the secrets of courtship and you will be amazed at your results.

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James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after relationship coach for strong women based in Los Angeles who offers a free weekly Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, and tired of dating the wrong guys, connect with him via his calendar link to make finding time easy.