5 Signs A Woman Has Climaxed

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Signs a Woman Has Climaxed
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If you've ever wondered if a woman has had an orgasm or is just plain-old faking it, this article is for you. The female orgasm is one of life's biggest sexual mysteries, and while many women know how to have an orgasm and bring themselves to climax, do men recognize those signs?

We questioned experts on what they considered to be true "signs" that a woman has had an orgasm, and we got quite a number of answers from experts who spoke bluntly, to ones who had more sophisticated answers.

Deep down, if you know a woman well, you'd feel comfortable enough to ask her if she really "finished," but even more so, you should be able to tell for yourself without question. Of course, sometimes a woman may fake it to please her partner with all good intentions, and others do so to "get it over with."

Hopefully, you're not on the other end of that latter circumstance. So, here's what the experts have to say about the female orgasm.


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1. An orgasm is more than just a genital squeeze.

According to Kat Trimarco, a relationship and sex therapist, spiritual coach, and a certified Erotic Blueprint™ Coach, "We normally think of sex as penis in vagina intercourse, and orgasm as a 'genital sneeze.' Sex goes far beyond just intercourse and can encompass pleasure in multiple ways that doesn’t necessarily even directly involve the genitals. Orgasmic energy can be pulsating through a woman’s body without actually reaching a sort of climax."

Essentially, each of us has a very unique sexual wiring, and for many this wiring includes appealing and pleasing multiple senses and even psychological needs and desires. Here are just some of the types of orgasms women can have: clitoral, cervical, G-spot, full body, energetic, anal, nipple, mind, sensory, and heart.

2. Just ask her.

Kelly J. Connell M.S. Ed., C.A.S.H.E, a sexuality expert for MyFirstBlush.com advises:

"The only way to know is to ask her. You can look for all the physical signs of arousal as they go through the sexual response cycle, but everything else is pretty easy to fake. Not all women ejaculate, and if they do, it is sometimes only a few drops and their partner cannot see it.

Toes often curl at the moment of orgasm, but again, easy to fake. If you are comfortable enough to get naked with someone — put parts of your body against or into their body — you should be comfortable enough to talk to them about sex, pleasure, whether they had an orgasm, and what they need to have one."

Preach on! And yes, sometimes, it's easy to fake that orgasm or have ejaculation that's not "major."


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3. Look for physical reactions.

Xanet Pailet, intimacy coach and author of Living an Orgasmic Life, gave us some physical factors we can watch for.

1. The orgasmic or sex flush

Sexual stimulation and arousal causes increased blood flow to all of the capillaries in the body, including those in the breasts and genital area. Many women experience a reddening of the skin on the face, belly, breasts and genitals during arousal.

While this sex flush can occur without orgasm, it often is very apparent after an orgasm. If you notice your partner’s skin getting flushed and feeling warmer, you can at least rest assured that she is very sexually aroused.

2. Body contractions and tremors

An orgasm is defined as a release of sexual energy that often results in a contraction and release of muscles in the pelvic bowl, including the vagina. If you are having sex with your partner or are using finger stimulation, you will actually feel the vagina contract and release during an orgasm. You might also feel the vagina open up even more during the orgasm, as the body relaxes and releases the pent up sexual energy.

Some women (and men) will also have tremors and contractions throughout their whole body when they have an orgasm. Although not impossible, these physical reactions are much harder to fake.

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3. Breath

This usually changes during high arousal and orgasm. Women tend to breathe much more quickly and deeply as they get closer to orgasm, and often there is a deep guttural sound or scream that emerges. While this can certainly be faked, if it occurs with some of the other physical signs, you can be certain your partner had an orgasm.

4. Use science to your advantage.

Nicole Prause, Ph.D. of Liberos, shared some serious data about qualifying (and quantifying) orgasms.

She said, "For a physiologist, there is only one way to tell a woman has orgasmed, and the physiology looks the same as for men. An orgasm is 8-12 stereotyped contractions that occur in pelvic musculature starting .8 seconds apart and increases in latency (between each other) until their termination. These can be detected most easily in the vaginal opening or anus. In the lab, we measure from the anus so that we can directly compare men and women."

Wow. Please don't start counting her contractions in the bedroom if you ever want her to continue to have orgasms with you... unless you two really enjoy experimenting.

5. She tells you.

Dr. Shaun Wehle, of Shaun Wehle and Associates Psychological Services, swears by only one way: "When she says, 'I'm orgasming,' you have a pretty good idea that she has, in fact, climaxed." Enough said... hopefully.


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