How To Be Okay With Being Alone

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How To Be Okay With Being Alone

Sometimes relationships just don't work out.

You may want one, but for the time being, you may be better off being alone. You will feel better when you learn how to be okay with being alone and realize that you can be happy without a significant other in your life. 

You don't have to always be with other people to find your happiness. You should be able to look within and be happy because of who you are. You never have to do things you are uncomfortable with or compromise on things when you are single.

Remember, relationships are a give and take. You have to be willing to put yourself in the position to work for their happiness as well. Whereas, when you are single, you don't have to put in so much work. You just have to put yourself first and take care of yourself above all else. 

It's important for you to make yourself happy. It's always a great time for you to do things because you want to do them. It's very good for you to take the chance at finding your own slice of happiness by just being who you are by yourself.

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I know as humans we always are looking for that human connection. But that doesn't mean that it has to happen right now — or it can come in the form of friends and family instead of a romantic relationship.

Instead of settling, being alone is a chance to find inner happiness. 

Just remember that in times when you are down, that you can find happiness within yourself and you don't have to rely on anyone else to be content in life. 

So here are some great things to do to help yourself become more comfortable and confident in being alone. You can rock the single life by taking some of these steps. 

1. Find out what makes you happy.

When you are single, it's a great time to focus on yourself and figure out what makes you happy the most. You can get to know yourself better and you can focus on your own needs, desires, and more. You can put yourself first this time, not others.

Always remember, you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. 

2. Take a social media break.

If you feel like you are left out when you look at your social media feed, then it may be time to take a break so you don't feel as lonely. You have to do what makes you happy above all else and figure out what works for you when it comes to social media.

3. Understand that you are good enough without someone else.

You have to have high standards for who you decide to date. When you have high standards, it shows that you know you are better off by yourself than with someone that is not a great fit for you on an emotional and physical level.

It's better to choose to be single than be in a relationship that is not challenging you to be your best self.

4. Learn how to talk to yourself.

Talking to yourself might sound weird, but it actually is very important when you are single. Just remember that it's more important for you to stay positive than for you to be unkind to yourself.

5. Do something different. 

When you are alone, you may notice that you get suck in a rut. Things may feel the same every day, without change. So, it's a good time when you are single to try doing something different and change your daily schedule up. Find something that excites you. 

6. Take a phone break.

When you are always connected to other people via social media and cell phones, it's sometimes a good idea to put your phone away and focus on yourself for a bit. Taking some time for yourself will make you feel better and you can reconnect with yourself.

7. Think about what you are grateful for.

When you look at what you are grateful for, you will feel happier. Take a moment each day and reflect on things you are grateful for so that the next time you're feeling down, you have a list to refer to that will show you that you do have something to be happy about. 

8. Value your opinion more, but listen to other people's opinions too.

Always be open to other people's opinions, but it's more important for you to focus on your own.

When you need help, it's OK to ask for it. Just don't ask for help when you don't need it or if you really don't want to hear what other people have to say. When you start looking to yourself for answers instead of others, you start not needing other people's approval. 

9. Don't be afraid to ask for help.

Sometimes to take care of yourself, you have to ask others for help. When you are overcome by stress, anxiety, and depression, you may need a push to get out of this cycle. Only when you actually want help will therapy work for you. 

10. Learn the good things about being alone. 

Learn that you can spread out and hog the bed or do anything else. You have so many more freedoms because you are not compromising with your partner.

11. Be an observer.

When you are by yourself, it's important to look at things in a different way. So, when you observe others, figure out how they interact with others and you will feel more connected to others.

12. Take care of yourself emotionally and physically.

Taking care of yourself is the best thing you can do when you are single. You don't want to let yourself go or loose yourself. 

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13. Appreciate silence.

In the world, no one stops. It's chaotic and we are always moving. Take some time away and step back. Sit and enjoy the silence because you need the quiet to learn more about yourself without any distractions. 

14. Start fresh.

Starting something new when you are alone gives you a sense of independence and the reassurance that you can do whatever you set your mind to.

14. Use your time wisely.

Always do things with purpose because you want to use all of your time as wisely as you can. You never want to do too much that wastes your time because you need to feel the goodness of doing something for a reason.

15. Rearrange your furniture.

When you are single, it can be easy to get stuck in the same routine. But, if you decide to change the furniture arrangement, then you can bring some new energy into your life and it will change everything up.

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16. Make yourself an awesome meal.

A great idea is to make yourself a great dinner with candles, a tablecloth, whatever. Make yourself feel special once in a while by putting in the effort to make dinner an amazing experience.

17. Do something out of your comfort zone. 

Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone while you are single will show you how much you actually are capable of. It's always good to try things you have not done before because it will show you that you may actually like it. When you are single, no one can talk you out of it, disagree with you, or say no to doing something. 

18. Be forgiving.

It's always important to forgive others so that you can be happier. You have to let your past hurts go so that you can reduce your anxiety, stress, and depression. Also, forgiving someone can take a lot off of your mind and make you feel lighter.

19. Make plans.

Make some plans for the future. It gives you something to wish about and something to look forward to. 

20. Take yourself on a date.

Taking yourself on a date is a powerful way for you to find happiness in being alone. Yes, it may feel weird at first, but you may get into it. It's just a way of becoming more comfortable with being alone.

21. Be creative.

It's important for you to find creative outlets during the time when you are single. You can lose yourself in your work and create something very meaningful for your life. 

22. Don't overconsume.

It can be really hard when you are by yourself to keep your mind from spiraling out of control. But it's important for you to not overindulge in something that could make you feel worse than you do right now.

23. Exercise. 

Exercising is a great way to connect to your physical body. When you exercise, your body releases endorphins, which makes you feel good

24. Love yourself.

Remember, to love someone else, you first have to love yourself. So, when you are single, it's a good idea for you to focus on your likes and dislikes so that you can work on yourself in a positive manner.

Making yourself the best version of you will make you stronger as a whole and it will prepare you for later if you get into another relationship because you will then be at the stage where you can love. 

25. Go to the movies.

Yes, it may be weird, but it is totally normal to go on a date by yourself. It's not something you do every day, so you can do something special for yourself. 

26. Find something to be passionate about.

When you are single, you can do things you like to do. It's important for you to choose something that challenges you and find something that you can be passionate about for the long term. 

27. Volunteer. 

It's important to get out and do things when you are single. Volunteer your time for something you believe in is a great way to get out and interact with others.

28. Go out in nature.

Go outside and enjoy nature. It's scientifically proven that in thirty minutes a week spent outside, signs and symptoms of depression improve and blood pressure lowers. 

29. Avoid comparing yourself to others.

It can be hard when you are looking at your social life in comparison to your friends. But you have to realize that you are different than your friends and what works for them may be too much for you. So, you have to stop trying to compare your life to theirs.

30. Accept Yourself.

Above all else, you have to accept yourself for who you are. At the end of the day, you have to live with you. Being single is all going to be fine if you are comfortable in your own skin and with who you are.

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Emily Francos is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture, and relationship topics.