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Why He's So Shy, Per His Zodiac Sign

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Why He's So Reserved, Per Astrology

I don't know about you, but shy guys are incredibly cute.

I like outgoing guys too, but there's something about a guy who can't always look directly at you when you're talking to him, who stutters and blushes around you, that's just way too cute.

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Maybe it's because I can be shy – and do the same things when I'm around someone I find attractive – that having someone else be shy is a refreshing change of pace.

Maybe you want someone to get all tongue-tied around you for once instead of you doing all the tongue-tying and stuttering, amirite? Look, there's a lot of stigma around being shy, which I won't stand for.

I don't know if you've ever heard the same things I have, but I feel like people who are more outgoing and assertive about dating and expressing their feelings for someone they like is always doing it "right" while anyone who needs to work up a little courage before complimenting their crush is somehow doing it all wrong.

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Who says you can't be a little shy and still get with the person of your dreams, right?! Being shy comes with a lot of benefits, just like being assertive does. Of course, however you decide to attract someone can vary from person to person, it's always important to be yourself.

I mean, that's what your crush really wants, after all. Not someone who has to pretend to be someone they're not just to attract you. No matter how outgoing or assertive you might be, everyone deals with shyness at least a few times in their life.

Most notably, in times when you're around someone you're really into. Have you ever felt those butterflies in your stomach and felt your heart beating so loud you were sure that your crush could hear it from across the room?

You might not feel this way about everyone, but for someone really special, it might just be hard for you to concentrate when they're around. I remember once that a friend of my best friend was so attractive that I could barely function around him.

As soon as we were in the same room, my mouth would get completely dry and I would forget every single word I ever knew. I mean I literally could not think of one single thing to say to him when we were together – it was THAT bad.

And no, I am not exaggerating. It was painful. Unfortunately, my shyness around him didn't endear him, and we never got anywhere because I couldn't even talk around him let alone to him.

If he's acting shy around you, it might be for a lot of reasons, including the fact that he just can't think of the right thing to say to you.

It may take him a while to get over his shyness, but in the meantime, you can use his zodiac sign as a way to figure out exactly why he's so tongue-tied.

Based on astrology, here is why guys with his zodiac sign are so shy around you, by horoscope date.

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)

Aries is caught between wanting to marry you as soon as possible and not wanting to freak you out with how into you he is. So, if he's acting shy, it's only because he's trying to find the right way to say, "Hey, I want to spend the rest of my life with you (I think), but no pressure."

Once Aries realizes that he digs you, he wants to know immediately if you feel the same way about him. Maybe you do, maybe you don't. But if expressive Aries is acting shy, it means he doesn't want to ruin something good between you or scare you away by being too forward.

TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)

When Taurus dates, he does it right. He's the kind of person to absolutely love the courting period – the time when you blush at each other's words, he buys you flowers, and you go on adorable dates together. While he does have a process to wooing you, he still gets shy.

The reason he's so shy is because he's nervous around you. He wants to make a good impression, so he takes things slow and really enjoys getting to know you. He might be really good at casual flirting, but he's also really good at sweeping you off your feet like you're in a fairytale.

GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)

The reason Gemini gets so shy around you is because he doesn't know what to say. Imagine that: The man who has the words for every situation is tongue-tied around you. Trust me, he's just as shocked as you are right now. But it's also incredibly cute to watch, don't you think?

When Gemini gets shy, he's thinking about how he doesn't want to blow it with you. He's really good at flirting because he doesn't really care what the outcome is. But with you, it's different. He wants to make sure that he says the right thing, so you stick around.

CANCER (June 21 - July 22)

Cancer is on a mission to find The One. He takes dating very seriously because he hopes that one day, he'll find his soulmate. He's also the kind of person to believe in the "when you know, you know" adage when it comes to love. He gets smitten fast, so expect a lot of love early on.

If he's acting shy around you, it could be because he sees something really special in you. He always gets shy when he first meets someone, but if he's still shy around you after a few months (or years), it could be because he sees you in a new light – the new "potential soulmate" light.

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LEO (July 23 - August 22)

Leo is all about passion and grand gestures of love. In fact, he's so in tuned to his "love machine" side that there's not a lot that can faze him. He's seen it all – and probably done it all, too – so it can be hard to throw him off his game (in a good way).

But if Leo is acting shy around you, it could very well be because you've thrown him off his game. He's usually very good in ad-lib situations, but you've managed to make him stop and think. This is new territory for him, so he's back to feeling like a novice in love. Good on you.

