Why It's Better To Marry Than Be Single, According To 1 Corinthians 7, Bible Verse

Love & Marriage In The Bible, According To 1 Corinthians 7
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When you get married you put your partner first, but what if you are a Christian dating who loves God more than anything else?

This is the struggle many Christians face. It's hard to be single, but it's even harder when you need to be with someone and it conflicts with following God?

What is love to a Christian?

Ask yourself this question, "What is love to you?" I want you to think about the most important thing to you. Whatever it is, ask yourself this question- how important is it? Is it more important than even your closest friends and family?

'What is love?" is a question that we all ask ourselves at some point in our dating lives. But what if that something you loved more than anything else was your relationship with God and your faith?

When you’re a Christian, you want to give your whole self over to God. Living in a society that promotes individuality, that can sound like your asking a lot.

But while you’re giving up worldly desires, your reward is eternal life in Heaven. It seems like a fair trade-off if you ask me, and there are plenty of people who would agree with me.

However, those same people can also, without realizing it, can become very small-sighted. It's not easy, actually.

Why should Christians marry?

The apostle Paul addresses the role of marriage for Christians dating that have difficulty prioritizing their faith over their fleshly needs in 1 Corinthians 7.

"Now concerning the things about which you wrote to me: it is good for a man not to touch a woman. But, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband."1 Corinthians 7:1-2

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Marriage requires putting each other first. Being a Christian can feel like this presents a conflict, also explained in 1 Corinthians 7:

"I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord." (1 Corinthians 7:32-35, WEB)

As the verse states, all Christians are called to a specific purpose. But, when you have trouble being pure, it's better to marry than to be single in fulfillment of that ministry.

That being said, being married when called to a certain purpose, your love life becomes a quest of fulfilling your Biblical purpose to God with a partner, while not compromising your physical requirement to sexual purity.

For the dating and married Christian, love comes from God and their faith is how they worship him, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing unless it begins to inflict more harm than good. 1 Corinthians also states that it's better to be single when you're committed to loving God, but that’s a different article for a different time.

For Christians, love is serving God and others, and when you're dating you are looking for a person you can love God with while serving others together. You remain pure through your commitment to each other, in service to God.

So, the "what is love" question becomes a beautifully complicated process during the dating phase, especially if you marry someone who has been called into ministry.

As a woman, it's a beautiful thing to see a man selflessly devoted to serving others in love. You can’t help who you fall for, and if it’s a man who only has eyes for God, then things are certainly going to be more difficult on your end.

Love changes over time, right? How does love change, according to 1 Corinthians 7?

Before you can even begin to attempt to, you have to understand a few things about loving a Christian and what love is in marriage.

1. Time must have purpose.

A Christian has NO INTEREST in any sort of temporary romance.

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2. A Christian that is committed to God and is aiming to live out his or her life faithfully.

Not only that, but s/he could even make the argument that Paul says it’s better to stay single (1 Corinthians 7:8).

And even putting Paul aside, there are plenty of other people in the Bible that were also single (although there’s some debate as to whether or not Paul was actually married).

Of course, the easy counter-argument here is the rest of that passage in 1 Corinthians, which encourages being married more than being single. Also, God says in Genesis that man shouldn’t be alone which is why he made Eve for (and from) Adam.

But even if you make this argument, that doesn’t mean their mind will suddenly change.

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3. If you are put first, their spiritual life will suffer, and so will your relationship (eventually).

There are people who have no romantic interest without religion, but when you add a cause or belief into the mix.

That’s what fills the void in their life, whether they realize that or not. It takes the place of where romantic love normally would be.

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4. It's important to respect their relationship with God.

Trying to change that within a person is a massive challenge. It can be done, but it won’t be easy.

It’s going to be a slow process. You’ll have to chip away at their life’s philosophy without hitting or destroying their faith.

While you’re doing that, also keep in mind that God will be No. 1, not you, and that’s not something you should not try to change.

Really, the best you can do is find a way to fit into a Christian's life without damaging their beliefs and go from there.

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Jesse Oakley is a writer who writes about love, relationships, self-care and spirituality/astrology.

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