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By Unwritten — Written on Nov 04, 2019
By Gabriela Mischel
We’ve all met that guy — the guy who tells us how beautiful we are, how special we are, and how pretty our smile is. When he tells you these things, you want to believe him. But, it just doesn’t feel right.
Instead of feeling appreciated, it feels like a line they’ve been practicing in front of the mirror for the last 2 years. It seems rehearsed and perfect. Thus, it’s not specific to me. And that makes it all wrong.
So, here’s the secret — we, as women, want genuineness, not movie lines.
Personally, I would rather have a guy tell me something ridiculously weird, but kind of cute that is specific to me as opposed to a well-rehearsed romantic line that feels generic. Hence, I have kept a mental list of all the nice things that guys have told me over the years.
Sometimes, they were romantic, and sometimes, they were just nice. I felt like I was being paid a compliment because they just wanted to say it.
So, this is a list of some of the best compliments I have ever received. If you are looking for something memorable to say to someone, feel free to steal one from here.
1. “I am proud of you.”
I am lucky enough to have some amazing men in my life. Hence, I have heard this multiple times from them. I remember every time it was said to me.
2. “I like your hair.”
I was sitting at a bar with a friend and this guy walked up to us simply to tell me that he liked my hair. He was on his way out and didn’t stay to chat or attempt to hit on us, he just wanted to make sure I knew that he thought my hair was nice.
3. “I can tell that you are an empath.”
At work, I try to hide my emotions and it’s very difficult at times. Having a coworker of mine realize that there is actually a lot more to me meant a lot.
4. “You’re so driven.”
Does anyone not like to hear that?!
5. “Your demeanor is calming.”
There are times when someone you care about is going through a hard time and there is nothing you can do but be there for them. And that can feel like you’re not really helping, so it’s nice to know that sometimes just being a calming presence is enough.
6. “You always see the good in people.”
Having someone recognize the small things about you, the things that you think go unnoticed. It’s a good feeling.
7. “You are too forgiving.”
I have a tendency to forgive people, sometimes too easily. While that might be a bad thing at times, I would rather be too forgiving and give people second chances than judge people way too quickly.
8. “Your story is one of the most important I have ever helped share.”
My friend and coworker said this to me when I decided to make a film about my struggles with anorexia.
9. “You make me want to be better.”
I have never been that person who wanted to change the guy I was dating, but knowing that being with me makes them want to be the best version of themselves is pretty cool.
10. “What can I do to help you?”
When I felt like my life was falling apart, my boyfriend (now husband) asked me this. And it was exactly what I needed to hear. Even though there was nothing he could do, I needed to know that I wasn’t alone.
11. “You make the best cookies.”
I am a certified pastry chef, so honestly, one of the best things is having that validated.
12. “You made the perfect cup of coffee.”
I take my coffee very seriously.
13. “I’m coming over!”
My wisdom tooth was infected, I was high on codeine, and incredibly miserable. I didn’t even know my left from my right, but he showed up.
14. “I’m so happy he found you. You make him happier than I’ve ever seen him.”
One of the nicest things to be told by my husband’s friend when we were first dating.
15. “You’re too good of a person.”
While I don’t necessarily agree – it’s nice to hear.
16. “You’re so much nicer than I expected.”
I apparently have what is known as an angry face. I became friends with someone who told me that I was much nicer than he expected me to be.
17. “You’re so nice.”
Someone asked me what time it was and I stopped to answer while other people kept walking by.
18. “You deserve to be happy.”
A close friend said this to me and it honestly meant the world to me. Sometimes I forget that I, too, deserve happiness.
19. “Thank you for being so understanding.”
When I allowed some flexibility in the schedule of someone I was managing at work while his wife was traveling, said this to me.
20. “You are glowing.”
A family friend has told me this a few times in the past few weeks. I’m happier than I have been in a while and it’s nice to know that it shows.
21. “I miss you.”
There is just something about those three words.
22. “I just called to say hi.”
It’s nice to know that someone was thinking about you. Even if it was just to say hi.
23. “I love you.”
I think that’s enough said.
While there are many other examples, these were the ones that really stuck with me. Sometimes, we all need to be reminded that we are loved. Having someone notice you for the things that make you who you are is special.
When someone compliments you and it melts your heart just a little bit, hold on to it. Even if it’s just a stranger being kind and telling you he likes your hair, it’s still nice to be appreciated.
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Gabriela Mischel is a writer who focuses on relationships, dating, and love. For more of her relationship content, visit her author profile on Unwritten.
This article was originally published at Unwritten. Reprinted with permission from the author.