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)

Virgo is very attracted to intelligence, so if he's drawn to you, it's because you've got some big brains. But he also has some seriously high standards, so if he's acting shy around you, it's because you've totally impressed him and he's kind of in awe of you.

Virgo absolutely loves partners who are strong and independent. If you can be witty, smart, and challenge him, you'll have his heart forever. If he's shy around you, it's because you have all of this and more – and he's a little intimidated by you (which is just how he likes it).

LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)

Libra is one of those people who loves that old school dating style. He believes in flowers on the first date, kissing under the moon, and sharing handwritten poems with each other. If he’s acting shy around you, that’s just who he is. He certainly confident and a social butterfly in most situations, but when he’s trying to court someone, he turns into an adorably shy guy who can’t help but blush around you.

Don’t let this normally-outgoing-turned-shy Libra turn you off, though. Once he knows his wooing techniques have worked on you, he’ll be one of the most romantic, caring partners you’ll ever have.

Love and dating make him shy because he treats every new relationship as if he’s starting over. He gets the first-date jitters, his palms get sweaty when he wants to hold your hand, and he gets shy when it’s time for that good night kiss.

SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)

Scorpio has a hard time letting himself feel vulnerable or exposed around other people, but there’s something different about you. Not only does conversation come totally easy to you, but he finds that he actually wants to share intimate details about his life with you – stuff he probably wouldn’t tell his family if they weren’t so nosy.

But these are weird feelings that he’s not totally used to yet. How does he know you won’t run away as soon as he opens up to you? The reason Scorpio is so shy around you is because he’s taking it slow.

He wants to open up to you, but he wants to know that this is a safe environment first. He has a lot of feelings for you right now, and he wants you to know that he’s serious about making it work. Shy Scorpio is SO cute.

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SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)

Sagittarius is usually VERY outgoing and expressive. So, if you’re able to make him feel shy and at a loss for words around you, you have to be something special (or magical, maybe). He’s also one of the bolder zodiac signs when it comes to love and dating, so there’s not much that can render Sagittarius speechless or nervous.

One of the most important things in Sagittarius’ life is his love of exploring and traveling. He hopes to see as much of the world as possible in his lifetime. Similarly, the reason he’s so shy is because you’re absolutely stunning.

He’s dated a lot of people, and come across a lot of different visages, but you are one of the few that take the cake. You’re like one of the Seven Wonders of the World to him and he’s in awe. Bask in it.

CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)

Capricorn is used to being around people who have to work hard to keep up with him. He’s the kind of person who will put his partners through rigorous tests of the heart, just to make sure that he’s not wasting his time with someone who will never end up being The One for him.

It might sound brutal, but Capricorn has some pretty high standards for himself, and he wants to know that you’re worth it. The reason he’s so shy around you, though, and weirdly enough not anyone else, is because you make HIM feel like he has to work hard to keep up with YOU.

Not only is he a little intimidated by your bad-assery, but he’s kind of in love with it. If Capricorn is acting shy, it’s because he’s been totally thrown off his game, and now he needs to figure out how to hook you for good so he can the other half of your power couple.

AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)

Aquarius loves meeting new people – whether they turn into more than just friends or not. But when he realizes that he starting to feel things for you that are much more than the feelings you have for your besties, it can make him shy.

He wants to impress you, but he also doesn’t want things to move too fast. He definitely likes being in relationships, but he needs his freedom, too. My point is, with all of the friends he has, Aquarius doesn’t get shy often.

It’s when he finally notices how different, intelligent, and all-around amazing you are that he gets a little nervous. Aquarius might not admit it, but he can crush pretty hard, especially if you check all of his boxes. If he’s shy around you, it’s probably because you intrigue him, and now he just has to know more about you.

PISCES (February 19 - March 20)

If you ask Pisces what he looks for in a relationship, he’ll probably pull out the super-long list he keeps on him at all times. Yes, he wants a lot of things from his partner, but he also wants to be a lot of things for his partner, too.

He falls for people easily (even if it never goes anywhere), so it can be hard to know if his shyness is just a knee-jerk reaction to meeting someone cute or if he actually has feeling for you. One reason Pisces gets shy (and you know it’s for real) is when he finds someone who understands him completely.

When he realizes that you’re not just sticking around to get into his pants – that you actually care about him – it makes him nervous because now he wants to show you that he’s worthy of your time and attention. Pisces puts a lot of pressure on himself in relationships, but once he warms up to you, he’s a great partner.

Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.