What "Love Is Patient, Love Is Kind," Means According To 1 Corinthians 13, Bible Scripture

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What is love? People define love in different ways.

One of the most popular Bible verses on love can be found in 1 Corinthians 13 as written by the Apostle Paul, and it provides a model of unconditional love that never fails.

When it comes to acts of love, a woman might think a man loves her when he buys her flowers or takes her out on a surprise dinner date.

Some couples may think that gifts are too much and prefer acts of service as their chosen language of love.

Gifts of love are often ways people feel loved by another person. For example, a cup of coffee with a pastry from a local bakery might be a way of communicating care and affection.

There are all sorts of ways that love is communicated in actions, but what really is love, according to the Bible?

Is it something that a person has or does? Is it something that you feel?

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Apostle Paul wrote, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails..." — 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Can love die or does it truly last forever? As a Christian, do you think love is only about sacrifice and putting yourself last when serving the church and those less fortunate? The Bible talks about love a lot. In fact, the word ‘love’ is mentioned in scripture up to 310 times.

The most quoted verse about love is probably John 3:16. But, that Bible verse is about God’s love for us, not romantic love between spouses or people dating for marriage.

When talking about romantic love or ‘love’s test’ dating Christians can look to 1 Corinthians 13. Apostle Paul included this definition of love in letters sent to the Church of Corinth in 54 A.D.

Why did he write to them about love? People were looking for love and finding it in the wrong places. Paul wrote out what love is because it’s hard to define good love. Anger can change the way a person looks for love.

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The people of Corinth were politically angry and confused. Lack of trust in government can cause a sense of overall insecurity, so people who are searching for love can find it in the wrong ways.

Back then, people lead to self-destructive lifestyles. Paul had been there.

He understood what the people were going through because of unloving choices he made in his life, to the point of being a murderer. Before becoming a Christian, Paul’s life was completely absent of love, so he likely didn’t know what it was either. However, if he could learn so can the rest of us.

Here's how 1 Corinthians 13 defines what unconditional love is, according to the Bible scriptures.

1. Love is largely and incredibly patient.

English poet, William Langland, wrote in a poem titled, Piers Plowman, “Patience is a virtue.” a saying that we use to this very day. Why is that? Because there is an understanding that someone that shows virtue or is on the path of being virtuous.

That it all begins with the simple understanding that one would have to be patient first. We live in a day where being patient has become less common. We want everything to be fast and, in our possession, as soon as we say it.

While that Amazon Prime same-day shipping is a true sight to behold, not everything in life is going to be delivered to us in the “same-day.” In fact, it might take a while for whatever we have been working towards or wanting in life to manifest.

However, that is not said to bring discouragement it is stated to do the exact opposite! With loving ourselves, much like what Paul said to the people of Corinth, we need to understand that this journey called “life” is a long process and that we need to be patient with ourselves while we are on it.

Many times, we show amazing and large amounts of love and patience for our family or friends, but when it comes to ourselves and the problems or disappointments, we face there is not that same level of care.

We should continue to practice that, “Love is large and incredibly patient.” for others, but also as important we need to apply that same mentality for ourselves!

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2. Love is gentle and consistently kind to all.

I believe this is a big one we all face perhaps on an everyday basis in our current society.

Again, we all are willing to be patient and show love to those that we care about, however, what about those that have differing points-of-view than us?

In every conversation/situation we encounter with someone that has a view that differs from our own, what we still should do is love them and be kind.

There are few things more freeing than not buckling into a rage when someone we may not like disagrees with our opinion.

Much like what Paul said, we should be, “…consistently kind to all” meaning that we love/show kindness to those we agree or disagree with. Never being two-faced!

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3. Love never takes failure as a defeat, for it never gives up.

Whether we are facing disappointments in our own life or differing views from people we might not like, we should keep in mind what the end goal is.

The goal is to have a true understanding of love. We’re facing difficult things on an everyday basis, but we cannot give into quitting. Instead, we need to persevere.

With our perseverance, we’ll have a clearer understanding of how to be more loving in our lives and this will make us feel more complete.

Today, this is what Paul is helping US understand!

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Yeshuah Clark is a writer who covers pop culture, the Bible, and relationships topics.